I decided to blog this comment someone left me. He is offering to counsel you and help prevent a break down in your marriage. I don’t have any association with him, and the disclaimers apply. All the same give it a shot if you need it.
The main reason for our organization is to Save the Indian Family. One part of this is to try and save marriages. We are concentrating on fighting 498a and other barbaric laws, but I noticed that no one is concentrating on saving marriages. My wife had filed 125 and other cases 4 yrs back. She then resumed her affair (she calls it a ‘friendship’) and was talking of having a second child with him (she said it was a ‘joke’). I have the evidence to get a divorce and my 5.5 yr old sons custody. I’ve made my mistakes, I but I also realized my mistakes.We were counseled by our guru. I asked her what she wanted – cut all relations with him and return, or a divorce. I told her I am ready to take her back only if she is 100% sure she wants to return for love and not under any kind of pressure. She demanded a mobile, freedom to go anywhere she wants, etc and promised to be 100% committed to the relationship and break all contacts with him. So we gave our marriage one more chance, and we are happy now (don’t know about future, touch wood). Now even if she has this freedom I give her credit that she doesn’t misuse it and has changed to much extent. This is all psychology, if u suppress anyone, she is bound to rebel, but if u forgive her and give her love, trust and respect she will never betray you, this is jujitsu. Also if she still betrays you, you will definitely know one day and then you can end the relationship. 50% cases of this type are solvable if we forgive each other and have mutual respect for each other’s families. I had also posted link to the book “Stop your divorce” and other books. If anyone wants the link, or wants to talk to me for saving his marriage or any other thing, he is welcome to email me at loktantrax@yahoo … or IM me at yahoo messenger.