Maintenance and Divorce Laws In India

This is an article by Sumanth in Desicritics.org.

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Disclaimer: This article is not from an expert in Judicial matters. So, the author or Desicritics takes no responsibility whatsoever for any consequences arising out of following the procedures explained here.
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As I keep talking with many of my friends on the issue of divorce, child custody and alimony, I was shocked to find that most of them have absolutely no knowledge about the laws related to marriage and the court procedures. Many think divorce is just a cake walk and others think the woman gets 50% of the guy’s salary or even property if the couple have a divorce.

In India, family courts can pass an interim order on maintenance to a spouse when s/he is separated from the other spouse with minor marital conflict, with a decree of judicial separation or if one of the spouses has applied for divorce. So, a lawsuit for divorce or judicial separation is not mandatory to apply for monthly maintenance.

Interim maintenance order remains valid till the permanent maintenance order is given by the court during the divorce.

The maintenance amount is calculated (approximately) by taking into account the total monthly take home income (ie. without tax) of both the spouses. The educational background of the spouses, the number of years of marriage, number of children and child custody are also major factors, which govern the maintenance amount. Maintenance amount can also depend on who well the lawsuit has been fought by the advocates of both parties. The spouse with lesser income or no income can get a maintenance amount, which will make his/her complete earnings (plus maintenance) to be equal to 20% to 30% of the above total monthly income.

For example, if the husband has a take home income of one lac per month and the wife has a take home income of twenty thousand and they have no children in a marriage of 2 years, then the wife can theoretically get Rs.4000 as maintenance. How? The total take home income is one lac and twenty thousand and twenty percent of it comes to Rs.24,000. So, the woman gets Rs.4000 per month, so that her total income (her income+maintenance) becomes Rs.24,000.

If the couple have a child and the woman has the child custody, then she may get a maintenance amount of Rs.10,000 to Rs.16,000 per month so that her total income becomes Rs.30,000 to Rs.36,000 per month. Apart from that there can also be a judicial order defining the details on how the expenses for high studies of the child are shared. If the child decides to stay with the father after the age of 5, then the maintenance amount to the woman gets reduced accordingly.

If a woman’s income is at least half of her husband’s income, then most often she may not get any maintenance.

Similarly in a marriage of six months, if the wife is not working, but she has a masters degree and the husband has a monthly take home income of rupees one lac, then she may get a maintenance amount between Rs.8,000 to Rs.12,000 per month. Why? Because the argument would be that she has the capability to work and support herself.

Sometimes, the wife is also ordered to pay maintenace to the husband when the husband has a very small or no income compared to his wife’s income. In recent past, such orders are passed by high courts in Cuttack and Lucknow much to the annoyance of some feminists and media. But, laws have to be the same irrespective of gender. Is not it?

So, economically empowered women do not get maintenance or they may even have to pay maintenace to their husbands in case of divorce.

The maintance amount can get higher if its a long marriage. The parents can also claim maintenace from their grown up earning children. Even though, it is not clear, if they can claim maintenance from their earning daughters as today daughters have equal property inheritance rights.

It must be noted that neither the husband nor the wife can make claims on the property(residential or otherwise) of the other during divorce. So, some intelligent men make sure to get residential property registered only in their name, when they apply it through a bank loan. But, most other foolish men (being misguided by the builders) register the property in joint names, while its the man who pays fully for the bank EMIs. In case of marital conflict and divorce, the condition of such men becomes extremely miserable as they are already under a debt of rupees 20 lacs to 30 lacs and the wives make a claim on it apart from the maintenace they may get in the court. I know, some other men asking their working wives to pay for half of the property and loan so that the property can be registered in both names. These wives sometimes start complaining that he is asking dowry as they feel its only a man’s duty to provide for the family and the common expenses.

A woman or man stops getting maintenance from his/her spouse once s/he gets remarried unless they have a child. So, often women ask for a one time out of court settlement (or alimony) in stead of divorce. The man may agree to it or he can decline to it saying that he would prefer to give monthly maintenace.

For young guys (say techies within age group of 25 to 30) in marital conflicts, the maintenance amount given to their non working wives can be between Rs.2000. to Rs.7,000 (if they earn a salary between Rs.18,000 to Rs.50,000) provided they have no children.

So, often lawyers advise the women to file false dowry cases, so that the woman can force the guy to pay up a huge settlement/alimony (out of the court) in stead of going for a monthly maintenance. A monthly maintenance of Rs.3000 is in no way comparable to an one time alimony of Rs.10 lacs. But, the guy becomes bankrupt in such a situation as he ends up not only losing all his savings, but also takes loan from family and friends. He not only pays the alimony, but also ends up spending time in jail with his family, loses reputation, may be even the job, pays bribes to the police to stop harassing his family and the huge legal expense for bails and fighting the multiple cases. There is no way he can think of marrying again as he simply has no money to pay for even the marriage expenses. Of course, the painful experience can also keep him miles away from the very word marriage. On the otherhand, the woman’s dowry case is fought by the public prosecutor(ie. the lawyer from the State paided by the taxpayer’s money).

Its is alleged by some that the lawyers of both sides may also profit from this kind of a settlement. Its not at all surprising, if a husband finds himself cornered by his own lawyer, who keeps on pestering to go for a settlement, pay alimony, marry another girl (immediately) and live happily ever after.

The child is an important factor in a marital conflict, especially when the child is below the age of five. Fathers have natural right to child visitation. But, women can often evade the instructions/law and deny child visitation rights to the fathers. I have seen such fathers being allowed to meet their children once in a week or two just for an hour in the family court complex in Bangalore as in the police keeps dragging chained criminals into the vehicles in the background.

Today, as fathers get sensitive towards their children, it can lead to misery in case of a marital conflict, as there are no shared parenting laws in India and the child visitation rights may not get strictly enforced. This can mean, men may not prefer to have a child for many years in a marriage, if they have doubts on whether the marriage will sustain. They can also think of furthering their professional career in stead of spending time on bringing up the child. If the wife wants to have a child, then it can further escalate the conflict into a vicious circle, finally leading to a situation where the woman starts accusing the guy as being impotent. In year 2002, Media (especially the ToI-Let Tabloid) picked up such situations and presented it as “a lot of male Software Engineers are impotent”. God knows, why they are not with that story now-a-days and are in stead focusing on stories of casual sex in parking lots, bathrooms of IT and BPO companies.

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364 Responses to “Maintenance and Divorce Laws In India”


  1. 1 manmohan April 21, 2009 at 1:37 pm

    Sir, i shall be grateful for information on the following issue:

    My son and his wife had been a loving couple for the first four years of marriage. My son got stricken with Multiple sclorisis six months after marriage. He had no noticeable effect but during the last two years, he has some walking difficulty and weekness in left limbs. He earns 1 lac per month and his wife 55K after taxes. She is a MSc PHD. My son bought a 1 BHK flat entierly before the marriage. His wife is asking for a divorce. Are there any maintenance/property liabilities to my son?

    Please, please please reply on my msduggal@rediffmail.com id

    Thanks

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  2. 4 Kuldip Singh Lamba April 22, 2009 at 1:12 pm

    My sons wife parted company on her own accord and lived for just 19 days in matrimonial home in the total 48 days married life. She is a graduate with 2 diplomas in cloth designing and textile designing. She can earn her livelyhood. The most she can extract from her husband may not be more than 3K p.m.as per your calculations. My fear is how long will he have to support her in case she dose not marry.

  3. 5 Rishi Nayar June 13, 2009 at 7:32 am

    Dear Sir,

    Me my my wife living separately for two years after one year she filed case of “restitution of Conjuvial Rights”
    now in last hearing she has applied for the Interim maintenance,I have one daughter out of the Wed lock,
    Plz suggest can i claim the natural right the child and what will be the Maintenance court can grant her, actually she has dserted the hosue by herself and also after two years of Marriage we have filed mutual consent for Divorce later we planned to stay back.
    Now suggest me the best way as now i want Divorce from her.
    Thanks and regards

  4. 6 aanal September 12, 2009 at 12:07 pm

    3 years ago i hd file 498 and 125 case, both the case are pending..now can i file DVA and Streedhan case ? is there any rules for time limit in filing any case?

  5. 7 mili February 7, 2010 at 7:06 pm

    Hi

    I was physically abused by my husband for a long period of time. We are married for 10 years and bear 2 boys ( 6yrs and 3 yrs). Unable to bear with the pain, i was compelled to file for divorce and consequently left the country without my children. Meanwhile my children were with my husband. I was not permitted to even talk to them over the phone. On my return , i was emotionally blackmailed that the only way i could see my children is if i withdrew my divorce petition. so i did that. then we proceeded to file for sec 13b mentioning that the legal custody of my children will be with the father. I am allowed to visit my children for only 2-3 hours every 2 weeks.
    My question here is how can i keep my children overnight during weekends and through the summer vacation with me while the court takes its own course of time to pass the divorce decree. What is my visitation right during trial perios as a mother of the 3 year old and 6 year old?

    • 8 sam November 10, 2011 at 9:10 pm

      hi mili, according to the court laws. you have full rights of guardianship towards the boy who is 3 years of age. the hindu minority and guardianship act says that. if the child is less than 5 years of age.the mother has the rights of full guardianship over the child.

    • 9 Vinod Shroff November 26, 2011 at 12:00 am

      Mili,
      You can apply under sec 6(a) of HM and Guardianship Act, 1956.
      it reads ” …… provided that custody of a minor who has not completed the age of five years shall ordinarily with the mother.”

      You have right of custody, not Guardianship.

    • 10 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 2:35 pm

      leave ur children with ur hubby and find new life partner. u get visiting rights as these citation help u

      1 Paramjit Singh Lamba vs Prabjot Kaur AIR 2004 Delhi 318
      2 Manju Tiwari Vs Rajendra Tiwari AIR 1990 SC 1156-57

      for any query contact me on my email id siranjeetsandhu72@ymail.com

    • 11 Sam May 27, 2012 at 7:17 am

      Yes you can file for visitation rights under section 12. You may want to consult a layer for that. The visitation rights can be increased with time.

  6. 12 mark July 14, 2010 at 11:01 pm

    HI

    I filed for a divorce under exceptional hardship after 8 months of my marriage. My wife is asking for a huge settlement amount which I cannot afford to pay.

    We have been staying separate for two years now, Is there any law which can help me out getting a divorce as she does not want to settle on a reasonable amount.

    We have been having arguments in court for two years now. Nothing has been finalized yet, no maintenance but she has got Rs 2 lacs when me and my family members got bail.

    She is expecting around 25 lacs from me now and I cant afford it.

    Please help me out if there is some law or any mediation center through which I can get out of this mess.

    Your help would be higly appreciated.

  7. 15 RAM July 17, 2010 at 3:12 am

    Dear Sir,

    My brother who is an australian citizen divorced his wife who is a graduate. They have a son of around 1 year at the time of divorce.( The divorce of after a married life of about 12-14 years).
    The divorce is given by court in india on mutual consent basis @ Rs.30000/- per month maintenance terms till the child attains age of 18 years.

    He was under pressure and did not realise the consequences and okeyed it. Incidentally he is having debts in australia and is paying the monthly maintenance every month after lot of hardship. The lady has returned back to india and is india itself. My brother is now married to an other lady and is having difficulty in meeting expenses. They are planning to have kids of their own. Kindly advise .

    The lady is having good property. As such there are no other differences. Pl. advise.

  8. 16 KAUSHAL THAKRAR August 4, 2010 at 10:48 am

    I GOT MARRIED IN AUGUST, 2003 THERE AFTER MY WIFE HAS TRIED TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE BY EATING POISON – WHICH IN MEDICAL REPORTS SAYS THAT SHE HAS NOT TAKEN ANY POISON.

    THERE AFTER UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SO CALLED FRIENDS AND RELATIVES SHE HAS FILED A CASE AGASINST MYSELF AND MY ENTIRE FAMILY FOR DOWRY / MENTAL TORCHING ETC ETC AND TAKEN THE ISSUE THROUGH MEDIA AND NEWS PAPERS FOR ALMOST A MONTH AND SO.

    THERE AFTER SHE FILED A MAINTENANCE CASE FROM HER HOMETOWN.

    SOMEHOW THE COURT BY INADVERTANCE PASSED AN ORDER FOR MONTHLY MAINTENCE OF RS. 2500/- WITHOUT HEARING OUR SIDE OF THE CASE.

    WE HAVE FILED A REVISION PETITION BEFORE THE HEIGHER COURT AND HAVE WON THE CASE.

    NOW THE CASE HAS BEEN RE-DRECTED TO FAMILY COURT AND THE PROCEEDINGS ARE GOING ON.

    THE MATTER IS ALMOST 4 TO 5 YEARS OLD.

    AS MY WIFE HAS INSULTED ME AND MY FAMILY IN SOCIETY WE ARE IN NO MORE INTEREST OF GETTING COMPROMISE AND LEAVE TO GETHER.

    BUT MY WIFE DURING COURT PROCEEDINGS ALWAYS INSISTS OF COMMING BACK TO OUR FAMILY AND LEAVE TOGETHER.

    PLEASE ADVICE WHETHER IN SUCH CIRCUMSTANCE CAN I CLAIM FOR DIVORCE FROM MY WIFE ????

    YOU CAN REPLY TO MY EMIAL ID thakrarkk@sify.com

    • 17 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 3:07 pm

      never think of live togather with ur wife even in dream.u get divorce when ur wife feel disappointed and tired in course of fighting the litigation in court.

    • 18 kapil June 23, 2014 at 5:36 am

      how you won the case when you filed revised petition i am facing same problem right now.
      Kapil

  9. 20 Prasant October 17, 2010 at 2:23 pm

    Hi ,
    I got married on July 2009. Me and my wife were staying separately from the begining of our marriage, as she has to finish her enginnering .We stayed together atmost 3 month.We don’t have any child .

    For last few months i was noticing,she is not interested to spent the rest of her life with me as it was a forced marriage by her parents which i was unaware.She was showing her unwillingness to join me .

    She has filed a 498-a case against me and all of my family members.The intention behind this seems to be , they want monthly mantainance money till she gets a somebody (she might have got sb also).She can wait for 5 year also bcoz her age is only 22 year but i can’t .Once she decides to get a divorce they may claim huge amnt of one-time alimoney.

    We want to get a divorce asap by giving one-time alimoney as this has became a mental trauma for my whole family.

    How much % of take home income i have to give, if i lost the mantainance case.Once she gets a good amnt of money she is not going to give divorce in near future.
    Could you plz help me to win the mantainace case and also to get a divorce asap.

    Please reply to my email: naik.prasant@gmail.com

    • 21 A M Chauhan, IPS retd, Advocate,09925108633,Ahmedabad December 18, 2013 at 6:34 pm

      I can help u after seeing the papers,getting the details.

      • 22 raghav April 8, 2014 at 9:54 am

        my brother is going through similar charges . the girl and her family first filed false 498 a charges followed by one time settlement in family court again on same false allegations plus added more false allegations.

        i need to get legal advice . kindly get in touch asap

  10. 23 confused girl November 27, 2010 at 7:10 am

    sir,
    i have big confusion about my marriage. before 3 years i did registered love-marriage. after that having many family problems i couldn’t live my marriage life. after one big crush i am totally disagreed to live with that person.he has cheat me.
    till date i am leaving with my family. now i want to know that my marriage is voidable? and if not ,so what should i do for divorce? and if that person is disagree with me than what i should do..this is very big question mark on my life..please reply me soon.
    hope for favorable reply.

    reply me on
    tmmchhn@gmail.com
    emailid.

    • 24 Gurnani March 9, 2011 at 9:11 pm

      Dont be confused.Be Bold in Life…

      When you say that it’s a Love marriage.He also should have loved you…If he loved you,Even his life has got spoiled…Did you ever the considered pain he has/had gone through after missing you…

      What’s the way your husband cheated you?

      What are the family problems you faced?What is the problem with him?

      If any problem with him,try to counsel him with his friends/relatives.

      Are you Major by the time of your Marriage?

      The marriage would be void only if you married as a Minor.

      If he agrees for divorce,what are your next plans of your future?

      Is there any guarante,that you will be happy after divoce and remarriage when you are not able to adjust with your loved one’s?

      Try to explain your problems and make him to understand the difficulties you are facing with him…After all he is your husband…He will definetely listen you…

      Already it was 3 yrs you got seperated and he also should have suffered and changed alot…TIME CHANGES EVERYTHING/EVERYONE…VALMIKI A THIEF , CHANGED AND GIVEN US RAMAYANA …It’s after all a husband…WILL CHANGE FOR HIS LOVED ONE’s…

      Wait for sometime…Life is Precious for both Men and Women.That very few people will get a chance to live together with loved one’s

      Simple immaturities may make a person unbalanced.No human wants to be bad and spoil his/her life…

      IAM SORRY FOR A BIG LECTURE…DONT MIND,JUST TRYING TO SAVE A MARRIAGE…IT”S VERY CLEAR YOUR CASE IS – WHERE THERE IS NO PROPER CONSELLING FROM PARENTS/WELLWISHERS…THIS IS THE SAME CASE OF MY SISTER AND HER 2nd MARRIAGE AlSO BROKEN…

      Can reach me on advocategurnani@gmail.com

      • 25 BM Chandrashekar August 18, 2011 at 1:33 pm

        Really a great & soothing humanitarian advice to that girl by you . You are simple, sweet & great.

      • 26 Kamal October 10, 2011 at 12:26 am

        Thanks for your good advice.. Really it is absolutely true… I am completely agree with your opinion.. If this type of situations coming then both parties are suffuring and taking pain.

        All family problems are coming due to lack of meture thinking, good believeness, good understanding, proper obligation, right decision etc…

        But sometimes problems are coming due to improper interferance of others like woman’s parents, brothers or other persons.

        My family problem :

        Sorry to say that i am also going to similar problem due to immature thinking, improper obligation to me and my parents. Still her perents are supporting to her even everybody knows she is wrong. GOD knows why they are doing like this. They always want to see me down. even my wife also supporting from her parents side.

        My father is a retd. high school teacher and very humble. I am the only son of my family. I am 32 Yrs old now. I have a younger sister and got married. Now i am also working. I have married since 2 1/2 yrs. she is M.Sc ( Math ). her father is also working in shipyad, Vizag. Her 2 brothers are also working in MNCs and since 3 to 4 yrs they are working from abroad. so that they earned a lot. if we will go for tradition up to before generation then nobody educated except these 2 brothers. They all are very lier and crual and proudy. Always her parents and brothers giving spoon feeding to her. suppose if a small disturbance happened in between us today night then next day the same information has been informed to them over phone by my wife. then they are feeding some poison medicine to her mind and she is behaving me and my parents like a barking DOG. so that i will suggest her not to tell like this to me or my parents. but no influence fall upon her.

        Anyway still Me and My parents are loving her very much even if we are going through very painfull time. I am always thust to GOD. He is the right person to show everybody to proper path.

        Thanks and Regards,
        Kamal

      • 27 Miss Divine October 10, 2011 at 1:03 am

        Dear Kamal,
        After reading your comment I feel that may be things can be sorted out and may be they are not out of control yet. I would suggest you speak to her openly about your expectations and problems, and listen to her openly.
        If that doesn’t work and if you either end up fighting or can’t open up, I think you must meet a good marriage councellor. They are quite helpful in putting some sense in people and making them realise if they have been worng. If you love her and want to work on your marriage, pls do visit a good councellor.

      • 28 Vinod Shroff November 26, 2011 at 12:05 am

        Gurnani,

        well done, I appreciate your big lecture. it worth.

      • 29 Prabhu March 4, 2012 at 8:06 am

        Really great.

      • 30 rashi January 5, 2014 at 12:53 pm

        I Raise a FIR against my husband and his family as he left me and my 1 year old child in Pune, and went back to his parents. He emotionally physically financially and mentally harnessed me. At the time of marriage he was suffering from some decease, but he and his parents deliberately hided. After FIR within 4 hour he and his family members got bail. They are enjoying there life, I am fighting for maintenance. I am innocent still I am suffering. They should be punished, but they are enjoying. Please help me on it. My advocate suggest its a lengthy procedure to get justice. I have lots of mental stress. I am working, and such stress is effecting my work as well.I have my kid as well to take care. My husband is not supporting financially as well. Please help me.

      • 31 Advocate Atwal January 5, 2014 at 12:58 pm

        call me at 09699717999

    • 32 neeraj January 17, 2014 at 5:21 am

      I think u should ask him finaly if he is ready you should not put that black spot to ur future.u will b treated as a divorcy. Talk resolve it nd dnt spoil ur future coz of families.At th same time if he is not willing to live with u then move on go for a mutual divorce.and find someone tell the trueth start a new life but be carefull in choosing th next one. I also had love marriage arround 3 years ago .but we never lived together she just dint want to lose me thats why she tied me after her parents got to knw her parents said they will do it officialy.now they its been 3 years they are not sending her nd she has been requesting me to wait I dnt trust them I feel like shattered. nd m also confused wht to do… plz suggest me. By mailing on my id.

  11. 33 Rajeev Sharma December 28, 2010 at 5:55 pm

    I got married on 14th December 2006; my wife started harassing me from the day one. She did not allow me even to touch her with some hidden goal in her mind. So the marriage could not be consummated. There was no sexual relation between us. She stayed with me for 1-½ months only from 14-12-2006 to 12-2-2007 as she went to her father’s house 3 times during this period.

    She left the matrimonial house on 12-2-2007 willingly on her own with all jewellary & other items given to her by our side on Goad Bharai. She is now staying at her father’s residence for the last 3 ½ years.

    She with her father falsely accused of Sexual Incompetence just after 4 months of marriage i.e. in April 4, 2007 meeting. With these false accusations & other false charges she with her father went to Mahila Ayoug Delhi on 7th March 2008. The case was closed on 2-12-2008 as I provided Sexual Competence certificate from RML Hospital.

    When she did not come back to the matrimonial house even when two years passed a Divorce Petition as filed by me on 17-3-2009. Instead of giving answers to main petition she filed maintenance application under Section 24. By insisting court let them file first answers of main petition then decide about maintenance. By forcing again & again she finally submit answers.

    She filed for Maintenance under Section 24. Court orders – to give her Rs.4500/- pm as maintenance from the date of case file & Rs. 9000/- for legal expenses.

    A wife who has deserted her husband willingly on her own and falsely accused him of sexually incompetence she should not be entitled of Maintenance.

    • 34 Rajeev Sharma December 28, 2010 at 5:57 pm

      I got married on 14th December 2006; my wife started harassing me from the day one. She did not allow me even to touch her with some hidden goal in her mind. So the marriage could not be consummated. There was no sexual relation between us. She stayed with me for 1-½ months only from 14-12-2006 to 12-2-2007 as she went to her father’s house 3 times during this period.

      She left the matrimonial house on 12-2-2007 willingly on her own with all jewellary & other items given to her by our side on Goad Bharai. She is now staying at her father’s residence for the last 3 ½ years.

      She with her father falsely accused of Sexual Incompetence just after 4 months of marriage i.e. in April 4, 2007 meeting. With these false accusations & other false charges she with her father went to Mahila Ayoug Delhi on 7th March 2008. The case was closed on 2-12-2008 as I provided Sexual Competence certificate from RML Hospital.

      When she did not come back to the matrimonial house even when two years passed a Divorce Petition as filed by me on 17-3-2009. Instead of giving answers to main petition she filed maintenance application under Section 24. By insisting court let them file first answers of main petition then decide about maintenance. By forcing again & again she finally submit answers.

      She filed for Maintenance under Section 24. Court orders – to give her Rs.4500/- pm as maintenance from the date of case file & Rs. 9000/- for legal expenses.

      A wife who has deserted her husband willingly on her own and falsely accused him of sexually incompetence she should not be entitled of Maintenance.

      Kindly Reply : rajb366a@rediffmail.com

    • 35 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      she might have said u impotent verbally/orally in society just to defame u if she had given in written statement it may amounts to cruelty and defamation and may be good ground for divorce

      • 36 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 2:51 pm

        but ur marriage is not consummated and court may not count this as desertion(leaves u without just and sufficient cause)

  12. 37 JITURAJ February 8, 2011 at 6:09 am

    Boss do one thing,get second marrieg agin with a good girl,and do not disclose this to any body only your family aware of this,befor marrieg tell all throuth to your second wife to whom you are going to marry,tell her if she is a good girl she will never denied for marry LIVE YOUR LIFE and let the case running no problem, see how long they will fight with you,after 2….3…year latter they will cum to you and asking for compramise.but the IMPORTANT THIS IS THAT NO BODY NOW ABOUT YOUR SECOND MARRIEG TILL 2 YEARS.

    BOSS I AND MY FAMILY HAD ALSO SUFFER THIS PROBLEM,BUT NOW M RELAX NOW .I DID THE SAME THING .NOW M HAPPY.

  13. 38 Sandesh Mane March 21, 2011 at 1:27 pm

    Sir, I would like to have information on my divorce issue.

    I have filed a divorce case for separation from my wife. My marraige is 3 years old.We have got a kid having a medical problem and its with my wife. SHe is earning around 45000/- per month and my salary is around 1 lac per month. Till the date of separtion I have paid all the expenses for my child and even hers. I had even repayed her personal loan of 5 lacs which she has taken it before marraige. But still she has never contributed to my home expenses after marraige.
    Now she has applied for interim maintanence…will I have to pay it..If there is maintanence issue can I claim the 5 lacs amount I payed for her. I have all the proofs with me.Infact it was my mothers fixed deposit money. Wat kind of amount will come for me to give as maintanence to my wife. I dont mind paying for my child but is there ny way that I can ensure that compensation is used for my child only?.Please let me know.

    • 39 amit May 5, 2013 at 7:49 am

      you paid 5 lacs for her personal loan, that now becomes a stree dhan, you cannot claim back from her at any cost.

      Compensation for chid has to be paid but you can only verify if child is getting proper schooling, clothing and shelter, beyond that it becomes difficult to verify if the money is used only for the child.

  14. 40 Divya Bharathan April 6, 2011 at 11:26 am

    Sir, I am Divya, working in an IT Company-30K salary at Bangalore. My husband gets 60K. We have been married since 2 years and have a 6 month old girl baby. I’m only child for my parents. My husband and in-laws harassed me a lot and my parents. I had Placenta Complication and was on “Loss Of Pay” for 1 year. My father passed away due to heartattack during my Pregnancy period, due to my husband’s and F-in-law’s torture. After the C-delivery, within a month, he drew me and my mother out of the house with our premature baby. I was at my native at Coimbatore(Tamilnadu)then for 5 months. He didn’t come to see our kid, though I kept on calling him over phone. Nor gave us any financial support, though I was on LOP. I had taken Salary advance of 30k from my company. Not only that, he vacated the house and shifted to a new place and demanded->If he has to accept me and kid, then he and his parents demanded me that 1)I should Leave my mother and 2)Give them my full salary”. I couldn’t leave my widow mother, especially when I’m only daughter for her. Henceforth I came to Bangalore recently with my mother & my 6 month baby. Stayed in lodge. Searched for a house. Joined work recently. Since 6 months, after 4 counseling sessions went into vain, atlast per mine and the old house owner’s evidence and witness, the Police Filed FIR under Sec 498a and DP Act 3&4. Also with the help of lawye, filed for Maintenance(20K per month and 4 lakh compensation)in Court. He was arrested last week, under JC and released on bail. In today’s(Apr 6th 2011) court hearing, he didn’t appear. Instead his lawyer asked for time till 15th April. Though his office is near the court, he didn’t turn up even for Mediation. I was also not opting for “Interim order”. The judge henceforth ordered his lawyer to present him before court on 18th Apr.

    Its really pathetic when I keep roaming with my kid for justice. I’m really getting worried as how this would go about. Please help or suggest as how I should go about. Awaiting your valuable response.

    Regards,
    Divya

    • 41 Divya April 7, 2011 at 6:01 am

      Sir, please reply to divya_bd@yahoo.co.in

      Thanks again.
      Regards,
      Divya

      • 42 Siva April 23, 2011 at 6:32 pm

        Dear Divya, Unfortunately you have broken your marriage. What ever may be your story of harassment you should have done either of the two. 1. You should have discussed with your husband about a mutual agreement for settling your misunderstanding. Marriage is a sacred relationship which needs a lot of understanding and adjustments like any other relationships. 2. If a proper agreement could not have arrived then you should thought about separating amicably. Unfortunately you have chosen to file a false dowry case against your husband and made him to go to Jail. Now nothing can be done to restore your marriage. You won’t get any benefit from fighting in court. It is going to be more pain for both of you guys. At this point the right advise for you will be to help him quash your false dowry case in High court and ask him for Mutual divorce and some maintenance amount for your daughter and live in piece. Take a break and move forward in life and plan to remarry some one else who would suit you more and would be more understanding. If you chose to do anything else then its for sure you will be in more misery.

      • 43 humanbeing April 27, 2011 at 10:38 am

        Dear Divya,

        you have filed true cases if any cruelity has been done. you r educated & r working. people not earning also fight for their rights. y should you not fight against injustice. u tried for reconciliation effort. if it is not possible.. move on. there is no life without problems. join some support group who can help u. there will be difficult times in every one’s life. tolerating injustice is more grave crime then doing injustice. criminal must be punished to stop further crime

      • 44 advsushilkumarjain November 6, 2011 at 1:06 pm

        Innocent women will never file 498A, only GUILTY / CORRUPTED women files 498A who is SHAME LESS, FEELING LESS, HONOR LESS, MISLEADING, CHEAP THINKING FROM CHEAP CLASS FAMILY to hide the facts and her family sin. How can a man live and spend his whole life with such a women? Filing a complaint under section 498A is as easy as ordering an idli sambar to a road side vendor and actually, it is easier—the vendor may refuse to provid:e the dish but the police cannot refuse to listen to bride grooms. “Arey kanoon banane wale, aap ke ghar mein baap, bhai ya bete hai ke nahi? Let her proceed with the 498A,bcz the husband side conviction rate is less than 2% in all india and 0.6 % in Bangalore. There is remedy to FALSE 498A too:1) Criminal Defamation under IPC 500 for financial compensation 2) IPC 211 – is applicable (when a false 498a case is going on i.e. UNDER TRIAL)-(Imp : SAME COURT AND SAME MEGISTRATE CAN TAKE CONGNIZANCE- NOT EVEN HC/SC). The Result of husband filing 211 : If the husband side is convicted then husband side GOES TO JAIL (Convicted) – (husband side NOT loosing anything here as they are already accused), if husband side is NOT CONVICTED (Acquitted) then the WIFE SIDE GOES TO JAIL… !

    • 45 maddy June 24, 2011 at 1:02 pm

      hi divya.dont worry things will be right and steady be calm think wht to do..Kick that ediot..show me i will kick him..sorry to say that..but the way he treated he is not a human..dont worry…myself madhavan frm bangalore..i dont have any parents im an orphan…be bold and brave..if yu feel yu can call me or msg me my num 9019736400….. and also take care of yur mom come wht may happen and also yur child….

    • 46 Gopal August 16, 2011 at 12:33 pm

      1. This law is really pathetic and is causing divorce. If we look back to Our parents, they also lived together and adjusted there habits but they were never be under influence of relatives, especially women, because once a girl comes out of her fathers house she was taught to accept her new parents and family. This may sound as old thoughts but, this is a reality that the lessons which parents gave to their daughter matters a lot, whether it is year 1880 0r 2080. There is a reason why our parents are still celebrating their Anniversary, because the women knows that her husband is the one who will take care of her when she need and vice versa. Its not like husband is god, but he is your love and your better half as you filed dowry case though no dowry was taken by you. but to punish that cruel human being in the name of man you used the law to quicky punish them
      But things are changed, girls give a damn to a relation and can take care of there own. They dont want a relation and dont want in laws. They want freedom or so called SPACE in life. But they never realized they are killing a Relation by demanding something which is sometime not feasible to every one. She dont want her hubbies parents to live in the same house and dont want to respect them.
      Now putting such cases on husband who used to love her and filling all her demands is surly a cheating and betrayal. Elder parents who enjoyed their life are now facing such shock in the crucial years of their life. No one can imagine their pain and frustration. A girl whom they expect to be a family person tries to break, dis-troy their family. Poor husband, tries to make everything right but fails against SPACE issue and sick mentality. Apart from space issue this law is also used as blackmail and extortion. easy way to earn money or in other words Legal way of extortion. This is a criminal act to misuse such laws.
      Wakeup parents, especially girls parents, give some good thoughts to your daughter. Days are gone when people used to ask for dowry. Husbands are earning well and knows the law and if the girl is also working then let them go and enjoy their life. Dont break if you cant make anyone happy. Life is simple if we make a relation not just for the sake of selfishness.

      • 47 babu August 18, 2011 at 4:03 am

        wonderfull…. well said dear friend……

      • 48 prashanth August 23, 2011 at 10:03 am

        very well said, hope my wife reads it

      • 49 Kamal October 10, 2011 at 12:51 am

        Hi Friend,

        You are truely my friend who spoke true thing of life.

        GOD bless you my friend…

        Now-a-days allmost all family problems due to girls parents.

        Husband and Wife relation is very holy relation but girl’s parents are creating some unavoidable situation sothat the happy married life has been spoiled like me. Also i am blemming to my wife that she never believe me where as she never take any decesion from her heart.

        Regards,
        Kamal

      • 50 pintu November 8, 2011 at 2:22 pm

        it is realy wondeful thought everyone should read especially wife and his father.

      • 51 Shraddha Shah June 5, 2012 at 6:45 pm

        Hey…you man have habit of rule and dominate girls and her family..This tradition are coming from years..now time has chage

      • 52 sandhya October 14, 2013 at 5:52 pm

        hi gopal…..dowry abhi bhi maangi jaati hai, dowry demand abhi bhi poori tarah active hai. mere husband IT company me hain aur unke gharwalo ne isi baat par 10 lakh dahej demnad ki kyunki unka package 7 lacs/PA tha…..aur isiliye meri shaadi aaj khatam hone par hai…..so aisa mat kaho ki dahej abhi koi nahi maangta, jo log shaadi ke baad bhi dahej ke liye bahu ko pareshaan kare, un in-laws ki seva ladki kyu kare, she is not a servant

      • 53 Lipsa Dash August 8, 2014 at 4:43 pm

        Hi Gopal,
        aap sayad apni jagah sahi ho sakte hono,par koi bhi ladki ki maa,baap kyun
        chahenge..apni khud ki beti ki ghar barbad ho..yeh sab hote hai..bete ki maa ki insecure feel hone ki darr se..mere saas ki hisab se BETE BOHU KI KHUSHI baad main, pahele hame respect nahin mila..iski bare main sochiye..respect means dowry kam ho gaya..relatives ke samne hum be
        ijjat hue..bolte hai senior citizen..woh log hi unke jamane ki tradition,system batakar jyada disturbance karte hai..
        sorry,if I am wrong..

    • 54 Divya January 29, 2012 at 6:47 pm

      Hello all,

      I posted my query with deepest pain in my heart. If you say, girls family causes problem, then I should say no. There are at times when guys family also create problems. His father has 8 criminal cases in his name and that’s the result I am suffering. Father in law assaulting a Daughter in law is the heights of cruelty. I posted this when baby was 8 months old. Now she is one and half year. Still he hasn’t turned nor looked at the baby and have been harassing me extremely by his deeds.

      I posted query to the lawyers forum after waiting for long period only, had filed the cases. If it was your sister or anyone in my situation, that time all of you would have realized. I really didn’t want any of the people here to respond. Not all 498A cases are false. Girls especially educated and working girls are haunted and being harassed for money in certain families. Today am happy leading a peaceful life taking care of my mother and baby and I don’t want anyone’s Conduct Certificate as I am truly living per my conscience and know my father’s soul and God’s and my mother’s blessings are with me.

      I couldn’t tolerate when he raised his leg to kick my mother. When he bet me severly after Ceasarean. Tell me, is this Violence or Not? Recording, SMS, conversations, Printouts, Un compromising nature, Counting expenses for the baby, hiding Address, giving extreme mental torture, threatening boasting about his father and that he will murder me. Tell me if this Harassment or Not? Leaving home with 1 month premature baby, after my Ceasarean Operation in Winter at morning 4 am with my mother in a General crowded compartment, while he was happily enjoying at home under the comfort of wrapping a blanket around him and with his mobile trying to record even my compromises, tell me if he is Human or not?

      He told the court that he has taken LIC for the baby and can’t give maintenance. The court told that if something happens to the baby, the LIC money would go back to him right and he asked the judge “Oh is there any such option” and the judge replied ” You would not be too cruel to harm your own baby right?”, tell me if he is of good nature? His criminal attitude?

      He told the court that “He is going to resign his job and that he is going to keep a petty shop at native, and that I need to give him maintenance. In the name of his father, even last week, he send me a notice stating that I am not giving money to him. Tell me if this Harassment for Money or Not? He told that he cannot give me divorce simply because he wants me to maintain him. Tell me if he is Shamless or am I?

      I don’t want his money, basically because his money is also a poison like him. But Tell me if he is a Father? Just giving birth to a kid doesn’t mean you are father. Father should be in all means. I am there for my baby and do not want his or anyone’s mercy. Finally, I am good in Character and henceforth am not a girl who immediately agrees to someone who had answered my query in this post stating that he’s ready to accept me. I do not want life to mock at me.

      If his father has 8 criminal cases, let him have 1 more. My lawyer also atlast decided to file 498A case. If that case is against harassment and violence, let it protect women from such dangerous criminals. Basically, no one would prefer filing 498a case. If we have filed the case, it is due to his continuous threat that he is going to kidnap the baby, murder my mother and ruin my life. Tell me if this is Violence or not?

      If the law is not going to punish him, there is a power above all of us and that power will haunt him. For deserting the baby, am sure he would not have a chance to father a baby. Children are precious and just deserting because it is a baby girl is a Criminal offence only. Whoever protects him, please understand that tomorrow the same baby girl might become a great person also. We are no one to judge a baby’s future. That time, why law, she herself will question him. All his defenders, please understand that the 498a case has not been started yet. The police is very supportive and are truly realizing the value of our tears. If I fail or not, doesn’t matter, but tomorrow my baby should not question me why I didn’t do this earlier.

      I only wish people whoever see this forum, please do not harass women especially during her pregnancy period, especially when if she has to be on complete bed rest, taking bath in bed itself. My parents visited me during my pregnancy period and within a month, he killed my father. They brought the ashes and he demanded me property. After baby’s birth, he demanded me to desert mother completely and give my salary and belongings to him. Ask him to give my father back. All defenders and supporters of him, I agree, I shall withdraw the cases.

      Tomorrow my baby will not question me for leaving him, for ending the relationship, because though born legally, she is more or less like a fatherless child. If criminals like him start rising, there would be no family to celeberate a Wedding Anniversary.

      Till date, I haven’t done anything agaisnt my conscience. Committing a sin unknowingly is different, but keep on pricking and torturing is a definitely Inhumane and is a Sin !!!

      I do not want anyone’s comment because my conscience makes me do things. I am now happy with my mother and baby. Her smile and little pranks keeps growing me up.

      Regards,
      Divya

      • 55 Div January 29, 2012 at 7:36 pm

        Also please note that carrying a 1 month baby, I was hunting for him when he took my ATM card also and left home leaving me without a penny. Gave him 2 counseling sessions. Since there was no moral support, had taken salary advance from my company. Since they demanded mother should not come, I had to agree and arranged for a maid.

        He said “After eating for 10 months, I can’t spend for you again. Don’t try to get money in baby’s name”. I couldn’t tolerate that and went and paid money for baby care agency. That time he refused to give the address. Till date my belongings are with him and I don’t know where he stays.

        That time when I questioned him, he told me that his unmarried elder brother and his big gang of bachelor friends are staying there. I told how can I come to Bachelor’s room?? So all we relatives went to his native and his father and him stated “Divya should give her salary. 2) Leave her mother forever”.

        My company spend all medical expenses for me. For my father’s death,only 3400/- Rs was spent. He told he spent 1 lakh for me, 40K for my father. His father asked me “Why you didn’t travel to native”? I told” I was on complete bed rest and couldn’t travel”. That time he asked me “Then why didn’t you take your father to native?. So you wanted my son to spend for your father, so you let your father die here?”. I told him “Being only daughter, I had 3400/- Rs to cremate my father.

        I told atlast that he had spent only 10/- for my father for 1 Sorbetone Tablet and he corrected stating that he has spent 70/- for his Tonic.
        Am happy that my father was not alive to witness the scenes. Still they killed him a thousand times.

        Had to show all Hospital bills, Mortuary Expenses, Mother’s tablet bills etc. For baby’s 1st month consultation, instead of 200/-, he told his father – 2500/-. He had Citibank Salary Account. He opened an SBI account, started depositing money into that and told the Counseling People that Daily he spent 2000-3000 for my Food Expenses.

        Tell me a Pregnant Woman who vomits, how much food she would intake? If at all she takes, will it cost 2000-3000 per day???

        I was on Loss of Pay. I applied for Iron-Calcium tablets via Amway, however due to the high cost, canceled it. He took the Application form and stated in court that I have an Agency membership with Amway. I tried a lot to compromise thinking of the baby, however at that time also, he tried to record conversations, take printouts.

        I am not a Christian. He himself asked me to Pray to Velankanni. He himself kept a photo near by baby when she was born and stated that I am a Christian. Per law “If wife tries to convert to Christianity, she can be divorced without compensation”. I told him “Prove I am a Christian. Which church?”. The court told him not to pull religion unnecessarily.

        Even in Court he brings all account statements. We gave him 5 Counseling sessions, the court gave us 3 Mediations, I told him “Just let me live. Set us free. I shall withdraw all cases” and he told “I am ready to go to jail, provided you give me maintenance”

        I do not want anyone, whether men or women to undergo the trauma that I had faced. He earns 60000/- per month and still I dont understand why he keeps demanding me even after filing the cases.

        Still I don’t understand what harm I did to them, why did they do this to us??? My marriage was at Guruvayur temple. My father was a great devotee of Lord Krishna. Still all these happened to us.

        I am really not bothered about the comments posted here. If you hear the other side also, it would be the same. He would start discussing the Account Transactions and Recordings. He takes Color Printouts and highlights even simple things stated like once I told “Come atleast to bustand to see the baby” and he underlined that and told the judge “She has given me permission only till bustand”. The judge immediately asked “Now the baby is here right. Now why are you not looking at her even?”

        Likewise, for compromise I told “Let me be bad itself. You are good right. If you are good, please come home to see the baby”. He immediately took a color printout, highlighted with Green marker stating that she is bad. When I was pushed out of home with 1 month baby, I wrote for him stating “Please come to see the baby. Please do not have any vengeance on me.. Please do not hurt us. My mother argued with you. Forgive her.”, He showed that also to court and the judge told she had intended for compromise only. Please stop showing all these”

        All my jewels are there with him. He denies it. Fridge, furnitures purchased etc, the money for these was given by parents considering Packign and Transporting expenses, the bills are also in his name and he has the bills for all of them before 2 years. So I should say “It was a marriage forgery that he still has all the bills even for small items purchased 2 years ago”. Let him enjoy. However with both lawyers support, I could get my dresses and most of the kitchen accessories given.

        Even for baby’s1st birthday, I thought he would sent a small dress as parcel to home. That didn’t happen. But am happy that everywhere he told it is his baby and couldn’t tell anything against my character,

        One thing – It really pains when I have to bear the punishment that I do not deserve. For whatever comments posted here, I can tell only 1 thing “Not all girls hurt their in-laws and demand money. Not all guys are bad”.

        My father set a good example for me. He took care of his family and brothers well and my mother’s parents also. My husband set another example. So trying to forget the bad and take the good.

        If law can change him, let him do. Myself and mother are alone with a small baby, Ofcourse relatives are very supportive. It is left to God and to law.

        Please anyone do not comment, be it good or bad. I am trying to recover from the past, changed my location, trying to forget everything. However the posts answered disturbed me. Hence had replied.

      • 56 Sri April 1, 2012 at 4:57 pm

        Divya,

        I read what you put out here and the responses from others. Assuming all that you said here happened, I can only say that guy has committed a sin.

        Your case could be a genuine, but a vast majority in the urban south India, 498A cases are not, whereas in rural India and to a large extent in Northern India, we can find genuinely crimes committed against women.

        I have followed such cases for the past 14 years and I have suffered for the past 14 years and still suffering in different ways from an abusive woman. I lost my father and my brother was mentally affected when we as a family was abused in filthiest terms in public and our reputation was tarnished beyond imagination. It was proved that she had beaten my mother and taken away valuables from my house. I had repeatedly proved with facts and I get a judgement after 12 years that I am not guilty where the lady in question herself had agreed in the court that she filed a false case out of vengeance. But she does not leave me to my peace, but harasses at various places and keeps demanding astronomical sums like 2 crores as alimony. I am a normal middle class person earning around 17 lacs per year now and even that will go away because I cannot be working from now with my right hand not working. Someone else is typing this for me now.

        I fully agree that all women and all men are not bad. Vice versa is also true. I find it silly in this modern age, that a guy cannot have his old mother in law.

        I do not believe in advising you because each of us are entitled to our ideas and opinions and clearly capable of making right decisions. However, I believe in live and let live principle. Now at 48, I lost my active life and do I go after her and make her life miserable? I don’t because my parents did not teach such values and always I followed my conscience. To anyone reading this, my appeal as a brother is if one wants to still makeup and live with that other person, then do not file cases under 498A or DP Act because once those cases are filed, there is no going back. Families will go to jail either guilty or not and there cannot be any reconciliation after that. No counselling session will ever help. Think million times before filing the case. On the other hand, if the case is to be certainly filed and really filed, then no point in going back to that person again. Make up one’s mind.

        Now I might still be suffering from her, but I have a different life helping needy people and caring for my family. I also counsel couples having similar issues. I do not have regrets now.

        I wish your daughter and you a happy future.

      • 57 chanchala February 13, 2013 at 3:32 pm

        When a girl suffering from a big problem then she is only filed for 498/498A or something against their family. one of my close friend is suffering from same problem.Divya has same problem thats why she lodge an FIR agains her husband. dont worry divya god will give punishment. After marriage she is come to know that her husband is a mental patient. She did not tell to her widow mother because she don’t want to make her mother sorrow. but what her situation in short is as following”Date of Social marriage: feb 2012 Type of marriage :arrange From the 1st date my parents in law miss behaved with me.afterward my husband also make a torture to me. Always I keep silence, since I want some peaceful life. also I afraid divorce. I always afraid that if he give me divorce what should I do? where should I stay?our physical relationship is also very pathetic to me.he used to bite my
        until some liquid comes. he used to bite everywhere in my body. if I said its not tolerable. he angrily said “thats why I am not satisfied. What my in laws family says about my miss behavioral: on some day on the month of may my widow mother came to our in laws family to invite us. My mother trying to inform us but due to our(my husband my father-in-law including me) ignorance my mother unable to inform us. When my mother came my mother-in-law objected to my father-in-law in very rough language “why my mother came here without informing us”. This hurt me. I told my mother to go to my sister house. don’t stay here. My mother-in-law hear this and created noisy environment. Then I pardon to my mother-in-law.After ward when my husband and my father-in-law came she began to cry. That I am very bad girl. repeated my mother-in-law says this and I pardon to her. form July 12 we have no contact. They lock the door whenever I go to my in-laws house and send me letter including lawyer latter that I did not fulfill Hindu marital law. I went to my in-laws house without informing them they driven out.by neck also beating me in front of public place. This really hamper my
        prestige. Then I go to police and lodge an FIR. they took bell.”
        they took all the jewelries including from mother side also her necessary certificates.

      • 58 M.A. February 27, 2013 at 9:36 am

        Divya, Hats off to you. You have suffered a lot and good that you are coming out of it slowly but steadily. I hav got lots of courage from your post as I am also suffering from a similar trauma. Hopefully, God wil do justice to us oneday! Thanks again.

      • 59 anjum September 23, 2013 at 12:52 am

        dear divya, I appreciate you. wish you best of luck and lots of courage to stand strong in this rude and selfish world.

  15. 60 NB April 25, 2011 at 11:05 am

    Nice information..

    • 61 midhunlal August 31, 2011 at 12:46 pm

      Don’t worry Divya, things will be all right…seeing your and ur mothers condition he is really not a human being. We are there with u. As u informed, we find out his office, and conveyed his cruelty to his entire colleagues, management etc and hope u will be hearing the good news shortly that he will be losing his job and then he will be falling your feet as u told….!we will do the same in his home town too.. Take care.

      • 62 Raj rao November 23, 2011 at 10:48 am

        Dear midhunlal,

        We should not act by listening one side you should also listen to other party also. both the families should sit and discuss and settele the problem

    • 63 Nandu February 1, 2012 at 5:02 am

      Divya,

      What you did was right. I feel you did less. If I were a woman and if it was me in your situation, I would have not let him survive only. We feel sorry for what happened to you and your mother.

      Don’t worry, all of us are there with you. He deserves to be punished. 1 thing is for sure – Even if you have made mistake or not, the baby is innocent. Deserting a 1 month old baby, especially after your Ceasarean, pushing you out of the home and not turning up even now when she is one and half year and she being more or less like a fatherless child is the height of cruelty. He could have tried atleast once to send her some gift etc, especially when he knew your address. That doesn’t require any court order or any maintenance laws.

      If he has no love for the baby, definitely there is another woman. So demanding money, at the same time cheating his parents also, who blindly believes their son. You can’t blame your in-laws because it is the son who is playing the role and acting smart to them stating he spent money for you. Delivery care and mortuary expenses are considerable and should not be counted. It is his duty as a husband and as a son-in-law. As you said, there are innocent 498A men also in this forum. Your case is truly different. As you told, you don’t want any sympathy or reply, still am stating “May God bless you and your little one”. Thank God for saving you.

      If you try for a compromise with him again, the vengance personality in him can harm you throughout. Be bold and try to bring up your daughter well. Atleast be happy that you are taking care of your old widow mother and small baby, both of extreme age groups.

  16. 64 karthe April 26, 2011 at 11:11 am

    dear sir,
    Due to my worst wed lock if was suffered from her harassment,cruelty, ugly talking, giving continuous torture to me n my mother.marriage done in august 2007.before marriage she was completed B.Sc.B.Ed,now my mother took her to finish her with M.Sc,M.Ed,PGDCA.,between her studying years v both got lot of misunderstanding.so i applied a divorce (regarding the acts of harassment,cruelty,desertion)in the court on feb 2011,she leave the home with her jewels n certificates at may 2010 after exams over to her parents,after she got summon she attended the court n she summit the maintenance case n restitution of Conjuvial Rights case at her native place.the first hearing will be on next month. i don’t want her to reunite again.
    Is there any idea/advice for me to finish this case and get the divorce soon because of my mother illness n grand father illness.both are in the bed now for treatments and to better look for my future?

    please give some assistance for me sir.

  17. 65 karthe April 26, 2011 at 11:13 am

    dear sir,
    Due to my worst wed lock if was suffered from her harassment,cruelty, ugly talking, giving continuous torture to me n my mother.marriage done in august 2007.before marriage she was completed B.Sc.B.Ed,now my mother took her to finish her with M.Sc,M.Ed,PGDCA.,between her studying years v both got lot of misunderstanding.so i applied a divorce (regarding the acts of harassment,cruelty,desertion)in the court on feb 2011,she leave the home with her jewels n certificates at may 2010 after exams over to her parents,after she got summon she attended the court n she summit the maintenance case n restitution of Conjuvial Rights case at her native place.the first hearing will be on next month. i don’t want her to reunite again.
    Is there any idea/advice for me to finish this case and get the divorce soon because of my mother illness n grand father illness.both are in the bed now for treatments and to better look for my future?

    please give some assistance for me sir.
    Reply PLEASE GUIDE ME FROM THIS LOSS OF MY LIFE.

  18. 66 Jigar Joshi April 30, 2011 at 4:44 am

    hi my sister stayed in US with her husband for 7years as a dependent fr H1B and has a 4 year old daughter.last year they all cam back in india for a fucntion and my sister stayed back for a while with her duaghter,after going back her husband started making harassing calls like he dont want to stay with my sister,wants a divorce etc…this went on for almost 5-6 months and all my family member really got shocked with his behaviour..later with the help of one of my friend i got to know that he is having affair with one girl there and he is not responding to anything to us now a days…let us know how to go for the steps further..we need financial assistance form him as soon as possible and would like to nail him…

    • 67 Kittu June 26, 2014 at 7:19 pm

      Is your sister uneducated and unemployable? Ask your sister to work. She also has legal right in your father’s property so why can’t you support her?. Why do you need to beg for a financial assistance! May be this is what our laws has been reduced to. Of course, you should nail him if you can.

  19. 68 VSR May 3, 2011 at 6:05 am

    dear sir
    i was married on Dec 18 1999, we were blessed with a daughter in Aug 2001, how ever after so many petty quarrels and her insistence of separating me from my mother who is ailing and sr. citizen of above 70 years,i did not heed to her diktats, she finally gone away with my daughter to her parents house deserting me. i tried my level best to bring her back but she was adamant. for the last 5 years we are living separately, meanwhile 2 years ago i met with an accident (a bus in which i was traveling got turtle d), due to which my left hand was amputated, despite this, she did not care to even visit me. she hides my daughter and prevents me from meeting her. of late i filed for a divorce on grounds of desertion and cruelty, after a counseling session in lok adalat failed, this case is in progress now, she filed a maintenance case for 20000/- per month. i am not in a job and the house in which i am staying is on my mothers name. how ever i get some rent from other property which is in my name. my question is am i liable to pay her, if so how much, she in in her counter has written so many ugly narrations which are absolutely false, my worry is that will she file 498a though last 5 years no contact.how to prepare my self. can i file child custody.
    with regards
    pl reply to srirangvijay@gmail.com

  20. 69 ashish May 19, 2011 at 12:09 pm

    dear sir
    on 8june im compeleting 25 yrs of marrige and now she and my two sons has decided to leave me the age of children are 24 and 19 they are supporting theri mom n she is going to file a suit we boyh are ready separate but step is taken by her side im earning 10000/pm and she is earning almost 50 to 60 thousand /pm pl advise what will the terms of alimony & maintaince

    • 70 suffering women June 27, 2014 at 10:51 am

      omg after 25 yrs of mrg?it is better to support your children. They may be in big problem if both of you fight. every child want their mom and dad too. dont think about separation. think about your child sir.

  21. 71 deepak June 11, 2011 at 8:44 am

    my marriage held at 06.011.2009 and my wife not tell that she safariing from epilepsy for last 5 year, after marriage she live with me just for 4 mount on that time she pregnant, she go back to her father house and i go ask to her to come back my home in lat of time but she cannot ready to come with me and we have boy child in last 9 mount and after i go and ask come back to my home, but she cannot ready for that and i file to court for, asking i want my wife and my child, she”s lawyer come to court and take vakalat i get some nervous. so please guide to me for any think she file for maintenance and what she can do on this matter on my mail address ganeshgujjar@rediffmail.com please i am waiting for your valuable suggestion

    Thanks and regards
    deepak
    mysore

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  24. 74 anil July 19, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    RESPECTED SIR,

    I GOT MARRIED IN THE YEAR 2003 AND WE HAVE A SON OF 8 YEARS AGE.MY WIFE’S NATURE IS SO PEEVISH,EGOTIST AND ANGRY SO THAT SHE NEVER DISCUSSES ANY MATTER OR NEVER COMPROMISES.EVEN IN DAY TO DAY LIFE HER BEHAVIOUR IS TO RUDE SO THAT I WANT TO TAKE DIVORCE.WILL YOU PLEASE TELL ME WHAT WOULD BE HER RIGHTS ? I EARN RS.12500/- AND SHE EARNS RS.15700/- PER MONTH.CAN SHE DEMAND FOR MY PARENTS PROPERTY WHICH IS ON MY NAME ? IS THE SETTELMENT POSSIBLE WITHOUT COURT IF I GIVE ALL WHAT IS APPLICABLE AS PER LAW.
    PLEASE REPLY ME SOON ON MY FOLLOWING MAIL.

    THANKS.

    • 75 mannu October 10, 2011 at 6:22 am

      hi anil i can understend ur prb,my good wishes are with you after a long time after all u took a designee to live happy ther is only one diffrenc in bittven u and i is that i dont have kids and with the help of kind u and ur designee im welling to file a divorce on her so plz sir ur senear to me and im facing same setuation like you so plz tell me sesation u got on my mail iwll be thankful to you ,,,,,,,,mannu

  25. 76 anil July 19, 2011 at 4:24 pm

    RESPECTED SIR,

    I GOT MARRIED IN THE YEAR 2003 AND WE HAVE A SON OF 8 YEARS AGE.MY WIFE’S NATURE IS SO PEEVISH,EGOTIST AND ANGRY SO THAT SHE NEVER DISCUSSES ANY MATTER OR NEVER COMPROMISES.EVEN IN DAY TO DAY LIFE HER BEHAVIOUR IS TO RUDE SO THAT I WANT TO TAKE DIVORCE.WILL YOU PLEASE TELL ME WHAT WOULD BE HER RIGHTS ? I EARN RS.12500/- AND SHE EARNS RS.15700/- PER MONTH.CAN SHE DEMAND FOR MY PARENTS PROPERTY WHICH IS ON MY NAME ? IS THE SETTELMENT POSSIBLE WITHOUT COURT IF I GIVE ALL WHAT IS APPLICABLE AS PER LAW.
    PLEASE REPLY ME SOON ON MY FOLLOWING MAIL.
    drsamir.more@rediffmail.com

    THANKS.

  26. 77 Shyam July 31, 2011 at 12:18 pm

    true… not sure who said this, but it still rings true: Corruption has its own motivations, and one has to thoroughly study that phenomenon and eliminate the foundations that allow corruption to exist.

  27. 78 swati August 2, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    i am 28 yr old women who is employed as an officer in central govt . 2 years back i got married to my colleague . our’s was a love marriage. all was well till the time we were not accepted by my in laws. but my world turned upside down when they opened up their arms for us..now my mother in law keeps on telling me that my husband had a lot of affairs, had so many girl friends and as he is hasty in all things that’s the reason he married me…my husband doesn’t say any thing to his mother, i am the one getting all the brunt . i am so upset that wanna get separated from my husband. i just cant take it anymore. i am highly depressed and because of the same have tried to commit suicide also. please guide me as i just cant take it anymore. its so true when somebody said that a marriage is not of two persons,but of two families..
    i was happy without in-laws..but i guess they have accepted me to let me down and harass me to death….i am in great tension…please help..

    • 79 Miss DivinePrady August 16, 2011 at 4:09 am

      Swati, You are independant young girl, please don’t even think of ending your life for people who are not worth living themselvs. Be strong.
      I would suggest you first spend time to get yourself together, meet a counsillor if that would help; there is nothing wrong in seeking help.

      Once you feel strong and firm, You both can meet a marriage councillor and see if your husband opens up.
      Speak to your husband to let him know what you are going through.
      If its only the in-laws creating the trouble, then would it help living without them? Would your husband be ready for it? Don’t be emotional, fight, or cry. Discuss things in order to solve them, or get an answer.
      If you still feel the situation is unchanged then look for a good lawyer and file for a divorce.

      Look, you had a life before marriage, whatever happened in these couple of years should be just a big lesson, and nothing more than that.
      You will come out of it stronger and as time goes by you’ll even feel good about yourself that you fought.

      Don’t let things lead you, Just take charge.

      My wishes with you.

      • 80 surendra September 22, 2011 at 12:38 pm

        Look Swati, we understand your situation. Now a days girls are more educated, more intelligent, and why you people don’t use your brains? First thing, are your inlaws and your husband terrorists that you are scared about? They are old, mostly they understand and listen to you, by your behaviour, you can change them if they are wrong, or you have to change your attitude if you are wrong.
        This is my sincere advice, save your marriage with your patience. Things change with time.
        Any issues or advices ping me at kancharlasurendar@gmail.com
        –Surendra

  28. 81 sandsesh chouhan August 7, 2011 at 12:41 pm

    Dear sir, mera naam sandesh chouhan meri shadi ko 2 saal ho gaye hai par main or meri wife pichle 1 saal 9 mahine se alag rah rahe hai or usne mujh par maintenance ka case daala hai jabki main abhi sirf 1800 rupye mahina kamata hu or wo mujhse 3000 hajar rupye mahina mang rahi hai abhi tak main is case me present nahi hua hu kya aap mujhe thodi jankari de sekte hai ki mujhe agar maintenance dena padha to kitne rupye mahina dena hoga please mail me: sandeshchouhan22@yahoo.in or call me +919822450669

  29. 82 ashish August 14, 2011 at 7:40 pm

    I was framed under false 498a in 2003 and subsequently applied for divorce under mental cruelity. I got acquitted from trial court in 2010 and also got divorce decree from trial court under being subjected to extreme mental cruelity by my ex wife the same year. Now she has put applications in court for maintenance under sec 24 as well as 125. can somebody advice that if i have got divorce decree on grounds of mental cruelty against me as well as the charges of 498a being proved false..why should i pay her any maintenance? can i put defamation charges against her if so then is there any lock in period?

    • 83 puneet September 11, 2013 at 5:16 am

      No Dear , you not pur defamation chaeges against her.

      you can give me full detail on my id puneetgupta23sep@gmail.com with case no.

      • 84 kapil June 23, 2014 at 8:34 am

        Dear puneet,
        I got married on 12 may 2013 ,on 19 may 2014 my wife called her parents and went with them,on 14 june they filed FIR under 498,506 and 34,i came to know about this through my relatives that they read this in newspaper.I am harassed because of this as i have to go to court along with my parents as accused and after getting Interim bail i have to go to police station for investigation,i have not done any thing all expenses of Marriage were born by me i have details and proof of every payment made for marriage ,not taken any thing in dowry also .Please guide what to do so that i can sought it out,i have already spoken to girls parents gone twice to her home when they took her with them.Now what i am able to c they all did this for money,please help me out i got ur id from Maintenance and divorce from google,me and my Parents interim bail is uptill 14 July .Please guide what to do or if i have some rights.
        Regards

  30. 85 arvind August 24, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    sir
    i have a intercast marriage on dec 2008. my wife and me both are a public sector employee and she earn nearly 2000 more than me. i was mentally tortured by her nature and behavior. she is extremely aggressive, over sinsitive,jiddy, independent minded lady. we fight almost every day even on trivial issues. i have become so mentaly upset.we live separate from our native home. she dont want to compromise on any time even when my parents come for 3-4 days. i have tried many times to made understand her and counsel her but she didnt listen me and fight and blame me. so i decided to divorce her, i talk to her for divorce but she declined.please suggest me how can i divorce her easily and can she claim for maintainance. we both are living separate from nearly 2 months in different city. please suggest me.

  31. 86 Vishnu September 4, 2011 at 8:52 am

    Got married in 9th sep 2007. Having a son with age 3. MY wife has filled DVA against me. After that I had filled an RCR in family court. Then she had asked an interim maintenance rs 5000 for her & my son on 26.8.2011[while the judge ask her whether she is willing to live with me " she said she is not interested"]. Now on 9th sep the judge asked us to talk with him in chamber. Now can I ask for visiting rights?
    what should I speak in chamber?

  32. 87 Sanjeev Chauhan September 5, 2011 at 8:53 am

    I got married in the year 2001 and we have an issue, 8 yrs old daughter. In last three years my wife made my life miserable by putting all short of baseless allegation(illicit relationship) due to which she always humiliated me verbally and Physically. She even tried to commit suicide four time but some how I safe her live without any doctors help. She had filed false case against me on 18 May-2011 and putted me behind the bar.I got the bailed from the court and living separately from my life (I mean to say she left my house on very next day of my jail by collecting all her belonging). She infact humiliated many times my parent and relative and same has been comm united to their parents and relative’s , time to time. However, many adult member of my and her family did counseling jobs for her but failed to get any result.

    My daughter is with her and she even not admitted her in any of the school, i even approached her indirectly to provide all sort of support to my daughter so that her education would not be suffer.

    Almost five month have been passed she has not even shown any interest of coming back nor i think their is any such possibility.

    I would like to seek legal advice what should i do now, I’m planning to file divorce case against her on the ground of cruelty. What remedy I would get from the court or what else she may get from the court.

    Pl. send me your advice at sanji_1972@yahoo.co.in

  33. 89 S. M. Imam September 6, 2011 at 1:30 pm

    Hey, to every1,
    I married 5/12/09. I left her in my home 21/12/09. She stayed few days & left 2 her uncle home. she demanded when i come, then she wil come back. So I came & picked her 2 his uncle home. I stayed wid her 10 days in my home and left (1/3/10). 5/4/10 by panchayat she left my home wid a promise of that she wil be back in a month. She not came, delivered a baby 12/11/10. I tried, she not came. I puted a conjugal right 2/2/11. Her uncle putted a maint. & 498A wid someother law to. Plz advice.

  34. 90 sanju sharma September 25, 2011 at 8:19 am

    Hi,

    I married a Bihari girl from Bhagalpur on 2009,it was an arrange marriage.
    She had complain with me with my lifestyle and work nature,since i used to work morning to late night sometimes in a IT sector in bangalore.
    later she joined some call center and then i moved down to different city 8 hrs jounry from bangalore,she denined coming with me and lived 8 month alone in bangalore,later she joined me for 2 month and one day left home with all stridhan.
    she had told all false about me in her family and not returning or talking…i asked if you dont want to live with me why dont file divorcee and get separated but they are not giving or coming back to maintain the fakily life.

    i am planning to visit there home in bihar and take the help of there society(they have hidden this things with there neighbour and society),girl is probably staying in some different city.

    I dont want to live with her any more since she and her family was abusive threaten to my and my family many times.
    i am sure she might have some extra marital affair somewhere(i doubt her jija)
    I am in great stress and tension…i goy my half hair turned grey in this lat 8 month since she sleft home..guide me to get divorcee from this hell lady.

    regards

  35. 91 SRABONI September 27, 2011 at 10:46 am

    Hi,

    I got married on Jan, 2009. On June,2011 i blessedwith a newborn (daughter) . From few months before we are induldging with little quarells and day by day its increasing. So after a long discussion with my well wishers i have decided for a divorce. Pls. tell me the procedure to get it as soon as possible. But i want my babys custody on my hand.

  36. 92 raj pandit October 3, 2011 at 8:01 am

    SIR,

    I’M IN THE PROCESS OF DIVORCE AND MY WITH ASK FOR ALIMONY OF Rs. 15000/- AND Rs. 15000/-FOR CHILD, I HAVE A CHILD OF 11 YRS. AND I TAKE HIS EDUCATION FEE PER MONTH. MY MONTHLY INCOME Rs. 57000/-WITHOUT TAX. I HAVE 12 YRS. OF MARRAGE.MY WIFE IS M.Phil, B Ed. SO PLS GUIDE ME HOW MUCH ALIMONY WILL BE FOR THIS CASE. PLS REVERT MY ON MY MAIL IT.
    THANKS AND REGARDS
    RAJ PANDIT

    PLS GUIDE H

  37. 93 Ashish Mishra October 3, 2011 at 10:32 am

    Hi Sir,
    3 months ago My family married me to a girl she was not completed of 18 years. and I was also not completed 21 years of age. Unfortunately I was not able adjust with that girl. We donot have any child. I had conflict with my family and did’nt went back to my home from past 3 months. I can not continue with that girl anymore and any how. I dont want to get my family suffer of dowry related issue. So please kindly let me know how to get a safe divorce and are there chances of filing dowry or compensation related cases which girl’s family may file in court.

    Thanks & Regards,
    Ashish Mishra
    E-mail: austin.alex8@gmail.com

  38. 94 poornima October 14, 2011 at 5:01 pm

    hi,
    the period of marriage is 4 yrs.my husband is stsaying away from me .but he have sent the legal notice stating the interest of living with him.i have applied for maintanence case. i have a child ,aged 3 yrs.state the possibility of amount and the legal proceedings in it, to my mail

  39. 95 Karen November 5, 2011 at 5:22 pm

    HI I was wondering how things worked . I am a divorcee and did not have much of a problem getting through the divorce as it was a mutual understanding, with a pay off that i got from him and we had not children in 7 years of an intercaste run away marriage. However my question is about this friend of mine. He was married about 14 years back and after 2 years of an insuccessful marriage and two children one of whom is no more now. He left the house because the family did not support him and said that the fault was his. SO he left the house and after a few years one of the two children died due to some chronic disease. Now the man wishes to get settled and the wife to be wants him to follow a proper procedure. The husband and the wife have not been in touch since twelve years and there have been no genuine attempts from both of them to get things back in place. Now the family is unhappy with the wife who mistreats them . The wife is not ready for the divorce without which the husbands life is messed……..Please suggets what can be done in this case……What is the easiest way of working things in the favour of both the husband and the wife and the son who is no 11 years old……The husband earns enough for himself and has no other sources of income. He gets about 30000 pm and the wife also works in some school……What can be done in this case….

  40. 96 tinnu November 11, 2011 at 9:38 am

    Sir i got married in 26/05/2003 wife stayed for 2weeks later moved to parental house and came back in 2006 stayed for 2mnths later again moved to parental house and after 21/2 filed case of 498aand others among which is maintenance125 which is worrying me,after filing the case i havent appeared in the court what will happen and next hearing is on 3/12/11should i go or parents can appear for the same and what will be the charge i have to pay her please reply as soon as possible.my wife is infertile how to prove that.

    Thanks
    pramod

  41. 97 Sanju November 15, 2011 at 9:26 am

    Hi,
    I married to a girl through matrimonial web site,she left my house this year jan and denied to come back,now putting wrong allegation with Dowry,DV and attempt to kill her many times…god should punish such family and lady.
    i sent legal notice to her parents,in reply they framed whatever a legal terror people could do they filled all those in their return legal notice to me with threat that if i file RCR they will pose dV and 498 and maintainace on me.
    Please advice me what should i do? shell i go for RCR first to make my position strong when they file 498a or apply for divorce.

    Please reply

    Regards,

  42. 98 Rakesh November 15, 2011 at 9:28 am

    My wife is threatining me after i coughth her haviong sex with her cousin brother,both are from bhagalpur bihar.now onward her parents and she threaten me for false dowry and DV case if i scold or tell this to anyone,please let me know what to do.
    rakesh

  43. 99 meena devi November 24, 2011 at 9:26 am

    hi, my brother is accused for dowry and maintenance charges but he’s innocent . my brother and his wife married for 4 yrs and has one son (3yrs ) and now she asking for divorce and maintenance with huge amount and my brother not much educated(10th class) and now he doing security guard in company and monthly income is 5500 p.m and his wife(intermediate, good in english) is computer operator in e seva govt company recommended my mom and salary is 8-9000 p. m and we returned all her dowry in the women’s police station and now the problem is we are middle class family and we never tortured her , always good to her especially my dad..but honestly telling my brother have some bad habits that he drink alcohol , and my brother son is too much attached to my mom and dad and till now living here with my family and my parents gave 3 chances by compromising becoz of grandson .she filed case for divorce in may and we gave half of amount to her on that time worth of 1lac with 6 tolas gold and now 6 month passed and we hoped that she will return’d but she did not and filed for maintenance in family court in nampally ,hyderabad on 30th nov 2011 and divorce case also on 1 st week of December and what should we do . after reading your article i come to sense is that she gonna ask huge amount in the court from my brother coz before also she demanded for 8 lacs maintenance in women’s police room and refused and my brother agreed for all educational responsibility of child by him.and my mom joined his son in the school worth of 5000 rupees in nursery class but she didn’t send him..and now we are worried about my nephew future and she didn’t care about him and now she is with another man roaming around and never call and ask about her son health and how he is doing nothing.and her parents also not care about him…she just using as her drum card to take huge amount …so am asking is that what rights is my brother has to take my nephew custody and leave her without paying anything…plz give me good advise so i can help my family from her torture…..plz…my id is meena1521@hotmail.com

  44. 100 tejas November 24, 2011 at 2:58 pm

    Hi, I am accused for dowry and maintenance charges but i never asked for dowry. I got married for less than 1 year. Now she asking for 25 lacs that is really huge amount. My monthly income is 80 thousand per month and my wife is B.Pharm. So, She is able to earn monthly 15-20 thousand but she is not working. …plz advise me how much alimony i need to pay…plz reply nayan.kp@gmail.com

  45. 101 karthe November 27, 2011 at 6:33 am

    i got Exparty divorce from t devilklady t court expart me coz they didnt com to court for almost 6-7 counters in court.so the court rejected n exparty me from that devil.now with in a week they applied in highcourt to reopen t case in court,i dont know wt to do further.pls help me to get freedom from the devil.

  46. 102 Dhananjay December 5, 2011 at 5:59 pm

    Hi everyone. They say marriages are made in heaven. Then there is a book called Men are from Mars and Women from Venus..etc etc…. I am too in same boat like others. Yes, I suspect that my wife and her parents are preparing ground for 498a..just reading about this 498a. To brief, I am married since last 11 years. 2 kids, Son 7 yrs, Daughter 3 yr old. We all were staying abroad for last 6 yrs. During our married life of 11 yrs, it was full of small incidents, arguments..as if there is no harmony or say understanding at all. Still she continued or say I did not allow it to spread and got situation under control everytime. There were some instances where my wife tried to create so intense sinario, stressful situation, attempting physical struggle with me in order to may be bit me or push me etc etc…so that in return I should react, get angry etc….as she knows my nature is short tampered. LIke wise at some instance, I had to confess that, I used and slapped her, but honestly it was extreme case as if some child do… I read many cases on this forum where wife swallowed poison or trying to jump to suicide..but with intent…and then husband gets out of control and do not have any alternative to slap her in agony. Since last 2 yrs, I am observing strange behavior from her parents too… my wife is staying with them on grounds that she has fear from me.. but she is very much keen to have her money or finances etc.. secondly, my F-i-law wrongly claiming that he has funded me and my family in past… also putting wrong allegations in society on us… which was shocking. Initially I was agreesive but then got a news about something called 498a..and then realised that..is it all Cold blooded plan??? Are they behaving as if they have to prepare base for 498a? Mean while I tried many meetings, discussion with them, but all th etime they kept on inviting new people in that discussion and kept on distracting from main subject to always continue fight. Now my wife has said her stand of divorce, where I refused to give. In that situation, she is trying her best to annoy me,…as usual my new house in on joint name… she is trying for me not to live there… in the similar way, talking legal language some time… I got a feel that, they have some thought just to threaten us about their view..as separation is always difficult and not desirable… we are simple people and now a days started staying alert after these attempts from her… my bottom line was, for 2 kids, we both should surrender and try to live together… but she is not listening. Somehow, parents are more pushing with the intent of money. I do not want any councelling here…but is there any precaution that I should take now on to avoid any thing like 498a or etc? Eg. I started staying in my new house..and also kept financing my wife for her needs… In presence of all, I apologised here and invited to start fresh life. But things are not working out… Your comments please..

    • 103 Pradnyaa December 9, 2011 at 6:26 am

      Dear Dhananjay,
      I have no knowledge of any legalities but can suggest you a few things from what I have seen around. There were 2 cases of 498A in my relatives, and in both the cases there was no actual violance. One can just files a case like that without anything actually happening, and without any proof. In such a case you need to prove how you were not involved in it.
      Since you know that your wife is building such a ground, I would suggest you involve maximum relatives and other people in it and let them know your side so later they can stand by you.
      I have read that If a house is on joint name and husband is paying EMIs then the house does belong to the husband.
      I would also suggest you keep records of all the help/finances you are providing to her, like cheques or bank statements.
      Since you know she is tackling it legally, I would suggest you too take some help.
      My good wishes for whatever is best for you and the kids.

    • 104 ravinder January 10, 2012 at 7:10 pm

      bro i m in a same situation in yuu are if got some information or plz guide me as well may GOD give u strength to tackle such odd situation in life…my id is rsingh08315@gmail.com.

  47. 105 Partha December 6, 2011 at 3:26 pm

    Dear Sir,
    I shall be grateful if I get the proper answer.
    Ive been falsely accused by 498A & 406. Before that I filed a separation case.Now both of us want to withdraw the cases & go for mutual divorce.
    Now before withdrawing the case our lawyer advised us to make an notoriesed agreement for her one time maintenance.So is the notary justified for future?Can she further claim for maintenance if she sign in agreement with notary?

  48. 106 swapna December 14, 2011 at 2:31 pm

    Hi, i am married 3yrs back.It was almost 9 months that i came out from my husbands house.i filed for divorce.he is not attending the hearings.so i will get the divorce in few days.Till now i didnot filed for maintanance.Can i file for maintanance after i got the divorce or should i file before getting divorce?If i file after getting divorce will he pay me?He is a goverment employee.He is drawing Rs.20000.How much i get the maintanance?Till now i didnot put any case on him.He dint even treat me like a human being for those 3years.I struggled a lot when i was in their home with him and his mother.Please advice me.

  49. 107 trisha December 22, 2011 at 2:02 pm

    I got mutual divorce 4 yrs back my ex is giving maintenance for our daughter rs4000 p.m ,at the time of divorce i agreed to a point that i wont ask for any maintenance after divorce for myself. i am very educated but still not doing job to look after my daughter. can i file for maintenance for myself now? he is well settled and has remarried. kindly reply in my mail id purplemind 2008@yahoo.com.

    • 108 Vinod Shroff December 23, 2011 at 7:14 am

      YES
      With change in circumstances, and incresed cost of Education, residence & food ec, you can file case 4 ur mtnn, and court will allow.

    • 109 vijay srirang December 23, 2011 at 12:10 pm

      At the onset, i feel sad that you are seperated but for what so ever be the reason if you are refusing to cohabitate with your husband despite he inviting it tantamounts to adamency and cruelity, even then he is paying your child, thats his duty but 4000 is on higher side, you are educated and can do job, then why are you trying to extort from him, its not fair, also you must honour child visitation rights failing which this allowance may further be reduced.
      vijay

  50. 110 Sandy December 29, 2011 at 6:37 am

    My brother has in hand salary of 42000.per month. Her wife filed a divorce. After 3 months of marriage she left husband and her parents filed case for alimony after 10 months of marriage. Her wife is Msc in computers and doesnt work. How much alimony will he has to give her (apprx). Both r from punjab.

  51. 111 David December 31, 2011 at 4:33 am

    Dear Sir,

    I married in 1994, lived together for 6 months only. No children at all. My wife is working as bank clerk and gets about 25k per month in a small town of Haryana. I filed for divorce and she filed for ‘stree-dhana’. I lost divorce case and she lost her ‘stree-dhana’ case. Both cases now appealed in HC and under trail. So far she did not ask any maintenance at all. Now I have a big job offer which I can get up to 1.3 lakh per month as pharmacist. My question is – can she file any new case now? after 17 years of separation? based on my higher status now?

    Do you think ‘no children/ only 6 month marriage’ will prevent her in getting the alimony?

  52. 112 ravinder January 10, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    We know each other 1 yr before our marriage and my drinking habbit.We had a love marriage in 2005 and blessed with a baby girl, we both were working before the marriage but after marriage she quit and i was the earning member, she did not want to live with my parents, so we had a nuclear family, she started fighting with me on different issues and gave threat to suicide every alternate days and used to go her parent house occassionally. In 2009 i lost my job and tried to start my own business which didnt work out. Then she also joined job and asked me to take care of our daughter but she hadnt had enough salary to meet expenses i sold my car and ask my retired father for some assistance. I paid all the educational and medical expenses of my kid some how being unemplyed till date from part time trading in share mkt. But she keep on humilliating me and didnt give up fight and went back to her parents they also dialed 100 for home violence, Despite all these hummilation i asked her to come back.I admitted my kid in school till date i am giving fee and spend on various household. Now suddenlly she asked me to leave and repay her credit card which i was paying earlier and loan outstanding on her name which is spend at home and some of it i lost it in stocks honestly. I told her not to worry i ll repay the loan some how.But she is asked me divorce and to leave which i have already left because of hummilation and her mother has come to take care of my daughter, almost after 8 yrs i left with no job and no home and missing my daughter very badly, she asked me to not come back till she filled for divorce. Her father is asking for a mutual divorce and repayment of personal loan and i am agreed to that also. I dont want to bother her financially as i still love her but now i also dont want to live with her. kindly guide me as i am also in financial crunch if she still act the way she did in 8 yrs i ll be in trouble badly emotionally. I really wanna do something for my kid in future.Despite all these yrs hummilation and mental harrasment i havent lost my keep on going attitude in life i dont wanna loose it further in life.They are consulting a lawyer i also need guidance now so plz guide me.

    • 113 Ravinder January 17, 2012 at 9:43 am

      I called her father that politly and took permission to visit at home to take few of my things, he agreed on that normally but when i reached there my wife started riots and threatened me to call police, i got shocked i called up her father and he also repeated the same words.I silently came back. Was that a trap??? Her father told me its a mutual consent divorce and i need to stay away from my wife and daughter and my wife asked me to leave the home i had no other option so i left, now i can not visit my home to see my daughter…i dont know about divoce law are they preparing some serious ground to accuse me. Its been a more than 2 month my wife asking me to leave the house and stop cooking for me…before i left because of all hummilation.Now she is calling my brother who is well off and told him that his advocate will ask him and my father to come on 24 jan 2012. I think she has left the job as well, and following their advocate instruction. What her lawyer is suggesting her to hang me to death or what??????????? she has barred my ph. no too which was a corporate no. on her name so plz email me on rsingh08315@gmail.com.

      • 114 Ravinder January 26, 2012 at 4:49 am

        Its 26th Jan and still my in laws have not prepared any document for mutual divorce, i think they are taking more and more time to humilliate me more , its been more than 2 weeks, i havent seen my daughter, its really hard for me no place to live wandering here and there seeking shelters having emotional loss.Whats in future nobody knows, but one has to move on, i am doing the same, managing things for living and holding myself . I m worried how my daughter is bearing this situation.After all kid wants to live with both.My question is that cant i meet my daughter meanwhile. My wife is threatning me to call the police or her advocate if i will visit my daughter, is it justified??? I am afraid she can manipulate the kid also against me.

  53. 115 Hamza January 22, 2012 at 6:29 am

    Dear Sir,

    I am working in Saudi Arabia, I am married in 2003, I have two kids age 9 & 5, in this years lots of ups and downs, at marriage time she is working in Saudi Arabia as a Nurse, they told us she is only 22 years old and she is working in Saudi Arabia since 2 years only, but after marriage I came to know that she is working since 1992, and she is 9 years older then me, I thought that its my mistake that I dint see all this before marriage and I compromise with that marriage and I shifted to New Zealand in 2003 mid and I stay for 2 years mean time we had a baby (New Zealand Citizen) at that time I buy a house & gold on my wife name in India, after we return to India from New Zealand, I work heard and I went back to Sadui Arabia on other visa, my wife was in India, now I get all permanent Visas in Saudi Arabia, and she says that she dont want to come and she left my house and she is staying with her brother, I am trying to call her on mobile and house number both are not working, now what I have to do… If I come to india any risks for me? and if she want divorce I am ready to give, but my kids and property?

    Please help me in this matter…

  54. 116 vinod mande January 26, 2012 at 10:18 am

    i am 42 yrs man, i had divorced before 2 yrs ago. and this case in court. i have no children and my occupation is i am small contracter. my earning is nearby 5k per month, so pls reply, i dont want to give her single rupee. what should i do?

  55. 117 Nandu January 30, 2012 at 4:59 am

    Divya,

    What you did was right. I feel you did less. If I were a woman and if it was me in your situation, I would have not let him survive only. We feel sorry for what happened to you and your mother.

    Don’t worry, all of us are there with you. He deserves to be punished. 1 thing is for sure – Even if you have made mistake or not, the baby is innocent. Deserting a 1 month old baby, especially after your Ceasarean, pushing you out of the home and not turning up even now when she is one and half year and she being more or less like a fatherless child is the height of cruelty. He could have tried atleast once to send her some gift etc, especially when he knew your address. That doesn’t require any court order or any maintenance laws.

    If he has no love for the baby, definitely there is another woman. So demanding money, at the same time cheating his parents also, who blindly believes their son. You can’t blame your in-laws because it is the son who is playing the role and acting smart to them stating he spent money for you. Delivery care and mortuary expenses are considerable and should not be counted. It is his duty as a husband and as a son-in-law. As you said, there are innocent 498A men also in this forum. Your case is truly different. As you told, you don’t want any sympathy or reply, still am stating “May God bless you and your little one”. Thank God for saving you.

    If you try for a compromise with him again, the vengance personality in him can harm you throughout. Be bold and try to bring up your daughter well. Atleast be happy that you are taking care of your old widow mother and small baby, both of extreme age groups.

  56. 118 samba January 31, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    Hai sir,
    i got married 1 year back , since form 20 days of my marriage me my wife were having disputes, she doesn`t respect me or my parents, she Denys what ever i say, as its 16 months of my marriage. she is at her mother `place for about 9 months within this 6 months . the rest of the months we use to sleep separately. she has strong support from their parents.as their parents told that she as done B.A computers but she completed 10class.
    iam working in a pvt organization. i wanted divorce from my wife iam ready to give back the amount and other gifts which they have given. is it necessary to pay her monthly maintenance.as we don`t have any children.
    if both of us agree to get separated and get a agreement done in fornt of the family members. is that valid.
    plz suggest me . & reply to my mail id.

  57. 119 samba January 31, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    Hai sir,
    i got married 1 year back , since form 20 days of my marriage me my wife were having disputes, she doesn`t respect me or my parents, she Denys what ever i say, as its 16 months of my marriage. she is at her mother `place for about 9 months within this 6 months . the rest of the months we use to sleep separately. she has strong support from their parents.as their parents told that she as done B.A computers but she completed 10class.
    iam working in a pvt organization. i wanted divorce from my wife iam ready to give back the amount and other gifts which they have given. is it necessary to pay her monthly maintenance.as we don`t have any children.
    if both of us agree to get separated and get a agreement done in fornt of the family members. is that valid.
    plz suggest me . & reply to my mail id.
    vr_sambana@yahoo.com

  58. 121 Heli February 2, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    Hello
    My mom has a marriage life of 18 yrs. She was asked for dowry of a large amount from last four years. My father and paternal relatives have given lot of mental torture to my mom. Now my mom has filed case of 498A against my father. I have witnessed all the incidents of mental and physical torture on my mom.
    So can my mom file any case related to the torture in addition? What can be the results and consequences?

    I am with my mom as I know what she has beared for my better future..
    Plz help in the best way you can….

  59. 122 Wife February 3, 2012 at 4:10 am

    I am married to a guy without a job – he was being maintained so far by charity from various sources – even his parents gave him money. I suspect he may have some property in his name or his parent’s name. i want to divorce him. We have a child under 5 years. What can I get in terms of money ? He wants the child – can he get it ?
    He is well educated but does not work – and I am working now. But I want him to pay me every month or big settlement. What to do ? I never gave dowry – I actually ran away from parents and married him – but can I still file for dowry harassment and get something from him ? Can he prove he did not harass me ?

    • 123 Gopal R. March 30, 2012 at 5:52 am

      It’s women like you who fail marriages, who want to take undue advantage of ruthlessly biased laws to their favor. But don’t forget… what goes round… comes round. You are only in for money… that is what has made marriages in India nothing more then socialized and legalized prostitution, and nothing else.

  60. 124 megha February 3, 2012 at 4:18 pm

    i got married two months back, i am a B.Com graduate with no job. my mother-in-law has become psycho due to my father in law’s torture. she keeps annoying me and i become upset and irritated till the end of the day. my husband is not at all supportive to me, he keeps saying that i should go back to my parents house and he will send me divorce notice., i need some advice and divorce tips regarding this. can i get divorce immediately or is it necessary to live with him till minimum 6months?
    please help.

  61. 125 preet February 7, 2012 at 1:34 pm

    Sir ,
    After my graduation in medicine, I was preparing for my career in USA and had even passed my exams. Just when i was going to get admission , i met a person and he proposed marriage and we fell in love, even our parents agreed for it . This Person was by chance , also PR in some other country. After our marriage(and many gold gifts and money expenditure), I had to face a troubled environment at his home where he rarely supported me and went back just in a few days . They took all the jewellary that they gave to me saying they were going to keep it in locker and later used it themselves without my knowledge.We filed for a spouse visa, also a visitor visa , becoz spouse visa takes time. I went to see him on visitor visa for honeymoon . Just the day I returned to India , 5 days after it , he siged a document and cancelled my spouse visa. Also , he stopped communicating with me at all. There was a brief home violence while i was with him overseas for those 3 months. Before that , his family here in India had thrown me out of house , used all my jewellary and stuff. We never filed any case of dowry/ violence/ harrasment or anythign against them , becoz we wanted things to sort out with time. But when he now refused me visa just after i came back to india, and completely stopped communication and says he would go for divorce and threatens me that he is PR and if i take any step against it , he would destroy me , I feel i have been cheated. Also , “all” my belongings and books and many certificates still lie with him overseas in his house. Since then , he has nt even been sending me any money .No response from him or his parents.

    I dont want to file any case against him , i still love him , plus my family is very respectable family. Donot want them to face all the crap in courts. But I do need to finish my education .And I can not put further strain on my parents.
    Given that he kind of dumped me after sending me to india, it is a case of NRI fraud, but i dnt want to fight that case as well. Just already feel very low.

    He says he will file for a divorce. If that happens , will I be getting any money back ? Any gold that we presented to them ? or any expenses of the marriage ? will he have to giv me compensation for destroying myc areer and cheating me with visa?

    Please advice.I am a graduate , but currently not working and going for further studies (Masters).

    Thanks.

  62. 126 ravinder February 16, 2012 at 6:26 am

    Its 16 feb today finally my father in law asked me to come in to court, i dont know what to say but i want to save this marriage somehow, my spouse has manipulated the kid but e1 know its very easy task for a mother to do so. I called her many times but she is not responding, she is asking for divorce and want me to repay her loan, i am ready to do that despite i m unemployed right now so a family dont need to go through a separation.But i want to do that as i did earlier also for the same being in the family(me, myself and my kid).What should i do because if she revolt she could file a case as genrally women do in anger under 498a. I know once the ball start rolling it wont stop even if any party want it to with out more emotional, financial,society image damage for both family her and mine.She asked me to say yes if lawyer ask me if i want divorce or not, i am in dillema as once on phone in this month she also has threated me of 498a charges,she has always threatened me in all 7 yrs with the same whenever she lost her temper.Despite all these i want to save this marriage. In 7 yrs of marriage she has worked only two yrs and i worked 5 yrs in various co. and 2 yrs i did baysitting for my kid as she asked me to do still her father asked me what i have done in all 7 yrs. I didnt seek any help from in laws in all these 7 yrs . Now she dont want to listen that life is very long and ups and down are the part of life it does not require separation plz help.

  63. 127 shirish February 22, 2012 at 10:06 am

    i was marred at 30th dec 2010 but my wife has love afir with one guy of her class she told me for divose at 14 feb 2011 i was record her call which contains hole love story. that time she want divorse but after few dayas her famaly memebers pressheris on her and she was change now she dont want divorse but now i want divors. and after 14 feb 2011 we didnt live together. so if i apply for divorse i need to pay Maintenance. and i have monthly income of Rs.5000 only and my wife soing master degree now. so plz help me

  64. 128 Subhash March 13, 2012 at 10:27 am

    I got married on 18 May 2006, I have two child, Son (03year) and Daughter (01year). My wife file a case in women help line at her home and blaim to me and may family members(Father,Mother,Sister,Brother) for Domestic Voilence, she wants Divorce,child(son-who is staying whith my family and going school) and maintence, Daughter with her. But I don’t want Divorce.
    Her complaint is we had beatan to her . this is not true. She has a problem, she takes Negative every word by my family and also me. She think wrongly any of my talking about anything. She say every time in phone I will see you and your family. I don;t give her my childs and Divorce. What can i do in this situation. I am in tension. My second and last hering on women cell on 23 March 2012. If no solution comes on last hering. Please suggest me all of things who i can do.

  65. 129 ramdoss March 15, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    divorce petion is before the family court In the meanwhile court has ordered to pay Rs2000 to to my wife with restrospective from 2008
    I have meagre income of 4000 p.m. as marketting man How to go I have no capacity to pay 2000 as ordered by the court as maintencance to may wife
    pl advise

  66. 130 kaito sema March 17, 2012 at 11:13 pm

    sir my .wife .abadoned me and dauther 4 yrs back …the reason ..sumtimes iuse to do
    chemicals ;;but i was never violent ..my salary goes strraight to her every month thats how we lived ….every dicission regarding family matters she;;s she would make it without even consulting me..NOW SHE”BACK after 4 years and demandind child custody and about chemical problem it”s over 4yrs nw m sober now wht advice can you give me please?? it would be veryimp 4 me plls……………………………………………………………………

    and about our child she””s going to best school here …her mother or family dosen’t support her even with a single paise.. so sir please help out ;;………. i really need it..

    if you want to know more.. please ..dont hesitate to ask..
    would be waiting for replly

    eagarly thank you..

    k bhatt…

  67. 131 Rohit March 27, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    Hello Sir,

    I got married in Dec.2010.But due to some circumstances my wife and i got fight and she went to her father house in the month of april 2011 and came back in july 2011 and she stayed with me for exactly 2 months and again she went to her father house and now she is staying their for last 6 months and we have on daughter who is 5 months old and i have not seen her since her birth. I need divorce from my wife my annual income is 2 lac and i have masters in my education and my wife has also done MBA. she is putting alligations on me & my family that we ask for bribe and we have tried to burn her. Kindly confirm me how to come out from this matter & how much compensation i have to pay her not in monthly basis. I do not have any assets with me. plzzzz help. In my 16 months marriage we have stayed together for only 6 months.

    • 132 Sandy April 1, 2012 at 12:58 pm

      i dont understand why alll time women blackmail to men by putting allegations. Court system in our india is wrong. Actually, why it is by default assumed that men try to harm her or harass her, why cant women harm men in today scenario. The only thing is men are assumed to be powerful but actually women are also powerful . I suggest u to put case that she beaten u and try to kill u dats y she left ur house wen she failed in her attempt. If she thinks u as her enemy u also treat her like same. In bhagwat gita also, Bhawvan shri krishan said to arjun to attack on opposite side and not to wait for her mercy. aaj kal ki ldkiyon ka dimag khrab ho gya hai…..

      • 133 Rohit April 2, 2012 at 6:45 am

        Sir,

        As i have told u that we have baby girl who is 5 months old now she and her family putting allegation on me and my family that we are not coming to take her from her father’s house because she has given birth to girl and we were asked for boy.But the fact is she herself does not want to leave her parents house. We have are very much fed up with our life. Kindly confirm us what we can do so that she should get ready herself to give divorce to me that also with out any complication to me and my family. I do not have money to give her. But what i and my family have understood from her behavior that she gives importance to money a lot. She thinks we always asked for dowry from her parents and they have done more than enough on marriage but the fact is we do not touch any item which come from her parents house & i and my family we have not even touched the clothes which her parents gave at the time of marriage (as per the culture). Kindly confirm us what to do and if we have to pay her money much amount i have to pay her because i do not own any property and my annual income is Rs.2 lac. waiting for your reply

  68. 134 Anjali Kuriakose March 29, 2012 at 5:10 pm

    Hi,
    I got married on 30th Dec 2011. My husband and I met through a matrimony site and got married in two months time. Before marrage he told me that he is well to do and will not be dependant on my salary to run the house. I was working and doing very well for myself and he promised that my life will only get better. He said he is going to do MBA, buy a house in US and many other things but after marriage I got to know that he doesnt have any savings. We barely meet ends with his income and he says he will not be able to run a family and hence doesnt want a child now. We both are 38yrs old. He also has erection problem and says it is only with me. We do not have any sexual life. It is a second marriage for both of us. He divorced his wife saying she has bipolar disorder. He was living with her only for a month. We lived together for three months and in these three months he was totally indifferent to me and I came back to my parents because he was totally indifferent.
    It is my second marriage too. I do not see this marriage working. On what basis can i file for a divorce? Will I get divorce? Any maintenance or alimony? Kindly advice.

    • 135 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 1:59 pm

      u can file divorce on the basis that ur hubby is impotent and u had never sex with him from date of marriage to till date

  69. 136 Help Plss March 31, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Hello Sir\Madam,

    I have a friend who got married and had to file for a divorce with in an year of her marriage. Her parents are looking for some matches lately to get her married again and have come across a divorcee. And according to his version of the story of his divorce, they say that the guy was married only for 3mnths while the girl tried to behave very indifferntly by not cooking, not letting him near her, not helping him out in any of the works at home, not even taking bath for days together etc….,he lived in the US and was working and earning their living. And then after 3mnths the girl returned to india with the pretext of being very very home sick, and then started forcing the guy to come back to india n settle there, which led to arguments and eventually the idea of a divorce between him n the girl. The boy’s family aslo said that they had to pay 50lakhs in alimony to the girl to avoid any complications from the girl that can affect the boy’s career in US. Now, In every way possible i know..,no one can demand an alimony from just 3mnths of marriage. I very strongly believe that there r some lies involved here from the boy’s side. Please tell me in detail what circumstances can actually give a person the right to demand for an alimony. Please let me know if demanding an alimony in the above case even possible..???

    Thanks in advance.

  70. 137 Ritu April 20, 2012 at 7:56 am

    hi,

    i am ritu, aged 26 yrs B.com MBA Graduate married to a person who has completed his L.L.B in 2010 . and now he is doing Accounts work with his father in their own home . like income tax returns, sales tax , vat returns cases etc and earn nearly about 1 lac p.m both of them. and me was doing job in Pvt Company since 5 years. as an accountant. we got married in 2010. my in laws tortured me physically as well as mentally for dowry. after that when i got pregnant they started to threaten me for pre natal sex determination baby boy/baby girl .and arrested me in room for 4 days. they left my job forcely. when my parents come to know and come to my matrimonial home my in laws started man handling. police case registered as ipc 107/151. then many meetings were held between both families with relatives for mutual settlement. but after few days they started all theses harassments back. when my baby boy born , no body come to meet me from inlaws. even i hv tried many times to call. and now they sent me divorce summens. and now i went to women cell. now the case is pending in both places. my father in law disown his son and me from his property immediately after dispute.and now they showed his son is residing anywhere else and working as a helper and earning 3500 per month. i hv also appeal for compensation and maintenance case. but please let me know what would happen next.

    • 138 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 1:47 pm

      hi
      ritu u and ur daughter get maintenance according to net salary of ur hubby from date of application u/s 125 crpc or if any matrimonial case under HMA is pending in court then get maintenance u/s 24 of HMA as per status of ur hubby.As marriage is relation of faith and ur mutual faith have been finished then go for divorce and find new life partner. for ur any query u can ask via email id siranjeetsandhu72@ymail.com

      • 139 Ritu May 3, 2012 at 12:12 pm

        Thanx for ur reply . Is there any law for disowning the son and his wife from property after such kind of dispute? As they have showed that his son i mean my husband is now residing in another place and falsely showed that he is earning just Rs 3500/- p.m .

      • 140 siranjeet sandhu May 3, 2012 at 2:56 pm

        dear ritu
        ur son after age of 18 yr has right on the ancestral property of ur hubby and u have right on self aquired property of ur hubby.

      • 141 siranjeet sandhu May 3, 2012 at 3:02 pm

        ritu
        one who has self aquired property and he has full right to give that property to anyone during his life time or by way of will where as ancestral property is divided into their legal heirs

      • 142 Ritu May 8, 2012 at 10:45 am

        Sir now my husband is withdrawing his divorce case and saying that he want to come back my wife in front of court. but in reality he give me abuses after councelling . what should i do now . i have filed for maintenance . but he showed he is earning only 3500 p.m . which is not true. how can i prove it in front of court?

    • 143 siranjeet sandhu May 9, 2012 at 1:59 am

      ur hubby seems to be both lier and lawyer.he showed his desire to take u back in court and he had given assurace to wirhdraw his divorce case otherwise he had to pay maintenance u/s 24 HMA to U. so it would be very difficult for u to understand his each and every plan. give more detail and contact me via my email id siranjeetsandhu72@ymail.com

      • 144 Ritu May 9, 2012 at 9:40 am

        Yes absolutely he is lier . so how can i prove in front of court so as to get maintenance . as now i can’t live/ stay with such kind of person, who has even still not see the face of his child of 4 months old. he is very smart now he is saying he want to meet my child and want to stay with my child that’s why he is withdrawing the case. he is earning approx 45000/- p.m but showed only 3500/- p.m . so give me some suggestions what to do now ? i am very needful now.

      • 145 siranjeet sandhu May 9, 2012 at 11:30 am

        Dear
        ritu make an action plan when u have decided not to suh a person and u had to prove cruelty by ur hubby on uand action plan must be secret and tell ur bad incident occured during ur stay with ur hubby and tell me me on my email id siranjeetsandhu72@ymail.com

    • 146 siranjeet sandhu May 10, 2012 at 1:21 am

      try to locate income tax PAN No. of ur hubby and he might had shown Rs 45000/- or more income in his previous income statements that can be documentry proof and there are so many other ways to prove that he is earning more.

  71. 147 lalit April 28, 2012 at 1:44 pm

    hi, myself lalit and i got love marriage on 21 sep 2007without dowry . After one year my wife had gone his father home and left me.i have gone his home to take him back for several time as i am serving in defence job and his father home is far away that is 2000 kms from my home.MY all the effort are gone vain to return him back home. After one and half year sereration ihave filed a case under sec 9 act to come back home but she can not come the court notice have sent 3 to 4 times to his home but she cant come.After that i have filed a petition a divorce under sec 13. The court notice of divorce have sent 7 to 8 times to him and also a publication is also published in newspaper regarding divorce petition. she had never come in the court even a single time. After one and half year the court had give his decesion in favour of me. the court had show him ex party and the court had give me a decree sheet of divorce.

    Now i want a suggestion regarding maintainance law. i want to ask to ask you that is my wife is elligible for maintainance and how much she will get maintainance money while my income is 24000 rupee monthly secondly she is studing in B.A. final year. i have no child.

    please suggest me to my email id

    • 148 siranjeet sandhu May 2, 2012 at 1:55 am

      Your wife is now eligible to get maintenance u/s 125 crpc and quantum vary according to mood of judge and documents on record and tradition of court in area where u lives. Wife is not eligible to get maintenance if she is judgment debtor in case of restitution of conjugal rights of section 9 of HMA, only and only till decree of divorce u/s 13 of HMA is passed ( even during pendency of divorce case) and after passing of decree of divorce, wife become eligible to get maintenance. Quantum of maintenance may vary from one fifth to one third of your net carry home salary.

  72. 149 smitha May 4, 2012 at 5:31 am

    then later he told not to inform his family as he gets scoldings. i listened to him as he was not well. but the next day wen his sister came from mys back we went to their place and told what happened. police had cum 2 hospital there he tol it happened playfully to save his job.later 15 days we were happily living. but after 15 days wen we went to their house at mys for festival they came to know by seeing up d mark. later they started blamiong me. then it became clash between me n his family. after that he reduced speaking with me . one day wen i was watching tv he made big issue calling owner. later with his under his family guidance he has put for counceling. its been 3 months they are simply extending. me and my mom staying at place where me n husband stayed. councelor also their side. first 2 months he gave rent. now they said to cut in advance for owner. i dont kno what is there in there mind. they r not going legally because they know they r false. pl suggest wat need to be done. pl reply to smitha07athreya@gmail.com

  73. 150 smitha May 4, 2012 at 5:34 am

    Me and my husband loved each other and got married on 6th june 2011. We had difference of opinion still my husband forced me to get married to him . as i also loved i dint object much. but after marriage listening to his parents words and sister our clash became more. he tried to phycally hit me even i tried to defend it. ut later i used to cry and sit as i couldn defend . then sometimes he used to consol but never say sorry. but one day when i enquired why he is late he dint talk just he went and slept. when i told to drink the milkshake which i prepared he dint respond. with love i pinced him. for that simple thing he hurt himself and told than ur torture i will suicide. i thought he was doing it for scaring me but it accidently got stuck. i only tuk him to hospital there my cousins came for my help as his family was at mysore for new yr. then later he told not to inform his family as he gets scoldings. i listened to him as he was not well. but the next day wen his sister came from mys back we went to their place and told what happened. police had cum 2 hospital there he tol it happened playfully to save his job.later 15 days we were happily living. but after 15 days wen we went to their house at mys for festival they came to know by seeing up d mark. later they started blamiong me. then it became clash between me n his family. after that he reduced speaking with me . one day wen i was watching tv he made big issue calling owner. later with his under his family guidance he has put for counceling. its been 3 months they are simply extending. me and my mom staying at place where me n husband stayed. councelor also their side. first 2 months he gave rent. now they said to cut in advance for owner. i dont kno what is there in there mind. they r not going legally because they know they r false. pl suggest wat need to be done

    • 151 siranjeet sandhu May 5, 2012 at 1:59 am

      if u can adjust then it is good as u know better otherwise without wasting ur precious life time and energy in useless litigation take divorce and start new life

  74. 152 pujaroy May 4, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    me or mere husband 18th october 2011 me shadi kiya tha uski gharwale mujhe bahut marti he is liye me apni myka agai husband ke upor 498 case korke ab me usse divorce chati hu lekin wo mujhe divorce nehe dena chati lekin me ab jana nehe chati pls suggest me i want a divorce and maintaince pls reply me

    • 153 siranjeet sandhu May 5, 2012 at 2:05 am

      u can file divorce u/s 13 on the basis of cruelty and get maintenance u/s 125 crpc without filing dowry case u/s 498a

    • 154 siranjeet sandhu May 5, 2012 at 2:10 am

      First try to adjust in new family and if the condition is beyond adjustment go for divorce without any delay and maintenance otherwise u crosses marriageble age

  75. 155 sm May 5, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    they r waiting may be for us to put the case ….. i try to call him several times but there is no response from him…. his mother is not allowing him to meet me only. he is staying in his sister place telling lie to conceling that he is in his friend place. i love him . he might also have some feeling. can i do something legally so that he comes back to me.if we send legal notice also they will say same old story that we cant leave them together. We were happy only untill unless his mother involved. can i go to his sister place with legal protection to get him back. cant i do till conceling get over to make him pay rent. because he wont go to mysore also.

  76. 156 Bhuvnesh Kumar May 7, 2012 at 5:00 am

    My wife is registered lawyer in Delhi high court and member of bar council of Delhi, and she filled case against me and my parent’s u/s 498a, 506 504 or 125 maintained in 2009, im working with private firm no fix income I have,
    My question is what she is eligible for maintence and how much
    ,Regards
    Bhuvnesh kumar
    bhuvnesh.k@indiatimes.com
    08750740519

  77. 157 Bhuvnesh Kumar May 7, 2012 at 5:15 am

    My wife is registered lawyer in Delhi high court and member of bar council of Delhi, and she filled case against me and my parent’s u/s 498a, 506 504 or 125 maintained in 2009, im working with private firm no fix income I have,
    My question is what she is eligible for maintance and how much
    In mediation court we would decided we live together and start new life and forget whatever done from my side and her side, and according to mediation she didn’t withdraw any case, and continue every case
    Right away,
    she is registered lawyer and she den-aye mediation high court Allahabad decision , I just want to know make any case or complaint against herself in bar council & high court

  78. 158 John May 28, 2012 at 8:35 am

    HI i have a good friend (he is an indian) lives outside india.He lives in Taiwan for about 8 years. We studied for master together few years ago and he married with an india girl after school base on india tradition..that means he never met her before. And after 1 year he found out they didnt suit for each other. and she ran back to india.. they are now fighting in court for divorce for abt 2 years. She doesn’t like him at all and also dont want to live with him. But she use his old picture with his ex-gf who is our classmate(a Taiwanese girl) as evidence to issue a case to india court to claim he cheated her, but the truth is his wife met him after school so he didn’t cheat her at all. She didnt treat him well, never do house work and always yell at him when they live together. Before she left him, she took his money and gold, but my friend dont have any prove on these. Now they are not living tigether and all their contact is only the court case. He doesn’t know what to do now to colse the case, he is still young and want to move on his live and try to meet another fine woman. but if this case is not solved, he can’t have chance to meet any woman for his rest of live.

    Is there any way to get rid of this problem and close the case to get divorce?

    • 159 John May 28, 2012 at 8:42 am

      She is not letting him get divorce smoothly.. and trying to make him lose the case..even claimed he beat her…. but my friend buys her everything. and treat her nicely. I’m not an indian guy… so I don’t understand why the court accept her issuing the case of these only base on her talk.

  79. 160 benitha May 31, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    do u all think that a Indian husband having lot of money without account will change no never i had experienced they will only love money and cheat their wife’s and listen parents words also some lawyers they separate couples for money it happens in India alone

  80. 161 Rashmi June 3, 2012 at 7:15 am

    Rashmi,
    I have been married for 8years and have two children.But now when my daughter started to study and my son to will go to school as I have admitted them to good schools for their better future and I am paying all myself he only contributes1250/- p.m as being a government employ he gets from govt.,he is against this and often on any pretext yells at me that he is giving us food and shelter .He talks all nonsense in front of children and gives out fouls words now and then which are not at all aceptable in a decent society.At times he also beats me and demands for money for a child’s and my fooding.One day he stood nude infront of children as he was very angry.It is really very difficult to stay with him.He does not allow me to have any privacy of my own .He does not keep any money for our future and neither discloses any financial earnings of his but always wants me to be clear with my earnings to him.But I wnt to hide save some money for my children’s future as he is least bothered about it.I am working as an online tutor earning an average of 8k-10k p.m and also doing B-ed to support my childrens’ present and future.

  81. 162 Khushbu June 8, 2012 at 2:33 am

    I spent 1 hour to read all comment brothers. I have all sympathies with u all .but I would like to put a point this is not girls(except those girls ,who are really giving trouble to her husband ,trust me only 4% girls out of 100 in the world will be like who is giving trouble to husband. Exceptions are always there ) mistake that is mistake of those who torches girl for dowry/beat his wife without any her fault/abuse her and her maternal family without saying anything. Even if wife is obeying her husband ,and making money herself .Respecting husband’s family .Girls parents giving support to husband’s brothers without complain g anything .
    You all are getting trouble because of that man, who always runs behind the money for them only money is everything and woman is nothing. They marry to girl with them wish and later they says, I don’t like your face .Telling lie to his/her family about girl insulting girls.
    I can understand why so u hates that law, but try to understand why they made that law.
    You all are exceptions and I believe if you all have really tried/trying to keep your relation then u all are really respected for me but if guy belong to money minded/cruel/character less then I hate these men .Unfortunately in india only 20% man will be good man like you guys.
    You all can help yourself, because marriage is part of life and u cannot live without it. How you can help yourself other boys/girls/man/woman from all these
    1) If you feel some man in nab our/family/friends are abusing /torturing girl .give them advice for not to do. And do same vice-versa if u found any girl to do same.
    2) Be friend of your wife .don’t dominate her, she will give her 101% love to you. May be it will take time.
    3) Feel her u do take care for her.
    4) Every girl wants to be with her husband. Girls want to live happily life with husband. For a girl it is very difficult to take action like divorce .no buddy want to spoil them life just for sake of money
    5) Please don’t find your mom in girls .they are your wife not mother .I am sorry to say but it is true .as u cannot say your mother to treat like wife in same way please don’t find mother in your wife. There are importance role for each and every relationship .you cannot compare them.
    Finally conclusion of my all thought is maximum girls/woman are suffered by man’s torture that’s why this law is important for woman rights.
    I accept some exception are there but think about majority. If you guys are really impartial then u will defiantly understand. Let me explain.
    1) Have u repeatedly heart guy burn from girl for dowry. NO, u can often read news girl burn for dowry.
    2) You can read girl raped by man .have u ever read man raped by girl.
    3) Man is beating his wife after drink alcohol/without dink.
    4) You can read often man marry girl and then leave her and run foreign.
    And many more ……
    Think if you guys think your mother/sister can’t be wrong then believe me girls are very soft .they want only love and respect ,rest on u guys

    I always want to respect human

    • 163 siranjeet sandhu June 10, 2012 at 8:34 am

      dear Khushbu
      i had read ur views which are biased or u donot know what is happening in 21st century because all laws/ Acts are made in 1890 0r 1891 when ladies depends upon her husband in every respect and are not educated , not go outside for shopping or for job and not have boy friends and mobiles.
      Now when women feel themselves equal to man in every respect then why they expect that law should be biased ( Crpc 125, DV act, Dowry prevention Act and child custody Act), newly introduced act right on residential property along with right on movable and immovable property.
      Every one ( Society , police , politician and judiciray) in ur country have sympathy for women either she is right or wrong and try to find fault in man/ husband and this had become ur inborn thinking.
      So try to think broadly not narrowly.

    • 164 Nikhil July 11, 2014 at 9:29 pm

      Khushbu,

      just because there are some exceptions means they are not humans, they don’t deserve better life & justice, those laws made in completely different situations, today time has changes then why not laws.
      there are lots of rightful amendments can be done in such laws but Women’s organisations are not letting that happens they want straight forward laws even if they are anti-men,
      such women want enslave the men legally,
      they want to give complete freedom to women & taking away even the protective rights from men,
      such false cases not only destroy husband’s life forever but their families too, nobody cares with that, WHY?

      because of such false cases more than 60,000-70,000 married men are committing suicide, some of their parents are dying of shock because of lost dignity & respect in society, shouldn’t there be any law for these people,
      there is no single law to protect men’s right in India,
      these false cases runs too long & in that period women can marry but men cant,
      according to our laws married women are not punishable by law for adultery but men are, is this equality?
      because according to our law all Indian women are innocent, all men are always the seducer, & Women’s organisations supports this & against of making Wife’s adultery punishable by law – a perfect example of feminism,

      means woman can have many sexual relations out of marriage & she is not entitled for punishment but men are,
      means women are completely free to do adultery by Indian laws,
      if such women caught red handed either they will turn against the lover with whom they are willingly having sex by putting allegations of rape on him
      or
      will turn against husband by putting false 498A
      either way men are suffering, is this equality?
      today women of India want all the freedom & liberty to do everything as they want & they don’t want any kind of limitations not even legal or ethical & moral too,
      they just want to be like western women, soon teenage girls in India will start to become pregnant & they will start saying that its their right to do whatever they want,
      this is all because of growing feminism in India & Women’s organisations are the mainstream group of feminists,

      moreover, that stupid Congress even passed the bill of “IRBM” just go & read that bill & you will find how Indian laws are becoming more & more ANTI-MEN
      this bill is height of the non-sense & legal cruelty against men, even the NRIs who get married under “Hindu marriage act” are scared

      I have talked my friends, If that law comes into existence they are ready to stay single,
      today many men in India has are scared of marriage,
      men in India has started to stay single, many are leaving this country because of such biased laws, this will destroy our Hindu culture definitely as our majority will suffer in future,
      nobody think of long-term effects & unfortunately women in India are supporting it,
      where the Muslim population is increasing day by day their families have 5-6 children per family & more in some cases & because of our hindu women, men in our culture now avoiding marriages,
      sure this seems small thing now but in future we will see the big effects of this,
      I don’t want say this but in near future Muslims will be in majority as they are growing & when that will happen there will be a “Sharia law” & that is the best & only answer to such feminists & other Indian women who silently supports such laws,

    • 165 suffering women July 12, 2014 at 9:01 am

      dear khushbu
      nice view

  82. 166 Pathi June 8, 2012 at 9:33 am

    I married April 2012 after 2 months she not accepted sexual matters she accepted only for oral sex but this last month May 31st she got pregnant we r not doing any serious sexual relationship but suddenly pregnant she also ask to me how can this made , lots of time i talking phone to her family about that matter they dont care about that even she is home sick person always sleeping, and every day body pain and everything is pain but she told she dont have any problem in body , Lovable, Sexual, Good Cook this three objects is minus of my person, lots of time i discuss this matter but she hiding everything and still silent, now i want divorce her that is possible?

  83. 168 madhavi June 9, 2012 at 3:35 pm

    sir i got married on june 2011.my husband is working in (govt)railway department..he started harassing me from aug 2011… We have 5 months kid now..but still no change in him…he is harassing me alot…i have to know how can i get divorce nd my gold, dowry…. I want my son…so tell me child custody ruls…please reply me on my id madhu.mannala@gmail.com

    • 169 siranjeet sandhu June 10, 2012 at 8:45 am

      As mentioned u got married on june 2011.ur husband is working in (govt)railway department and now is june 2012( one year of ur marriage )and u had 5 month kid means u had pregnancy before marriage that can be factor in ur dispute.

  84. 170 Nripendra June 10, 2012 at 11:27 am

    6 months ago i got married with pump & show in hindu tradition.Before marriage the girl side told that she was Graduate.After marriage when i asked for certificate for further studies n job she always start quarelling with me and my family saying that it is her property n she wont give it.On investigation from the university it was known that her D.O.B is also wrongly told to us n now according to her original D.O.B she is 2 years elder than me,now i dont have any faith on her n her family.We dont have any child n now i dont want to live together my withdrawing salary is 16000 /month what is the procedure n maintenance money i should pay.

    • 171 Sandy June 10, 2012 at 12:00 pm

      Hello friend,
      i am also like you.. In today indian system, there is need to change the rules for maintenance system…otherwise everytime girl will threat the boy and play with his life. I mean 5 to 7 percent maximum maintenance should be there instead of 20 to 30 percent…..For this change, i suggest all men like us to get together and go to Delhi and have “Anshan” like anna hazare… My friend, millions of guys will come forward by this movement…And in coming years, no girl will blackmail guy n his family……pls spread this message and if possible …lets have a movement like this…………..even 1000 to 3000 guys if go for anshan in frnt of delhi gvrnmnt for reforms in maintence law ( which is always in favor of girl)…, then things will be better…………plssss help me and other guys like us….reply…

    • 172 Sandy June 10, 2012 at 12:30 pm

      check out http://www.change.org…….and join petition….Abolish maintenance rules…….

    • 173 siranjeet sandhu June 10, 2012 at 1:57 pm

      ur lovely estranged bitter half and her parents would never admit in court and it would be vey difficult for u to prove that they had concealed her qualification and age but if u had got match through news paper aids in matrimonial column that may help to some extent.

      getting maintenance from u is HER LEGAL RIGHT and u cannot deny and she can get 3-5 thousand per month from u.

      she can use other weapons against u like DV Act and Dowry act which are gifted to her as SHTRI DHAN by Indian law at the time of marriage

  85. 174 Sandy June 10, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    mass of people has power to change d old rules… and laws..

    • 175 SATPAL YADAV June 10, 2012 at 1:35 pm

      Hello Sandy, I am totally agreed with u that we need to do a big dharna against government towards the maintenance which is always in ladies favour, if u find people like this pls stick,together and will plan the same for our and other fellow sake. I am with u if u need any help pls. get back.

      SATPAL YADAV
      09718349116

      • 176 siranjeet sandhu June 10, 2012 at 2:32 pm

        Dear brothers (Sandy and Satpal Yadav)
        only media ( articles in newspaper and tv serial and films and news in tv chennels) can help man and save man from the hand of these VAMPS.

        write a article in widely circulated Newspaper that DV Act and Dowry Act are lethal legal weapon in the hands of these married vamps for creating ‘LEGAL TERRORISM ‘in society ( as apex court mention ‘498a’ as LEGAL TERRORISM in his judgement sushil kumar vs union of india : RCR (criminal)2005(3)745)

        Write and mention Maintenance either u/s 125 crpc or u/s 24 HMA as ‘LEGAL DACOTI’ in ur article.

        Write and mention Newly introduced act Right of wife on husband’s residential property along with right on movable and immovable property as ‘LEGAL PROSTITUTION ‘
        as spent one or two nights innocent RICH huband and become the owner of half of his property, ( good idea as become lakhpati or crorepati in one/ two nights) in ur article.

  86. 177 Vineet June 16, 2012 at 10:31 am

    I got married to my girl friend of 3 years. 5 days after marriage, she cancelled the reception and since then has been living away. We both have our reasons, and looks like its going for a divorce. I quit my job to come back to india to get married to her and she is earning a decent salary. I did not take even a penny of divorce not even my marriage clothes were given by them. We are many times more wealthy than they are. She is only source of income to her parents and the fear of losing their earning daughter must be her mother’s insistence for divorce I guess. I do not truly understand what is going through her mind, but just to be prepared for a legal battle, here are my questions –

    1. Can she claim share of my property that was acquired before marriage
    2. Can she claim maintenance (i have been struggling to start my own business and do not have any income, where as she earns a decent income)
    3. What kind of emptive measures can I take to safe guard my own property and family’s inheritance?
    4. Last but not the least, what is the best possible time frame to get out of this (in case she also consents)? I heard that to file a divorce, we should be married at least for 6 months and then another 1 year?
    5. Good references for lawyers in Bangalore?

  87. 178 rakesh June 17, 2012 at 3:48 am

    Dear sir,
    i got married in dec 2005, and form day first my wife attitude was not good as far marriage life is concerned. intially she was blamming on others family members, then i took a decision and were living total seperate me and her , without interference of any other famly memeber. but there also, her attitude was not normal, like good , genuine housewife. Now my point is that, both both now living seperate form last 2 yrs, and neither she not her parents giving any concerete decisoion for the same issue. Neitehr they want to make relation good, neither to make this issue solved by leaving eachother. Now her parents had telling me that , u have full rights to go for legal action. now plz guide , wt will be the best way, to get rid of such problem. how i can get divorceee in min time form her , so that i can start my life again. as i feeel she is happy at her place, and many times she told orally that u also goet married , as i am happy and livivng nicely without u at parental house. plz suggest me good and genuine way to get soluiton. rgds

  88. 179 Arun June 18, 2012 at 5:41 am

    iam 35yr old and my wife is 34yrs got a son who is 3.4yrs old my wife has left m,y house from delhi and moved to her parent house in mumbai. she left home saying she is going to meet her mother but reaching their she has send me a advocate notice,asking 40000 rs a month and 35 lakh to but house in mumbai.though i have already made my delhi property on her name. pls guide how much maintaince do i have toi pay my salary is 50000/- a month take home out of which I have to pay EMI of 15000/- per month.
    you can call me at 7838157772

  89. 180 ruchi June 21, 2012 at 9:13 am

    hi i have been married for 11 yrs and have two children .my husband has filed a false dicvorce petition in the mumbai court on the grounds o cruelty whereas i have always been a good wife.he is greatly influenced by his parents.i had also gone to visit him to reconcile but his parents and he illtreated the kids and me and managed to get a temperory injunction against me and the kids.hence i returned to hyderabad to my parents.still i have been convincing my husband to take us back but he is adamant to see me in the court,hence i have filed a rcr in the court.
    will this help my case.
    i love him and i have not filed any criminal cases and i do not intend to file
    ever as my moral values are very high will this make him come back to me.
    nor have i asked for any maintenance as i only want him back.

    • 181 prady June 21, 2012 at 1:52 pm

      Ruchi,
      I\’m no Lawyer so cannot offer any help there. But being a woman and having gone through life\’s ups and downs, I think you need to be realistic and soon. Keep emotions aside and better have a plan for your own life and kids.
      Consult a good lawyer and do what is right for the situation.
      You have two kids to look after and this is no time to give in to emotions. You must fight when you have to and it\’s got nothing to do with moral values. You can fight fair.
      If and when he comes back to his senses, he will think of you, but to understand good one has to have that goodness too. Don\’t wait.
      I donno if you work. You should definitely ask for maintenance, at least until you are capable to bring up the kids on your own.
      All the Best

  90. 182 Akash June 27, 2012 at 8:16 am

    After seeing so many problems with men and women, I would also like to share my problem.

    I have been in love with this girl whom I got married in 2001 against the wishes of our parents in a Arya Samaz Mandir, The problem started just after our marriage when I got my brother in law (my wife’s brother) as my gift to stay with us, as her parents wanted him to study in Delhi. Each passing day things got worse. I also understood that my wife was attracted to someone else (I was not sure she was going around with him or not). In anger I started to search and give her the same feeling which I was going through. So I met this girl in my office and we started going around.
    Meanwhile my wife got pregnant in 2010 and 2010 she delivered the most beautiful gift to me, I thought of forgetting everything and start over a new life with her and my son but that very moment I saw her talking to that guy on the phone and I cold not take that anymore.

    Same year my father passed away and the girl whom I was going around with got married to someone else. I lost all hoes of life and got into alcohol 24/7. I knew this was bad for me but at the same time I was not sure the child was mine or not, I was scared of DNA test (what if the child is not mine). Now I don’t care about the sperms I only see my kid who is my life.
    I have moved to another city and exactly when I heard that girl of my office had filed for divorce with her husband as he was some kind of drug edict and a wife beater, use to get violent after the drugs and his parents also knew about it.

    We got in touch and started living together since last 1.5 years, I go and meet my son every month making sure he does not feel that he has no father.
    Now I am completely confused where to go and with whom to go.

    Please advise.

  91. 183 saritha June 29, 2012 at 3:06 pm

    hello,
    i want to know if the husband is not working n wife being a house wife having 2 childrens aged about 8yrs n 5yrs how can she claim maintanence and on what basis can she appeal for the same. as i dont know the proper rules n regulations about this pls guide me.
    thanks n regards.

  92. 184 Prashant Nimbalkar July 2, 2012 at 6:38 am

    This is my personal experience and i am suffering from this,
    i got married in may 2011 after 2 months we realized that the girl is forcefully married to me, so as we spoke with her 1st about this then she disclosed that she was in love with another guy and as we are in pune and they belongs to aurangabad so we will never come to know this about her past and her relationship with that guy (aborted once) all the things she shared with us, when we called her family then nobody responded us and the person who was the mediator within us was just taking him out of this, She is in our relations that is why we dint inquired about her..
    Thing is that when that girl self taken a decision to leave our home and left in Diwali 2011, even after this we tried to call her parents who agen no replied, we waited then we got a call from her family to speak out this issue, we went there , we found except discussing those people were just using abusing language ( JUST BECAUSE OF THIS FOOLISH LAW OF INDIAN GOVT WHICH IN FAVOR OF GIRLS) those people were just getting the benefit of the same, and blamed us for dowry and attempt to kill her for money( which is absolutely wrong) , and went to Woman help cell in Aurangabad Police Commissionaire office, as that girl gave us all this things in written means sort of diary she used to maintain everyday about our behavior with her, my mom & dad was with her like her mom & dad as she mentioned in that..
    when we got clean cheat from Woman help cell Aurangabad and I agreed to live with her, to forget all this things, she also agreed to live with me but one one condition that i have to stay away from my family, i agreed also this. now this girl is not coming to our house even lodged a new complaint against us about we are not ready to keep her with us, and asking for 70,000 Rs, i am completely blank at this case and i writing here on facebook also as well on tweeter to know the people how this Girls are misusing the law which is meant for them, this is such a humiliating law for the guys who are innocent because of this law we have to stay with such a non trustworthy person, instead of this I will prefer to die.. because our law is in just favors the girls .. i am not saying all the girls are same of a kind but some of them are guilty and those are also misusing this foolish and blind law to kick our **s to get ample amount of money and just for money..

    Why we do not have law for boys which will help us to get out of this shit, all govt. is adding more n more clauses in this law but they are not thinking if that is innocent then…………………………….????????????????????????????

    • 185 Ritu July 3, 2012 at 5:05 pm

      Prashant , when ur wife left ur home on Diwali , then why didn’t u try to call her parents ? If they not replied , then u hd to go to the police for complaint.
      And if u are right , then ur wife or inlaws can never proof in the court that u r wrong .and u have to take vedeo record of ur in laws so as to proof ur self.
      Rest, Indian Law is not made only for girls . If u hv guts then fight for ur right , and hire a good lawyer.

  93. 186 kuttan July 4, 2012 at 7:09 am

    Very informative.. Thank you..

  94. 187 nadi July 9, 2012 at 2:57 pm

    I have 2 daughter one is 16 and another is 14, now my wife want maintenance i am one government school master in West Bengal my salary Rs.32000 can you help me how much money my wife want for maintenance.

  95. 188 Rohit Chorghe July 19, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Rohit
    Dear sir,

    I got married in April 2004. My wife has 2 brothers & no sister. So, in the marriage my father told in emotions her parents to take their beloved daughter for 4 days to her parental house after 5 days of marriage. She had gone to her parental house & came back after 8-10 days & then after every 4 days her mother started coming to my house & my wife was going with her. After 4 months she got pregnant, doctor suggested rest, then i left her to her parents for rest & told to come back after 1 month. But she did not come. Me & my parents started to go their to bring her back but she denied & demanded for divorce. My all the relatives tried hard but without any strong reason she was denying. When she delivered a baby boy, she had not even informed me. I started drinking alchohol in tension & mental pain. We were trying at our level. At last when my child became 8 months old, she came back. But she was always so agressive in her talks with me & my parents, we were neglecting in the fear that she will again go back to her parents & tolerating her many minor as well as major mistakes. She was calling me in my office whenever she wants & started fighting with me & also torturing my parents at home without reason, also blackmailing me saying that she will kill the son or suicide. And getting everything done from me & my parents. After some days we had another child. She became more & more aggressive then. I was tolerating her many mistakes like, Stealing money at home, blackmailing, abusing my parents, saying me an old man (sexually), using ugly language etc. Again she has gone to her parents from last 2 years & saying she won’t come back as her father has 6 acres of land near Hinjewadi & she’ll get a big share in that. When me or my relatives go their she abuse me on my character & saying that she will kill everyone after going back forcefully, spreading rumours about me, even twice she & her brothers tried to kill me. Then i sent a notice to come back. But she didn’t answer, Now i have applied for divorce & she had immediately applied for maintenance. I am labor contract supervisor & earn only 4500 per month. She has taken away my both the childrens with her. My lawyer is not that much serious about my case. Now i don’t want that lady in my life again. I want divorce & if possible remarriage. I’m ready to take custody of my childrens. But now she is pretending that she is ready to come back. Please suggest me the right way from getting rid of such a cruel & dirty lady.

  96. 189 Deepak Maheshwari July 27, 2012 at 7:57 am

    Sir, I, Deepak Maheshwari, I got marriage on dt.29.11.2011 With Ms.Anjali as per Hindu rights.
    On 3.7.2012 she left the house without any reason and went to her father’s place as per her sweet will. She took her all blogging i.e. Footwear, Jewelry etc. in a shootcase and hand bags.

    her family given our family marriage exp rs.125000/- inclusive of reception

  97. 190 Deepak Maheshwari July 27, 2012 at 8:12 am

    Sir, I, Deepak Maheshwari, I got marriage on dt.29.11.2011 With Ms.Anjali as per Hindu rights.
    On 3.7.2012 she left the house without any reason and went to her father’s place as per her sweet will. She took her all blogging i.e. Footwear, Jewelry etc. in a shootcase and hand bags.

    her family given our family marriage exp rs.125000/- inclusive of reception exp, but her want divorce and want of rs.4 lac – 4.5 lac, and she warning go the court, but i am not able to pay this huge money

    I am working with pvt job and earning of Rs.12000/- per month, and I am staying with our brother house.

    Please advice can i do for this time,

    • 191 M.A. February 27, 2013 at 9:31 am

      No girl will return to her parents without any reason. All a girl wants is love, care, safety and security. Either you defaultered in providng her the basic needs which enforced her to leave her husband’s abode. Find out what is it that is giving her better days at her parents place which you failed to provide. You will find your way out.

  98. 193 SRAM August 5, 2012 at 8:51 am

    sir, i m working as a teaching faculty(private job) in an engg. college i got married in the year 2002 we have i boy his age is 5 years. now bcos of some personal problems she went to her native place , she filed case against me with 498a now she filed mc case ,

    i want to know how much i should give to her according to protocol will u give any guidance

  99. 194 Vishal Gawate August 13, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    Sir, I,Vishal, I got marriage on dt.26.01.2007 With Ms.Meenaxshi as per Hindu rights.
    On 5.3.2009 she left the house without any reason and went to her father’s place as per her sweet will. She took her all blogging i.e. Footwear, Jewelry etc. in a shootcase and hand bags.

    her family given our family marriage exp rs.100000/- inclusive of reception exp, but her want divorce and want of rs.20lac, and she file case into family court, but i am not able to pay this huge money.

    I am working with pvt job and earning of Rs.60000/- per month, and I am staying with my father house.My wife is not earening.

    Please advice can i do for this time,

  100. 195 Mohammed August 29, 2012 at 8:15 pm

    Please read with peace of mind and guide the correct way!

    This is the case of my younger sister,We had performed her marriage in the month of December-2011 to an NRI(who is working in Saudi Arabia).

    After staying here in India with her for 4 months.He went back to Saudi Again.
    We had given a dowry of Rs.75,000 cash and an a scooty of Rs57,000 and the rest as usual.

    He had immediately sold the scooty after one month of marriage and did not inform my sister and us.
    He did not gave a single rupee uptill when he was here in India(i.e 4 months).

    My sisters age was 22years at the time of marriage.

    Before marriage the profile, Which was given to us of him, They had mention his age as 25years and we were shown his photo.We had spoken to him and asked him to come for video chat as we want to see him, He said he works far away from city and there is no facility of internet.
    His family informed us after marriage he will take his bride along with him to Saudi Arabia as he earns (3,500 saudi rials and also runs his own business).
    We meet him at his home one day before marriage, As he looked ok and we could not concluded his age at that time.

    Finally, one fine day my sister came to see his passport,according to which his age is 45years.(more than twice age of my sister).

    He had once send 5000 rupees in the time span of 8-9 months for her expenses.

    She is staying with his family consisting of 2 sister(1-divorced and another batchelor) 2 younger brothers(both un employeed).
    The total expenses is being beared by him.

    He do have have 3 elder brothers every one got married and seperated from family.(Due to harsh behaviour of the groom family).

    My sister is performing all duties of his house like cooking and washing clothes of all and eating fat rice and daily, Which she did not eat in her life.

    Compromising on each and every thing.

    Her future is in dark as her husband is not at all showing intrest to call her to Saudi Arabia on family visa nor for the job visa(she is ready to go on job visa).

    But he is not showing intrest in her and every time caring for his family and stating he need to earn and perform marriages of his younger sister and also brothers.

    His income there is very less as What his family had stated us before.

    The major problem here is his age is near to 50 as he cannot lead a successful married life and the possibility of having childrens is less.
    We got cheated by him and his family and we want to save the future of my sister, As she has to go long way.

    My sister is becoming very weak and her health is getting affected and she is not able to decide “What to do”.

    I want to file a dowry case on him and his family and want my sister to be seperated from him. As she does not have any kids know.

    I need to carry all this process, As my father cannot solve this problem.

    I need to set my sister future as the situation is so critical and i need to take a wise decision.

    Please advice me at the earliest and tell me how to carry the process as i am not aware of the legal process.

    Email ur reply to qualityresponse@yahoo.in

    (Mohammed)

  101. 196 raj September 2, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    Dear Sir,
    My wife deserted me 3 months back and gone to Inlaws house with her parents in my absence and taken my 2 daughters 7 yrs and 2 yrs with her.Marriage is 8 yrs old.now after goining making alligation of DV since last 8 yrs.Even mailed to my employer of the situation and 75% of may salary to go to her.I want divorce and my 2 kids with minimum alimony or maintenance.She is well qualified with Ph.d degree but not working.How much will be alimony or maintenance and chances of getting custody of my kids.How much time it will take and money involved.
    Please guide.How to proceed.
    Rgds,
    Raj

  102. 197 Mohammed September 14, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    Dear Friends,
    Kind Suggestions,Please dont post ur problems here,Because this site had been designed just to earn money.
    As now one will listen to ur problems seriously and give correct decision.
    Its u and ur family should decide and solve ur own problems.

    Dont trust this site people,As every one will post there problems with a hope that some one will show them the right path.
    This thing cannot be expected from this site.

    • 198 siranjeet sandhu January 5, 2013 at 1:12 pm

      on every site answers are given by experienced volunteers that can be in legal profession or gained self experience by passing through same such kind of problem in his life

  103. 199 ABC September 19, 2012 at 1:03 am

    Can you explain how this blog is making money?

  104. 200 S P October 18, 2012 at 5:23 pm

    Hello,

    I have a question for my sister. She is an indian citizen and got married to Indian born australian citizen in Jan 2012. He left her 7 days after the weeding and spoken to her just 4-5 times since then. She has been living with her in laws all this time.Its high time now and she wants to take some action agianst the guy. What are her option as the guy is in australia? How can she make him come back to India using her legal rights?

  105. 201 sumit joshi October 22, 2012 at 9:46 am

    My take home salary is 40,000 per month. My wife file a case of 125. She is doing PHD and already did MBA marketing and capable of earn.
    I dont know weather she is doing a job or not.
    I have to take care my parents and also my younger sister.
    Can you please suggest me what should be the approx maintenance amount that the court will decided.

  106. 202 Sanjeev October 29, 2012 at 1:34 am

    Sir i m into a conflict with my wife. She has filed in d court 4 maintenance. Court has ordered rs15000 +accomodation as interim relief. My tdke home salary is 31000.in its second order court has passed an order tm pay 10000 for accomodation. What d law says. If possible pl pass some judgements also.regards

    • 203 vijay srirang October 29, 2012 at 6:09 am

      this is really harsh its too much a coffer.though there is no specific formula for maintenance you must establish her employment and or her assets and educational capability of sustaining herself at the same time you must show the liabilities loans etc and your dependents and health issues etc this way you can reduce the burden in an appeal of higher court.
      with regards
      srirang

    • 204 siranjeet sandhu January 5, 2013 at 1:02 pm

      1 under which case above said relief is diven DV or HMA 24 or 125 crpc
      2 what is qualification of ur wife (b) present job status (c) previous job status of ur wife
      3 ur liabilties of ur family eg unmarried sister or brother , mother and father depends upon you

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  108. 206 Krishna debnath November 16, 2012 at 3:22 pm

    Sir,
    I am K debnath from Army. i got married on May 2011. after marriage 2 month she harassment to my parents after 3 month i keep my wife at my duty stn till date. 4 month we was went leave then she lived in her father house. she does not go with me.. after 1 month again came back leave and bring in my duty station. after 7 month we went leave. she and her father told me she do not live with me and she want divorce to me. i do not want divorce.
    if she divorce to me so maintenance charge is applicable for me? what percentage will give?
    my salary is 24,000/pm
    plz tell me solution.

    • 207 siranjeet sandhu December 19, 2012 at 3:01 pm

      quantum of maintenance will be more u/s HMA 24 than 125 crpc
      if u go for divorce u/s 13 HMA or RCR u/s 9 HMA u have to pay maintenance u/s 24 HMA so first let her to do anything
      otherwise she will file maintenance u/s 125 crpc
      and now u should wait and watch for their action as if case is filed for maintenance then u have to pay from date of application or date of file of case

  109. 208 Sathyaa November 28, 2012 at 10:15 pm

    Hi Sir,
    I am married for 3.5years now. I have a 2.5years Kid now.I recently constructed a house for 15 lakhs now the situation is my wife and mother-in-law filing summon against me for divorce and false complaints and they had a lawyer who plays an important role in my life with too many complaints .I am not clear at this point.I am frustrated with this problem,is there anyone can help me please.I too have a lawyer.Today I am going to meet him and discuss about this situation. what should I do at this point.
    I would appreciate your response.
    Thanks,
    Sathyaa.

    • 209 siranjeet sandhu January 5, 2013 at 12:55 pm

      if your wife wants divorce then go mutual consented divorce and if she had filed divorce and u have even to not to fight divorce and ur wife get ex parte divorce
      but if other false cases like DV , 498a or 125 crpc filed against u , u have to fight those cases

  110. 210 KN MANJUNATH December 18, 2012 at 8:02 am

    My Daughter was maried to a welll educated PG Engineer two years back. Every week The boy used to beat her as a ritual wihout any reason.I thought things would turn for the better,as in between beating sessions, there was some conjugal life. He turnd more and more hostile as months passed. The boys mother says that he is like that only and my daughter, if she wants may live with him as a door mat, or go for a divorce. We were apalled by a mothers attitude to things.Finally things became worse as the parents along with the son started emotionally blackmailing her on a daily basis.I brought my daughter back. Now that I have sent messages to them that they should agree for a divorce by mutual consent, or else face the prospect of arrest and a long drawn litigation. What would you think is a reasonable amount of one time alimony to be claimed?. The boy earns Rs 40 lacs a year and it would hurt him most even to part a rupee. Experts and experienced in the linemay Pl leave a reply. My daughter is not employed for all practical purposes and there are are no issues.MANJUNATH.

  111. 212 palani December 18, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    Very helpful for me as i struggling wih case

  112. 213 suresh January 1, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    i got married in 2003, and have 2 boy children, after i got divorced on cruelty and they havn’t filled any maintenance as they are sound finicial background, although i didn’t do purposelly just as treat.. i was waiting for her more than 2 yrs …no change in her attitude ..finally i sent letter to informing that i am going for sencond marriage, but no response i got second marriage with poor widow (qulaification of Phd). she left me within one month for simple reasons.. now i wish to see my children & i applied for visitation rights which i may likely to get 2 months… also i want to divorce my second wife …how to get rid off second wife without any laibilities.. is there any law as i can fille desertion like that …as she left me more than 2 yrs now.

    • 214 siranjeet sandhu January 5, 2013 at 12:43 pm

      u can get visiting rights under Guardian and wards act under section 12 of GWA but your previous wife can file maintenance on behalf of ur children u/s 125crpc as well as herself if she is not earning. so this visiting right application can be harmful to u as invitation to her to harm u
      you can apply divorce to ur 2nd wife on the basis desertion and in desertion u have to prove that she had left without just and sufficient cause which is even difficult to prove as no lady say that left her husband without any reason and mostly ladies blames for demand of dowry and ill treatment and so on by her husbands

  113. 215 santosh January 6, 2013 at 5:40 pm

    what is the monthly maintenance of wife if husband earn 25000 per month.

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  115. 217 lipi January 12, 2013 at 10:30 am

    hi,

    I got married on 2002 in a mandir and they gave us a certificate of hindu arya samaj vivah. after marriage of 15 days he took me to his family. while staying there in 2005 in front of my eyes he had been caught by the police due to entangled with a murder case and kept in jail about 3 yrs. meanwhile after his prisonment, afer one month I came to know that I am pregnant and I came back to my parental house.
    the period when I was in my in-laws house was so pathetic because our marriage is love marriage……his elder sister also living there who got married after my marriage and now also she is staying there only with her child of 8 yrs of age. he is generally not a bad person to me bt due to family’s opinion sometimes he was very very rude to me. even many times they all jointly attacked on me…..like this various reasons I couldn’t stay there. although i tried so many times to live there happily bt i couldn’t..

    now i have a child of 6 yrs and i want to b separated from this confused life what should i do? before 9 months ago he has took away my child and now my child is staying with his father. so i want to know that whether this marriage need a divorse from court or i can b separated by my own……..or what should i do?

    Please advice me at the earliest and tell me how to carry the process as i am not aware of the legal process.

  116. 218 J Singh January 24, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    Dear sir

    Its been almost 10 years of my marriage, but my wife has not been faithful to me. I came to know all these things recently. she has an affair with some one and her voice has been recorded while talking with that guy by my brother as I m not in India, working abroad. that guy was handed over to the local police also where he admitted that he is having an affair with my wife and he gave all this in writing also to the police but becoz of our defamation, we did not file any case on him. Its really very heartbroken news for me as I love my wife and my wife also confessed that she has an affair. i gave everything to wife and and use to feed up her family. but she deceived me. and in coming days, i was calling my family to abroad and for this i wen to india for their passports , now their passports have come but she has gone from heart.

    Now I have decided to leave her but without any money. we have two daughters – one is seven years old living with my mother as my wife does not care of my children and use to stay at her mom s place and second daugher is 2 years old, she is with them but my wife also does not care of her also. my mother in law takes care of her. now, i understood everything thats why she does not live with us in my absence.

    Please advise how can teach her a lesson for deceiving a husband.

    pls respond to my email

  117. 219 swarna February 9, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    According to Hindu Adoptions and Maintenance Act (1956) “”If the wife is widowed by her late husband, then it is the duty of the father-in-law to provide for her.

    what happends if the husband is of unsound mind and he is not capable to give maitenance to his wife…. then the wife can claim maintenance from her father-in-law ???

    • 220 lipi February 10, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      swarna,
      As per the Indian law, a divorce shall not be entitled to any financial support from their spouse. This, however, is not entirely true. It all depends on the financial position of the spouse. And u surprised to know that , depending on the circumstances, a husband also has the right to ask for alimony.
      In the event of the husband becoming incapacitated due to some disease or accident, and thereby, is rendered incapable of earning for a livelihood, he then has the right to claim alimony. And there is no provision of giving alimony from father-in-law. Bye.

      thanks.

      • 221 swarna February 10, 2013 at 7:44 pm

        ok thankyou for ur reply sir..

        if some in – laws has hide that their son is of unsound mind and an impotent and after marriage only the wife came to know the facts …
        in that situation the daughter – in – law can institute a cheating case against their in laws..

      • 222 lipi February 13, 2013 at 6:19 am

        ya of course in this case, a daughter-in-law can get easily divorced from her husband.

  118. 223 chanchala February 13, 2013 at 3:41 pm

    one of my close friend is suffering from same problem.Divya has same problem thats why she lodge an FIR agains her husband. dont worry divya god will give punishment. After marriage she is come to know that her husband is a mental patient. She did not tell to her widow mother because she don’t want to make her mother sorrow. but what her situation in short is as following”Date of Social marriage: feb 2012 Type of marriage :arrange From the 1st date my parents in law miss behaved with me.afterward my husband also make a torture to me. Always I keep silence, since I want some peaceful life. also I afraid divorce. I always afraid that if he give me divorce what should I do? where should I stay?our physical relationship is also very pathetic to me.he used to bite my
    until some liquid comes. he used to bite everywhere in my body. if I said its not tolerable. he angrily said “thats why I am not satisfied. What my in laws family says about my miss behavioral: on some day on the month of may my widow mother came to our in laws family to invite us. My mother trying to inform us but due to our(my husband my father-in-law including me) ignorance my mother unable to inform us. When my mother came my mother-in-law objected to my father-in-law in very rough language “why my mother came here without informing us”. This hurt me. I told my mother to go to my sister house. don’t stay here. My mother-in-law hear this and created noisy environment. Then I pardon to my mother-in-law.After ward when my husband and my father-in-law came she began to cry. That I am very bad girl. repeated my mother-in-law says this and I pardon to her. form July 12 we have no contact. They lock the door whenever I go to my in-laws house and send me letter including lawyer latter that I did not fulfill Hindu marital law. I went to my in-laws house without informing them they driven out.by neck also beating me in front of public place. This really hamper my
    prestige. Then I go to police and lodge an FIR. they took bell.”
    they took all the jewelries including from mother side also her necessary certificates.

  119. 224 sifaat mansoor February 15, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    i was married 1year 3months back my income is 5000/-per month and my wife is 2nd puc.we have 9month old boy baby.my wife always go and sit in her dad home for many months for samll misunderstandings.i always go convence her and bring her.but again she went now its 5months and no contacts till now complaind in police station,mousq also but she is not ready to come.she want to go saperate but i cant effort it even my parents are old.still now not seen my son also.her parents are also saporting her.now wat we have to do.we are scard of dowry or harrasment case.

  120. 225 Pratibha February 20, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    It has been 17 years of my marriage, I live with my husband we have 3 children. My husband is abusive to me and my children, its almost everyday when he hit me or my children and threats me for divorce. My eldest daughter is in 10th class and wants to prepare for engineering which needs a considerable amount of money, education expenses of other two younger sons are also large. He dont want children to have good education even he disturbs their study. I am forced to compromise with all his harassment just because i want my children to complete their education as they dream, I am in extreme trauma. Please suggest if there any way that i live separately with my children and get compensation sufficient for their education. He runs transport business and has earning around 70000 per month.

  121. 226 sunny March 8, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    Sir,i m married on feb17 2012,l live with mother and father, my annul income is 90000 per year,soon after 5 months of marriage v started quallering on some or other issue & from last 6 months she is living with her p arents,& now she had given birth to son also, her age is 32 & she is bsc computers qualified,& now I
    Decided to end the relationship sir please guide me how should i have to apply for divorce& how much andimony i have to paid,sir plz reply must

  122. 228 harry March 10, 2013 at 6:03 am

    i am married since dec 2001,at that time she was doing her masters so just after marraige she left me n gone to hostel .i m in central govt transferable job . than she off n on frequently doing that meanwhile it resulted in clonflict n interference her parrents aggreveted the issue.she never respected my parants nor stayed with them during my holidays .after marraige she done msc,BEd,phd,coaching for civil services , bank po but not succeded even after so much of support n finances she complains i have not supported her.ater 8 yrs of marraige frequently she stays with her parant n while my lve i was at my house n she with her parants even distance of 1 km. anyways till 9 yrsshe was not able to conceive so i went for ivf n her egg was not good so in 2nd ivf n donar egg we blessed with 1 son n 1 daughter twih now again since dec 2012 she is with her parents with my kids n not ready to come back n even not attainding phone n not allowing to spk to my babies now they will of 1 yr n saying even i go there she will not allow to bring my babies at my place even it is their 1st b day n not ready to come n theatening for divorce. i have 01 flate on loan in my name n one plot in my name my salary is 1 lc per month . pl advice my course of action in details with alimonyproperty share , babies custody n other pros n conce .

  123. 229 kirti parmar March 20, 2013 at 5:12 pm

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    • 235 vijay srirang May 6, 2013 at 6:35 am

      your appropriate ground would be desertion in case if is two years of separation because particularly you are interested in getting her back you can escape from financial liability, if you have time first u file restitution of conjugal rights

  128. 236 gokul prashanth May 6, 2013 at 4:56 am

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    Hello, i am married for 12 yrs having 2 kids aged 9 and 6 yrs. I am housewife and i wanted to know pros and cons of divorce and custody of kids i wanted to seperate due to my agressive and violent husband .will i get maintanance and custody of my kids and wil i inherit my husbands property? Also i am worried coz he is too powerfull he might pull some influential strings and get away.

  131. 239 sahil May 30, 2013 at 11:56 am

    hello, my father lives in delhi , but he doesn’t give us money to live in karnal , me , my sis, my mom are living in karnal,haryana. she is housewife, we are living in my mom’s father house,
    my father is in delhi police, we want Maintenance every month,
    is this any law that’s gives us right for it
    plz reply me fast
    thanks

    • 240 womansuffering May 31, 2013 at 9:06 pm

      i am not a lawyer but suggest you that u submit one letter with attaching marriage certificate in the higher officer than your father claiming alimony. As well as apply for 125 case in the nearest court.
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  132. 241 george June 1, 2013 at 9:44 am

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  133. 242 sonia June 5, 2013 at 5:00 am

    i got married in 2003, now from last 4 yrs we are seprate and i have 1 girl child that is not normal we have that after 5 yrs of marriage now she 4.5 yrs
    can i take a claim from my husband he is not agree for mutual settlement

  134. 243 divorceadvise2013 June 17, 2013 at 8:40 am

    I got married last year. I am Post graduate from a well known University.
    I am living in a joint family with my brother & his wife. Mother and father. After my marriage I got to know many things about my wife that was told to me was not right as i got to know after marriage. I was told she is doing MBA and in the bio-data they mentioned it, but it never happened after marriage. She is very ill-spoken, she always tries to dominate me and my family. She dont have eticates to speak to anyone in the family, always tries to get money to do shopping. She spent her all salary doing shopping for the things that are useless and waste.

    We (whole family) has made her understand several times that you are not well behaved, mannered .. even her parents came to our home several times at different intervals when there are issues at home. She seems to be very rude, has attitude issues and always tries to show that she is the most superior in the family.

    We dont have a child, I didn’t plan bcoz i was observing her behaviour since months. Now the things has gone bad and i want to know what can she claim. I have few properties/bank accounts in my name. Can i now change the owner of my property? Will it affect something in divorce case.

  135. 244 sandy June 17, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    I got married in may,2009 through some relative middle person. After 1 day of marriage my wife who is M Com started behaving insane . After showing her to psychiatrist he said she had serious disorders but can’t give any certificate for court. Same happened with 2 other doctors. Her parents denied any such issue and said it may be some black magic etc. We left her at home saying that I am returning to my working base in other city and will come back after getting room. With in 10-15 days of marriage I returned and filed for annulment in court & police for fraud. After getting the police notice in next 10-15 days the other party came in ladies police station & asked for settlement. But they refused that their daughter will sign a document which stated if their daughter condition does not improve we will have mutual consent divorce. After failure of this they filed false cases under maintenance, dowry and DV act . Luckily my parents got anticipatory bail and when I appeared I also got it easily as they said they want divorce & settlement. After repeated dates we agreed on a formula ,but they did not brought their daughter on date & just got signed paper. So judge gave permanent bail. After that we went for agreement as due to continuous leaves and travel my job was getting affected & we paid 3 lacs in 2010. But this was without mutual consent divorce cause. They went to high court & with draw all cases . We tried to get them to file for mutual consent but the other party did n’t agree. So in 2012 we filed for divorce . Now they asked for maintenance & judge has said to pay litigation & 3.5 k / month. should I file review petition in high court. what r my options as along with justice my priority is to save my career since I have to travel due to job & can not take too many leaves to go to home town to attend the case (1 week for each date ).

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  137. 246 Vishal Mane July 16, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    Dear Sir
    i married 7 months before and my wife got pregnant and will get the baby in september-2013, We had lot of family conflicts and i demanded for the Divorce. My wife is post graduate in Arts

    As i m earning 17000/- per month what would be the divorce amount i shall pay for her and for child.

    And can i go for the One time settlement for the same

    Regards
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  138. 248 Sanjeev July 19, 2013 at 7:20 am

    Dear All,

    My name is Sanjeev and i have been married for more than 7 years and i have a 3.5 year old son as well. Ours was a love marriage and we lived abroad for the 1st year in Sydney and then we cam back to Delhi. The 1st 2 odd years went fine however after that difference started to crop up between her and my family which never got sorted out. My parents belong to the 18th century and my wife to the 21st. We also started to fight upon trivial issues and at times did not talk properly for months. She asked for divorce every now and then and i never let that happen nor did i let anyone know about it. Last Dec she again asked for divorce and this time around i told about the same to my in laws. Things went from bad to worse and things never came back on track as i beleive she is being influenced by her office colleagues. She has left me on the 15th June and has taken my son along. I am not able to live even for a day without both of them and have also realised what mistakes i have made. I am willing to change whatever i can change in me however she doesn’t want to give me a chance. I am even willing to move along with her however she is not willing. Please show me a path as to what should i do. She might take me to court one fine day, in that case what should i do to prevent divorce and to seek one last chance at life. Please guide me

    Thanks & Regards
    Sanjeev

  139. 250 Prince Larry July 22, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    After 9 years in marriage with my hubby with 3 kids, my husband started going out with other ladies and showed me cold love, on several occasions he treatens to divorce me if I dare question him about his affair with other ladies, I was totally devastated and confused until a old friend of mine told me about a spell caster on the internet Dr. Trust who help people with the relationship and marraige problem by the powers of love spells, at first I doubted if such thing ever exists but decided to give it a try, when I contact him, he helped me cast a spell and within 24hours my husband came back to me and started apologising, now he has stoped going out with ladies and he his with me for good and for real. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problem at ultimatespellcast@gmail.com. Goodluck

  140. 251 manisha sharma July 25, 2013 at 10:14 am

    i have married 10 yrs back at that time it was told to us that the boy is graduate & having a stationery shop , but after marriage we found the boy is under graduate & after marriage the shop was also sold and from last many years my husband is not at all working , i am a teacher in a very good school , i have also completed my education after marriage , i am having 8 yrs old son , i am only taking care of all my expenses my son , my husband , i also live with my father & brother now i want divorce from my husband as he dont want to do any job just depended on us , what are the Alimony i can demand from my husband or his father mother on legal ground , please guide us

  141. 252 manisha sharma July 25, 2013 at 10:15 am

    i have married 10 yrs back at that time it was told to us that the boy is graduate & having a stationery shop , but after marriage we found the boy is under graduate & after marriage the shop was also sold and from last many years my husband is not at all working , i am a teacher in a very good school , i have also completed my education after marriage , i am having 8 yrs old son , i am only taking care of all my expenses my son , my husband , i also live with my father & brother now i want divorce from my husband as he dont want to do any job just depended on us , what are the Alimony i can demand from my husband or his father mother on legal ground , please guide us

    • 253 puneet September 11, 2013 at 5:23 am

      hi Manisha Sharma , why you want to divorce . divorce is not a solution. you are going to father name to your son life. you have try to move to Family Consultant .then going for divorce side

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  145. 259 ajay pal August 10, 2013 at 6:04 pm

    Me and my wife have filed for a joint divorce, where she has signed the documents stating that the maintenance and all has been settled between the two of us as she did not want anything as such.I was laid off in 2008 aug and was without a job till 2009 sept , whereafter i took loan from my father and went for a Masters in U.K since the time i have come back i have not been able to get a job, till date , besides i have a very ill, father (retired Govt offr) , who is a Parkinson patient , who can hardly go about doing his routine things and needs assistance in all things, which my old mother cannot take care of so i have to do them. Now since we filed for a divorce in December 2012, these people have been insisting on me giving in writing that she has not taken any maintenance and has asked for custody of the child as well, which they want it in writing from me and also 50% of the childs expenses and an amount close to 7.5 Lacs that i had taken from my wife.I did try and reason that once i start to earn will i be able to give money but still have agreed to give it in writing…I was wanting to know if i too can ask for maintenance from my wife on the above mentioned grounds.

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  148. 265 Sharron Jenna Phills August 18, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    After 1.5 year relationship with my boyfriend, he changed suddenly and stopped contacting me regularly, he would come up with excuses of not seeing me all the time. He stopped answering my calls and my sms and he stopped seeing me regularly. I then started catching him with different girls several times but every time he would say that he love me and that he needed some time to think about our relationship.But cannot stop thinking about him so i decided to go online and i saw so many good talk about this spell caster and i contact him and explain my problems to him.He cast a love spell for me which i use and after 2 day, my boyfriend came back to me and started contacting me regularly and we moved in together after a few months and he was more open to me than before and he started spending more time with me than his friends. We eventually got married and we now have been married happily for 3 years with a son. Ever since Dr.Kumar of spellcasttemple@gmail.com helped me, my partner is very stable, faithful and closer to me than before.You can also contact this spell caster and get your relationshp fix Email: SPELLCASTTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM

  149. 266 newly.wedded.wife August 19, 2013 at 5:32 am

    We got married in 14 months ago. It was an arranged marriage and we had a healthy courtship period of 6 months. Our marriage is not yet consummated. On our first night, my husband did try to get close with me. Since we both were very tired due to the week-long wedding rituals, I told him that I was not comfortable, and he obliged. After 3 days of marriage, we left for our 1week honeymoon. There I noticed that he started maintaining distance from me. I thought that maybe he felt offended because I was not ready to get physical with him on our first night. So I tried to break the ice and get close to him to initiate our physical relationship, but still he maintained his distance. After we came back from our honeymoon, I tried multiple times to get close with him, but still he was aloof. I found it quite strange. Meanwhile, I read one overtly homo-sexual chat he had with his friends couple of years back. And seriously suspected that he is gay, so I also withdrew slowly.

    After 6 months of marriage, he forced me to leave his house, and am residing with my parents currently. Me and my parents have tried innumerable times to sort things out and start our life afresh. But he is adamant about his decision and wants only divorce. He and his parents are forcing me to give them a mutual divorce. His reason for seeking divorce is that my attitude and behaviour with him was not right. I’ve apologised innumerable times if I hurt him, but he would just not listen. The problem is, he doesnt even want to talk about anything.

    We told them that since divorce is a big, life-changing decision, we should take it a little slow and give our relationship another chance. I’ve told him that we could give this marriage another chance and if even then he feels that we cant work things out, then we’ll close this gracefully. But he doesnt even want to give our marriage another chance.

    I am not working currently. I have more than 2yr sabbatical in my career. I’ve been staying at my parents place for more than 8 months now. I’ve filed for interim maintenance and I’ve been told that it would take atleast 45 days to reach them. I would be happy if anyone could suggest any further steps that I could take.

    Thanks,

    • 267 puneet September 11, 2013 at 4:59 am

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  150. 270 Anand September 18, 2013 at 6:32 am

    Dear Sir, My sister got married in 2001 and she had a 12yrs old girl. Out of this 12 yrs marriage, my sister lived with her husband for 3-4 yrs only. most of the time my sister stayed with us only. Her husband is a addiction of Alcohol, illegal contacts & doubting wife’s character. Every festival seasons & some function days, he drunk fully and come to my house for squarrelling & treat us with very bad words. His words were hurted our family alot. some time my parents were depressed and telling me ” we should not to live in this world. Finally my sister sent a divorce notice. But he replied ” he wont give divorce and he want to live with my sister”. But we know his actual target is to make our whole family commit suicide. we were a middle class family and with my one income, 6 peoples living. My Sister earning 6000/- rs per month only. she dont have any property. Her husband having his own house after he got married only. and he rebuild the house with my sister’s jewels only. At present the jewel cost may be 10lakhs. the cost of house may be around 60-70 lakhs now. He telling ” if u want divorce, i will give 2 lakhs. If u agree then i will give divorce, otherwise No. Please advice me how to approach this issue further? Can my sister get some good maintenance from her husband? Can she get share in his husband’s property?/

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  152. 274 Stacey Bush September 22, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    i just want to share my testimony here.. i was married for 15 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the life of my husband.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned me and my 5 kids.. so someone told me about trying love spell to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster called dr. ogala spell…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things… then when he cast the spell, after 3 days that he told me, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man help, his email address (Ogalalovespell@yahoo.com) his spells is for a better life.

  153. 275 Seema Gupta September 24, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    Hi my name is Seema
    want to ask about my friend’s case
    Uski marriage 2006 me hui thi
    night ko 4 o’clock usko dowry k liye nikal diya
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  154. 276 viki September 26, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    hi, i got married 1.5 years back, it was decided that my wife will stay with my mother,sister n brother for 1 year bcoz of some family problem n girl side were agreed to it. wife left home 3 months after marriage without any gud reason her father said he will bring her back in 10-15 days. but instead of that he started asking 5 alkh rs to dissolve marriage.
    i requested wife n her relative many times to bring her back n so that we can resolve problem if thr any but she refuse to come after 4 months she and her father again started arguing with me saying me that u should leae ur parents then only she will leave with u that too in pune when i told them abt my condtition they did not undersantad and she refuse to come back. then girl started to abuse my family she called 2-3 relative of my family n started abusing my mothr very badly. she was not with me on ganesh utsav, diwali

    3 days later she file complaint 125cf and 3-4 month later 498a we somehow got bail in 498a ..125c maintenace case is still going on she was asking for 3 alkh but in last court date her faather abuse me and beat me on court as well as on bust stop as i was alone that day. i wanted to settle case by giving around 2.5 lakh rs but i dont know after so uch thing i realy dont want want to give even single money to wife
    court hhearing regarding 125c will start from next date my pay is 50k in hand she is BA BEd. my father expired 7 yrs back siter doing job from last year gettig 8 k per month brother in 11th std, mother is houewife i stay in different city .. i can prove few things whcih she has mentioned in her application wrong very properly …she lives in villege , her father has 3 acres farm, n 2 bhk …2 daugter n 2 son … how much maintenance she can get? what r ways to reduced it? she is educated n marriege was very short how it will help in reducing maintence? what should i do now to reduced it further? is thr any different suggestion other than this.? i really wants to get out of this thing i try to talk with girl very properly last time but her ego n atitude made it difficult n in end i end up getting beaten from her father

    plz help thnx

    • 277 Advocate Atwal September 26, 2013 at 6:06 pm

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  155. 279 Robert Caston September 30, 2013 at 4:12 am

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  156. 280 kalpana October 25, 2013 at 1:55 pm

    Hi,
    I’m married for 18 yrs and having a daughter 17yrs and son 12yrs. I am in constant conflict with my husband. Ours is love marriage. But I can call it all infactuation since i fell in love when I was just 14yrs. It was all a childs play. Right from the beginning he seemed to be an irresponsible fellow. Additionally he is now an alcoholic and a bipolar disorder patient. I stay with my mom as she is bed ridden. For the past two months he stays with his mother and refuses to give money. I am a home maker. I don’t want to live together but require maintenance. Kindly guide me .

    gth.kalpana@gmail.com.

    Thank you.

  157. 282 k k chauhan October 29, 2013 at 12:32 am

    dear sir,
    mai ap se jaanana chahata hu ki husband ki death ke baad kya ladki apne sasur (father in law ) se apne child ke liye maintenance ki demand court me kar sakti hai

  158. 286 Sameer October 29, 2013 at 6:28 am

    What if husband is not willing to give divorce to his wife but mentally torture her for dowry.
    The marriage was held four months ago.
    Due to low financial positions wife want quick divorce but don’t want a long case due to low financial position. This time wife is with her parents at her home. But husband is calling her again to come back but she doesn’t want to because of same reason. What to do now for quick divorce? Is women cell is preferable, but as I hear about women cell is that they first allow wife to live with husband but wife doesn’t want to go back to that cruel person. What to do?

  159. 288 edwin November 11, 2013 at 11:19 pm

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  161. 290 devisri November 26, 2013 at 5:19 pm

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  162. 291 tushar pandit December 1, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    just to ask a few things.. with regards to divorce..
    1. wife left her husbands home on her own after filing for divorce..
    2. she asked for a settlement of 11 lacs for the same..
    3. my monthly income is less than hers and i have been paying for the monthly EMI since we bought the house in 2002;;
    4, due to huge financial burden i was not able to raise the 11 lacs either thru friends or thru banks.
    5. now she is putting a claim on the house for selling it and dividing the proceeds..
    6 what is a solution to this serious problem of mine.. once again there was no physical harassment whatsoever.. she went out on her own and is now saying that the rented place is very expensive hence she wants a share of this house..

    regards..

    tushar pandit

  163. 292 ss December 13, 2013 at 6:02 pm

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  166. 295 MP January 29, 2014 at 11:31 am

    Hello Sir,
    I have remarried to a divorcee.
    1. He has a daughter from his first marriage. he almost pay Rs.32000/- per month to his ex-wife for his daughter. His after tax income is Rs.1 lac per month.
    After marriage he has refused to take my and my would be child’s responsibility. Can he do so?
    2. His ex-wife is constantly poking her nose in our life. She always emotionally blackmail him for extracting money. Now she does it for breaking our relationship. What legal action can be taken against her?
    3. I am 8 months pregnant from this marriage. What will be my child’s rights in this case on my husband’s income. In verse case, can my child get similar amount of maintenance as his first daughter gets?

    I want to save my marriage from breaking.
    Can you please guide me? and also give me information about my rights in this situation.

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  167. 296 dinesh kumar January 30, 2014 at 10:51 am

    sir , i have married in 2006 but my wife stay with me 8 month and so many harries to me and born a female baby and he has file a crpc125 and family court mooradabad award Rs. 2000 for wife and Rs1000 for child i was filed a rit in high court and stay with 50 % amount but she is not satisfy to this .
    i want to divorce but she is not get divorce to me and she is file some false case over me so kindly help me what me do pl guide me thank you

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    LIPSA DASH..lipsadash1988@gmail.com

  177. 306 Lipsa Dash March 5, 2014 at 4:08 pm

    I, Smt. Lipsa, married at my hometown as per Hindu rites and caste custom & was fully arranged marriage.As per their demand my parents have given a cash of Rs 4,00,000/- gold weighing about 5 tolas to my husband,16 tolas of gold ornaments to me, Rs 25,000/-towards the cost of the suit, and another Rs 1,50,000/-towards the cost of other household articles and I joined my husband in his residential house at Bhubaneswar on the same day to lead our happy conjugal life. That just after one day being not satisfied with the given dowry cash and articles my husband and his family members being instigated by his uncle & aunt insisted me to bring more cash and more gold and when I expressed the inability of my father to meet their further demand of dowry so they all started to torture me both physically and mentally but considering my future and the reputation of my father I tolerated the same under the impression that at least my husband will understand the fact but all my expectations ended in vain. That after few days as per the caste custom when my parents called to my husband and me for “Kothamelani” my husband and his family members misbehaved him and deliberately refused to co-operate to observe the said custom and asked me to go with him and his mother to Delhi and my mother-in-law father-in-law and aunt-in-law took away all my gold ornaments at Bhubaneswar in presence of my husband giving me the impression that to go to Delhi with gold will lead to life risk. That even in Delhi my husband and mother-in-law finding me alone there repeated the same torture and my mother-in-law did not allow us to keep our conjugal relation unless my parents fulfill their further demand of dowry and his mother did not allow me to talk to my parents over telephone and snatched my own cell phone and ultimately my father sent me another cell phone at his own cost to communicate them the problem if any. Even my MIL asked me 1/3rd of my father’s property & along with extra 5 lakhs money. Let me reveal that salary of my husband is 12 lakhs p.a . That during my stay with my husband in Delhi I have also noticed him to have receiving the telephonic calls from his girlfriends in the odd hours of the night and being protest by me he has also assaulted me twice even he has not hesitated in showing a knife aiming at my neck without any reasonable cause and when the torture went beyond my toleration I was compelled to report my father over telephone to rescue me so he had come to Delhi. That again in the meantime my father with our relatives has also taken many attempts to settle the dispute amicably but my husband and his family members have avoided & misbehaved. Please help me what to do for justice..
    LIPSA DASH..lipsadash1988@gmail.com

  178. 307 Lipsa Dash March 6, 2014 at 3:19 am

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    LIPSA DASH..lipsadash1988@gmail.com

    • 308 suffering women March 6, 2014 at 12:24 pm

      Every girl has same problem. Still now in India dowry going on so nicely. Being a girl first of all I suggest you dont give your real name here. Do something on your own that is the best slap to them. Our law procedure is too lengthy dont go for law. Lawyer used to say something which really hamper your and your father image. What law did with me I just discuss here.

      1> Whenever I went to our in-laws house with police officer, police officer whisper with my aunty-in-law and my mother-in-law.

      2>IO did not ask to any body about my physical torture to any of the neighbor.

      3> IO Still now did not make any chrage sheet (around one and half years ago I filed an FIR.

      I would suggest you If your father-in-law is in higher position and your brother/father not in good position dont go for law. Our law is for only for the member who have the power.

      • 309 Lipsa Dash March 6, 2014 at 3:40 pm

        thnx ma’am…..men really thinks themselves as GOD after marrying a girl..Relation doesnot matter for them but money does….when they dont get money from their wife they also starts extra marital affairs also…only to ruin their life…

      • 310 Ish June 2, 2014 at 4:45 pm

        our law is only to play in any way…u r right..if a girl has no such power she has no right to fight against the torture. Coz while fighting its more suffering than u suffered with the abusive man or family.

      • 311 suffering women June 3, 2014 at 5:58 am

        To Ish ..I dont think at the time of fighting I suffer more than at my marital home. But whenever I do some compromise in my marital home with lot of expectation, when I go to court I think total waste of time. bcz I think we r live in male dominating society. except law all are in favor of boy family even the judge, police.

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    I’m Ela from Italy. My husband left me for no reason on 24th of May 2011. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself. I’ve tried different spell casters and went to different churches to pray but all to no avail. My life was very bitter and sorrowful. Then one day, a friend of mine told me about a man called Da abacha. he said him gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won 5 fives consecutively. I didn’t believe it because I’ve worked with so many of them and it didn’t work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great man called Dr abacha. I contacted him and I gave him the necessary information. after the days which he gave me, the next day which was on the 29th of July, I received a call and it was my darling husband. He apologized and came back to me crying for a second change and he even gave me money to start up a business as a means of compensating me on that very day before leaving. I’m now a very a happy woman and our marriage vows were renew again and ever since he has shown me love like never before. Thank you dear Dr abacha, I will forever be grateful to you. You can reach him in this email:abachasolutiontemple367@gmail.com. she will solve any problem you are facing now. Try him today and share your own testimony. i know some people will look at it in the other way round, don’t ever hide your problem, because if you do, you will never find the solution. also share your problem with friends, they might be of help to you. thanks for taking your time to read my testimony

  207. 343 LAL August 13, 2014 at 12:11 am

    HOW I GOT MY HUSBAND BACK!!!

    Thank you for your article! It touches my heart deeply because I have recently went through something similar case .About 3 years ago my husband left me and 2 of our kids for 3years to another woman. During this years of our separation I was so broken, so I finally went to a friend of mine who directed me to a spell caster Dr. Akim who helps me in reuniting my family and then i felt peace and felt whole love again. After the casting of the love spell, My Ex-husband offered me a job, to work at his His company. so I obeyed and went. After working together in 1 week we had come closer & starting dating and hanging out as a family with the kids again, Dr. Akim has restored our marriage in a way I have NEVER expected, but I’m truly Thankful!

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  208. 344 Rahul Singh August 26, 2014 at 2:24 am

    Sir my monthly income 5000 and court say me 3000 RS per month giving wife n my small son this not possible for me giving payment it’s large sir plz reply me what can I do becoz my parents already patient his very old

  209. 346 kim September 5, 2014 at 5:42 pm

    I need advise, am married for four years and now have a child who is 9months.my husband stays in Dubai and I stay in Delhi. I came here lswt year for the purpose of delivery, its now a year. My husband abd in laws are playing cheap games with me. On the name of rituals my in laws told my husband not to pay anything for my delivery. And it’s been 9months, that he hardly gave me money for my and my child expenses.
    If ask why he is doing he will make up stories and say he will not look after me bit will do for child! But for that Aldo he took advise from his father and says that monthly 4000 is also too much.

    I send him a msg saying that its top much of domestic drama, his parent’s send me back to delhi from Mumbai forcefully and now this drama. I said if he won’t do the right things then I have to take legal help.

    For which he threatens me and say do whatever I wish.

    Kindly let me know what can I do. And is there anyway to get a lawyer who don’t charge fees ( might sound stupid,as am not working)

    Your guidance ull be dry helpful.

    Regards

  210. 347 gracy mardi September 6, 2014 at 11:08 am

    dear sir
    my friend is getting divorce from his wife from 3 years. He spend his marriage life 27 years. For his wife misbehavior and continue insult in public he filed divorce case. he is now giving 3500 for maintenance also but his wife did not giving divorce to him. He had a share with his wife in property and he had a child of 23 years and he also giving her daughter 10000 for education from LIC insurance. please give suggestion now what should he do to get divorce.

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  219. 356 rahul bajaj September 29, 2014 at 5:31 pm

    Hey to all,

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    my wife is very very angry lady, she can’t live with my parents
    due to this behaviour she always fight with me and my parents.

    she filled maintenance case and one other case right to live with me in my house.

    she try to commit suicide two times in my house.

    Our all family members are in shock.

    I fill a divorce case on the basis of cruelty.

    But she do not want to live me easily .

    she is earning 24000/- pm , my salary is 13000/- pm
    we had a girl child , 6 years old , school going .
    She said to me I will not marry again and also do not let you free .

    she demand one time settlement 12 lac + all her belongings.

    i do not have money , i belong to very poor family,

    she like to take revenge from me and my family.

    Now my question are :-

    1. can I take custody of my daughter.
    2. how much amount of maintenance should I have to pay for child.
    3. what I can do if she do not give me divorce.
    4.we did not stay together from so long time ( 3 years ) , with out any sex relation ship , can I get divorce on that grounds.

    please give advice me ….

    my lower said me to do marriage again / or show me the way for live in relationship with any other girl.

    I am confused , please advice me ……..

    rahulbajajrahul@yahoo.in

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  223. 360 ashok singh bisht October 22, 2014 at 4:14 pm

    Sir my wife filed complaint at c.A.W cell where i gone but she is not giving any +ve respone to live with me as on every date she didnot talk to me due extra pressure given by hwr parents and his advocate also mindwashed her and take her in faith that you will get soon divorce outside he was there as he didnot tries to solve case on 10/10/2014 they filed case for mentainence amout that is 15000 rs in which my 4+ daughter living with me since she left us on 10/8/2014 kindly tell me can we hire govt advct. As i have alow income of 10984 Rs only

  224. 361 kameshwar das October 25, 2014 at 9:46 am

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