Taking Stock After An Year Of Activism

“Feminism in India has no integrity. You can’t trust it”

Madhu Purnima Kishwar

It’s time to reflect.

I was thrust into this mess on account of the ill advised actions of my ex-wife and her conniving father. The 498A was filed as means to force me into a settlement (they had my family in custody) or to take her back and sell myself for the money they offered me. I was never arrested. A charge sheet was never filed after my sister filed complaints against the police for their illegal actions.

I knew about 498A the day I filed for divorce, except, as time went by, I let down my guard and expected her to go her way and not resort to these tricks. I hoped she would gauge the depth of this pile of dung before jumping in. Fond hope on my part.

While my family was in custody and was being terrorized by the police, I looked for info on the web and talked to SIF volunteers. The SIF volunteers were great and were available round the clock. I can’t thank them enough, but, the info given didn’t go very far. I failed to understand the extent and depth of the mess my family and I were tossed into. In short, I was given helpful suggestions, but they were not applicable to my case and my situation.

The info on the web was sketchy at the best and inaccurate at the worst. An example was about the meaning of cognizable*, which was portrayed as the unrestricted power of the police to arrest, which is inaccurate.

*In a cognizable offense, the police are duty bound to register and investigate the complaint. Cognizable does not mean that the police can arrest you upon the filing of the FIR. They are required to investigate as a first step. 498A is a cognizable offence.

After writing a bunch of memos and press notes, enduring the rantings of Ranjana Kumari, Girija Vyas and the random Feminazis of India in the press, I was restless and felt a pervasive sense of not doing enough.

At this point I was introduced to blogging thanks to the idiocy of a bunch of embittered ex-wives, who spewed venom and gloated about the trouble they got their ex-hubbies and their families into. I was enraged over the fact that they felt smug about the plight of their mothers and sisters in law. I started blogging to mock them and developed an appreciation for the possibilities that blogging opens up. As a footnote, I take full credit for shutting them down.

I felt the need for A Guide To Surviving IPC 498A, as at this stage, though I knew and understood a lot, it was obvious to me that there was nothing anywhere that tied it all together or served as a repository of information.

The motivation to educate others about their Fundamental Rights was given by the book by Prof Som K Shah, Faith Belied, which mentioned Joginder Kumar Vs The State Of UP, which, for the first time, detailed the limits on the powers of the police to arrest.

Taking that as a base, I started digging and soon found DK Basu Vs State Of WB and more judgments from the Supreme Court. Initially I focused on the judgments curtailing/defining the powers of the Indian Police. I got pretty good at digging up judgments at Judis.

Around this time, I received a gift from the gods, in the form of a Judgment by Justice Shiv Narain Dhingra, which is now popularly known as the 498A Income Tax judgment. This and the following judgments by him were my first posts.

I put all this together and wrote up the Survivor’s Guide To IPC 498A. I did have some friends proof read it and had to edit it, as my anger was apparent in tone and the choice of words. As an example, I referred to the 498A wives as bitches. Nothing wrong with that, except, when writing, moderation should be exercised, to reach out to a wider audience.

I kept digging through Judis and the web and as I came across relevant judgments and material, I blogged them in order to serve as a repository of information.

By July, I had it all together, but had to wait until November to inaugurate the 498A Survival Kit, as I was having the document reviewed for accuracy by a former IPS officer.

By then, I was burnt out and decided to walk away for a short time. Upon my return, I was able to have the Gujju version up. I also made a major update and uploaded it.

The blog averages over 400 visitors a day and they are from all over the world. Check out the cluster map on the lower right side of this page, to see the spread. It also looks like I may have a small but regular set of readers, though I don’t know who they are.

498A and the associated asinine laws, though formulated with good intentions, are inherently flawed. The establishment has taken advantage of these flaws and it is now an extortion racket feeding the ravenous appetite of the corrupt Indian Police force, the lower judiciary, NGOs like CSR, statutory bodies like the NCW and worse, has become a component of vote bank politics.

Who cares if more than a 100,000 women have been arrested in 4 years, or the Indian criminal justice system is clogged, or the fact that the real victims of domestic violence or dowry harassment will never get justice as the cases will drag on for years due to the numerous frivolous cases that have been filed?

As depressing as this situation seems, the tide is turning.

I have asserted, from the moment that I came across Joginder Kumar Vs State Of UP, that the police have been arresting people in 498A cases in contravention of the orders of the Supreme Court. My stand has been vindicated by the recent emergence of a memo from 2002, by the Hyderabad Comm Of Police, MV Krishna Rao, who forbade any 498A arrests without the authorisation of the DCP of the investigating officer. This is a standing order, in accordance with the Supreme Court judgment. Further vindication came in the form of the Delhi Police Commissioner issuing a circular forbidding 498A Arrests W/O Permission Of DCP

People on the ground are finally questioning the cops about arbitrary arrests and I expect this to spread, especially as the translations in the regional languages come into play.

I have made some lasting friendships in this time of my activism and also had to endure the idiocy of morons. This battle can be fought and will be won, though it will take time.

So how does one fight this hydra headed monster?

As a first step, it must be recognized that it is the radical feminists and crass opportunists of India, who are preventing any kind of a discussion or amendment to this flawed law from taking place. These radical feminists are like the Taliban. They are radical, they are stupid, they are corrupt and they will be defeated. The domestic violence act is their swan song and the sinking of the Sati Law is proof of their diminishing clout.

As a next step, it is essential to re-frame this fight as anything else other than that between men and women. The Feminazis got this far as they successfully portrayed themselves as “Abala Nari” vs the “Rakshas Ravana” .

SIF is fighting this as a way to protect the Indian family structure. The petrol pump scam tainted Girija Vyas, feeling the sting of the inroads made by SIF, is now attempting to claim this mantle. I feel that this issue can also be framed as a fight against corruption in India.

The Feminazis of India are like hyenas and vultures, they feed on the helpless. They have successfully pushed aside respected women rights activists like Madhu Kishwar and have hijacked the cause of the empowerment of women to serve their selfish ends. They are the enablers in setting the corrupt establishment upon vulnerable individuals and families. They play the role of useful idiots for the establishment, in return for access and privilege, and they have the MPs cowed. They have been attempting to intimidate the judiciary with varying degrees of success, under the garb of “gender sensitization”.

The Feminazis haven’t faced organized opposition due to the nature of this problem. This is not oppression of a particular caste, religion, language or sex. This is persecution of small units in this multitude of millions for the purposes of empty propaganda; to claim that the establishment has legislated laws for women, is pro women and thus pandering to a perceived vote bank. In reality, as with everything else, this is empty propaganda which enriches the establishment and nothing concrete is accomplished. If 100,000 women have been arrested in 4 years, you won’t hear a peep of protest as it doesn’t matter. They don’t count as a voting block as they are scattered across the country and so they won’t dent an election. Besides, who really understands fully the pernicious theory of vote-bank politics?. These numbers are a drop in the 500,000,000 women of India. In addition, these persecuted individuals and their families come from the middle and upper middle classes and they are spread out over the country with the only unifying thread being that they have been 498A’d or DV Act’d. Finally groups like SIF, though small in number are unifying and fighting the establishment.

The most prominent Feminazis are unmarried or divorced. Their temperament was never tempered by the pangs of birthing or gazing fondly upon their own flesh and blood, be it a boy or a girl. They want privilege, but don’t want to earn it, but want it handed over under the garb of equality. 498A and the DV Act have nothing to do with womens rights or feminism, these laws are designed to feed on the helpless and unsuspecting.

What do they have to gain from propagating and spreading this misery ? The explanation is simple. It is money, lifestyle, access to power and privilege, a paycheck and I don’t know what else. I can only stoop to a certain level of dirt in terms of speculating about motivation. Regardless they are the beneficiaries of this misery. They are backed up by large amounts of money in funds from the center or from the UN. They have the megaphone and can lock up the print media and the TV channels with their rants and propaganda.

But, alas, they have decisively lost the online battle. An example is the maligning of Justice Dhingra. Before the advent of this blog, anyone who read about him would pass him off as a male chauvinist and a sexist, thanks to the malicious propaganda of Indira Jaising.

I’ve set the record straight and effectively countered Indira Jaising’s mud slinging. She had made it her mission to malign Justice Dhingra at any given opportunity. As a writer with a guaranteed readership of at least 12,000 a month, I assert that Justice Shiv Narain Dhingra can be ranked amongst the greatest judges in the history of our nation. All you need to do is read his judgments, any judgments and you will understand what I mean. Those of us, who’ve been entangled in this mess need to thank the gods for their gift, in the form of this great judge.

I work hard, stay fit and have loads of fun and I don’t believe that I will ever marry again. My ex-wife gave me a precious gift, a gift so precious that few men would have ever received it. This is the ability to live alone and endure with ease, the pangs of loneliness. On the occasions that I felt it, all it took was a recollection of my life with her, of her nagging, her threats and accusations of incest and the blackmail she subjected me to, and I am back on my feet.

There is a lot to do, and I am an idea factory, but often, just like Cassandra, my words fall on deaf ears and I feel frustrated at the stupidity. This is the reason for the existence today of the 498A Survival Kit. Fortunately, unlike Cassandra who ended up as a slave to the Greeks, I’ve been gaining in credibility and being listened to. The biggest example of this is the widening recognition of the importance of Joginder Kumar Vs State of UP, as a cornerstone of defense against arbitrary arrest by the 498A accused and activists.

As I drift away to resurrect my once promising career, I leave with a hope that I may have laid a foundation.

Getting back to the 498A wives, here is a song, whose message their parents should have drilled into their stupid heads: Itna Nazuk Na Bano.

I want to share with you the approach I took to get through my darkest days.

When ever you feel overwhelmed and unable to go on, just remember this, get through today and wait for tomorrow. Tomorrow will dawn, glorious and bright, and you can pick up where you left off, filled with energy after a night’s rest.

The 498A wives have a biological clock ticking. Each day you’ve gained is a day they’ve lost. Run out the clock on them. This is the way to beat them.

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8 Responses to “Taking Stock After An Year Of Activism”


  1. 1 Cheryl King April 19, 2008 at 5:56 am

    I appreciate this article very much.
    Beautifully worded but its very sad that
    so many families have been so badly corrupted
    and contaminated by the legal system here and
    overseas. You only get as much justice as you are
    willing to fight for. It should not have to be fought
    for,though- it should come your way automatically. Liam Magill
    and I are about to enter our 10th year in the fight for any
    hint of justice or recourse.
    Cheryl King & Liam Magill

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  2. 2 shrek April 19, 2008 at 3:51 pm

    A Battle well fought my friend….as u walk away from this I know u will come back stronger and bigger to choose your battle ground and the time ….
    You have been the light house and a beacon to a lot of lost 498A victim souls
    Fair winds and following seas to you always
    I share your views
    Good Luck and Godspeed

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  3. 3 Rajesh R April 19, 2008 at 4:30 pm

    Thank you buddy.

    Well independence was inspired and fought by only a few real men. Even this fight will be won by the struggles of very few men.

    I see you as one of them.

    Thank you my father of freedom.

    Thanks,
    Rajesh

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  4. 4 havepenwillwrite April 20, 2008 at 12:41 am

    Strong, statesmanly, very inspirational.

    The problem with pursuing noble, nationalistic ventures is that, pretty quick, the mission becomes one’s secret mistress. A high maintenance mistress: more demanding of your time and attention than your wife, family and job. And when time comes for us to take a break and patch up other sectors of our life that we had been paying less attention to, our little “mistress” feels jilted and joins up with other members of The Jilted Mistresses Breakfast Club. Therein lies the danger!

    “A solitary woman is just IDEAS (rambling, incoherent, confused). Two women is a PLAN. More than two women together is a menacing ARMY!” (One of several “wise sayings” I’ve been known to come up with when righteously drunk).

    But not to worry! Your little honey won’t pull a tactical 498A on you. She won’t get that chance. I and others will volunteer whatever spare time on our hands to make sure she doesn’t feel lonely, ignored, and prone to jumping the fence. Besides, she’s seen the light already; the evil in such moves! And I’m sure you’ll check in frequently just to make sure we have honorable intentions! So go ahead and do what you gotta do to establish more control over your life.

    I see a lot of pain in your writing. It’s too bad romances often end this way. Most probably I am very incorrect about this, but the romantic in me LIKES TO BELIEVE that your Ex feels the same pain. These are MY thoughts so, what the heck, I can think whatever the fudge I want to! Probably water under the bridge …

    Arguments are healthy for a solid marriage. It’s a vehicle of persuasion for your opinion, beliefs to be conveyed to your spouse. But when persuasion takes the form of belittlement, bullying, publicly ostracizing and stripping the other of dignity and self worth it invites the “well-intentioned supporters” and other parasites to contaminate the the sanctity of your nuptial chamber. Chances are, these third parties cause more damage to your relationship than good! And where are they now?

    Rest assured there’s a divine purpose behind every happening! It’s thanks to women like our Ex’s that your noble mission was possible – and of benefit to many. Reciprocally, it’s thanks to whatever influences that touched upon the lives of our “militant feminists” that prompted them toward their particular mission in life. In other words, they didn’t wake up one fine morning to decide, “Mmm … I think I’ll sodomize men for a change”!

    As far as the cops are concerned, I’ve never known vultures to be finicky eaters, have you?

    The term, “Man Hater” is really inappropriate in the context of “Love” because the antonym for “Love” is not “Hate”, it is “Indifference” where there’s absolutely no feelings left at all. Such is not the case with “Hate”. So for those bent upon revenge, the very best revenge is to live well, be healthy, and prosperous and find contentment in your lot.

    I think you’re steering on the right course. Good Luck.

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  5. 5 Gokul April 20, 2008 at 12:36 pm

    You can always check out, you can never leave

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  6. 6 Feministmedia April 21, 2008 at 4:37 am

    Wow! Very touching indeed!
    You have done your part for the nation, for the humanity!
    You will be remembered for the same!!

    You will be remembered in the gratitude of hundreds who obtained the knowledge of their own rights and the power of that knowledge.

    The empresses are now standing naked, fully exposed by the torchlight you shined on them.

    Good work! But there is tons more to do. Your work is not done yet!! Come back renewed, reinvigorated. We are all behind you.

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  7. 7 Andy May 12, 2008 at 10:27 am

    Good job Buddy !

    Something tells me that you are not going to leave. It’s only been 1 yr and you have made your mark already. We all are anticipating bigger things from you in the coming years !

    Andy

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  8. 8 Mostaque March 25, 2009 at 12:22 pm

    Hi there I’ve written a post on corruption in India; see what you think of it.

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In 1930, the British govt arrested 17,000 women for their involvement in the Dandi Yatra (Salt March). During 1937 to 1947 (10 Years), they arrested 5,000 women involved in the freedom struggle. From 2004 to 2006, the govt of India arrested 90,000 women of all ages under 498A. On the average, 27,000 women per year are being arrested under this flawed law. These are stats from the NCRB.

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The family of the writer was tortured by the Indian Police in an attempt to extort over a $100,000 by holding them in custody for over a week. The police, in cahoots with the magistrate and the PP, did this due to the ridiculous allegations made in a 498A case by his embittered ex-wife. She filed the case years after he and his family had last seen her. Thousands of 498A cases are filed each year in India by women seeking to wreak vengeance on their husbands and in-laws. Enormous sums are extorted from intimidated families implicated in these cases by corrupt Indian police officers and elements of the Indian judiciary. The author and his family haven't bribed any public official nor have they given in to the extortion. This blog aims to raise awareness of due process in India. The content of this blog constitutes, opinions, observations, and publicly available documents. The intent is not to slander or defame anyone or any institution and is the manifestation of the author's right to freedom of expression – with all the protections this right guarantees.

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