Understanding The 498A and DV Act Industry

 

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93 Responses to “Understanding The 498A and DV Act Industry”


  1. 1 AamAadmi November 12, 2012 at 7:06 am

    Very nicely presented the data.
    Some women have spoiled their family life already, become ego now they want to spoil other women s family life. The remaining people represented in the small circles in the diagram are cheaters, cheating their Mother and kids indirectly.
    I think the society should start banning these people. Let’s not talk to them, don’t set up any marital relations with their kids, don’t invite them for any functions. Just, ban a family who is a relative to a lawyer too. Let that family think over about that lawyer if they want to be in the society. May be this is the only solution may not give a immediate result and will save many families.

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    • 2 Fucked Up Guy....... November 13, 2012 at 8:12 am

      Oh Man….. Women are responsible for constructing and as well as destructing a home. Why don’t they think over twice to do certain things which easily spoil someone’s life and as well give rise to a mental agitation to their’s as well. Its a pathetic situation mostly because of the so called lawyers as they en cash the situation and never ever try to help any of the parties. And its not even the women or girls who themselves are only responsible for such acts. Its the responsibility of their parents as well that they should also think before listening and motivating the girl for something which is quite normal in anyone’s life. Girls never want to leave their parents but they always want the son to get separated from his family. Y don’t they think about the situation when they will be needing a shoulder to lean on and their daughter in law would take away their son away from them. And no matter how much u try to teach kids about these human values they only do what they see. God help women and their different way of thinking 😦

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    • 3 NITIGNA TRIVEDI February 11, 2013 at 3:25 pm

      HOW MANY MEN ARE BURNT DUE TO DOWRY AND HOW MANY WOMEN WERE BURNT ALIVE DUE TO DOWRY??
      IN THIS MEN ORIENTED SOCIETY WHY THERE IS CRY ABOUT FEW INCIDENTS OF SUCH MISUSE.BUT WHAT ABOUT THOSE INNOCENT WOMEN WHO DIED AND HARASSED BY MEN FOLK AND FAMILY MEMBERS WHO THEN CRY FOR HELP.

      SORRY MEN ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR SUCH SITUATION.LET US RESPECT WOMEN….AND NO DOWRY SHOULD BE ASKED BY GROOMS FAMILY THERE WILL BE NO 498 IF U ABOLISH DOWRY.

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      • 4 AamAadmi February 12, 2013 at 4:37 am

        Sorry, every bad incidents hurts people with good heart. May be you are referring such case.
        Person should be punished for the crime he/she had done. When we say the guy should be punished for the harassment the converse also should be taken care. Here there are both men and women around the victim and crime are involved in the incident. Every one suffers.

        So crimes are going on irrespective of the gender. Then why the gender based laws are required? Why such laws are required at the expense of killing innocent husband and his family. Still if one feel, let them tune it to capture the crime. We are not paying homage to the women victims by killing innocent men (and women in his family includes sisters, mother, daughter). Then it becomes revenge law or sadist society.

        Both innocent women/men should be protected by the law. And that law needs to be protected by the selfish and greedy lawyers. Every one should live happily rather to harassing by misusing the law.

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      • 5 Jayant Kaushal February 19, 2013 at 7:15 pm

        Dear Nitigna,
        OK… Let we agree with ur statemenf that how many men are burnt in fire…. But can you give data that how many families are queshed due to bad nature of a girl and wrong intention (to saperate boy with there parents)???
        I believe that u will agree that most of marital relation is destroying by the parents of girl ( I will not blame any girl, because they actually follows the intention of her parents)….
        Pls tell me that why parents of a boy can’t live with there ward after there marriaga??? Does marriage is intention to saperate any family?
        Nitigna… Most of boys loves there wife and don’t want to be saperate with her. But frankly speeking the “EGO” filled by the parents of girl and “EGO” of boy about being a “MARD” is distroying live of a couple… “JO MAA BAAP BACHHO KE KHUSI KE LIYE UNHE JODTE HAIN, WAHI MAA BAAP FIR APNI CHAHTO KE DABAB KE NICHE DABA KAR SABHI KHUSIYO KA GALA GHOT DETE HAIN”….
        Can’t do any thing…. Me too is a victim of this.. And most sad because jis wife ko apna samjha, usne v mera faith break kia aur abhi dowery act ko face kar raha hu, jabki meri biwi khud jaanti hai ki dowry ki koi baat nahi hai, but wo apne parents ke saath khadi hai.

        Jayant Kaushal

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      • 6 Nitigna February 20, 2013 at 6:07 am

        Dear Jayant
        I am talking about death of women due to dowry. I do not advocate the women who break the faith.I am sorry but in spite of such cry against dowry it is still in our society on a very large scale.Why it is not opposed by so called MARDs. The misuse of 498 is not good but the% of dowry death and harassment is much much higher then misuse of law.

        When there was no 498 what might be positions of women facing dowry.Why such crying and why No “mards” came out from same society to oppose dowry.

        It is shameful for our society where Those MARDS harassing women for just on the name of tradition of dowry and burning them or deserting them.You will find thousands of such deserted women in our India.

        I am opposing the dowry death not favoring misuse of 498.

        Hope u understand.

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      • 7 AamAadmi February 21, 2013 at 4:57 am

        When a lady politician was signing for the 498a, a reporter put his concerns on misuse of the law. But the lady was least bothered. She said she concerns about only the dowry death. This is the way our politicians balances the society. Our fate !!!
        Husband Harass Association exists now. Sundays in the Palace ground, sessions are going on mis-use of 498a. These may give little moral support to the Husband and family. But mis-use can not be stopped at all becs of the greedy people (wife and her parents, lawyers).
        Their intention would be for Money, harass the boy side by blackmailing.

        How to stop this in future? I think a website is to be developed listing all the names of the greedy people mentioned above. If there is any other communication media available should be used to braodcast this. Let others know the culprits and boycott from the society.

        Let the lawyer file a dowry case as NITIGNA said. No one can file cases as Jayant Kaushal and others said.

        Please think about any solutions using which we can control this. Two solutions from side are
        1. Every one align with their culture(Hindu/Christian/Muslim … whatever) strictly. Important is you should understand your culture and follow it. This may take a very long time but a permanent solution for many things.
        2. Broadcasting the names/photos of the people involved in misusing the law as mentioned above.

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      • 8 chanchala March 11, 2013 at 7:13 am

        yes I agree with you nitigna. The boys family used to torture with new bride. Also says that their mother suffering from that.

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      • 9 Nitigna Trivedi March 11, 2013 at 7:53 am

        I am shocked to know that all these males are crying against misuse of 498A.I do agree but as a male let us share few facts.There are more than 8000 ( Eight Thousand ) women are deserted on name of Dowry only in Punjab.Have u heard 8000 Cases of Misuse of 498A ?? In entire country every year more than thousand women are either burnt alive or deserted by grooms and the entire family of groom is involved.Any father in law of that unfortunate Bride ever taken his son to court and said that YES my son is guilty.Any mother in Law have taken side of that bride and revolt in family to protect her Daughter in Law ??

        Befoe 498 thousands of women burnt alive and no case were lodged against culprit family as they misuse local connections.

        Many states in India is still having such cruel social system of dowry. How many male have jointly protested and stand against entire system.

        We have to fight the cause and even our sons are guilty you have to drag them to court by our selves.Treat brides as their own daughter.

        You have to change the mind set.

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      • 10 Fucked Up Guy :) April 23, 2013 at 11:16 am

        Writing with capital letters doesn’t prove your statements are right, as a matter of fact it shows how women these days want to bend and break laws by turning everyone’s attention to un necessary things and most of all ” to prove there useless point “. I don’t say that there are no such cases but how often u stumble upon such cases. Am a sufferer and u cant imagine what wrong it have made me think. I wish there was a simple end to all this , but am a coward couldn’t end up my life. I got my ever loving parents to look after . what bad they have done ? y would they suffer ? so here I am ….well u talk abt dowry ………..how many real cases do u see now a days ? its the vice versa these days . and even the small things can create a big problem for the “innocent groom”. Now a days Girls study not to make a better living or to enlighten them selves but to strive and find loop holes in law to get filthy rich easily and to be a prominent part of the so called “good looking world” outside. …. I wish I had more patience to write more , coz I can spend all the time available writing and letting any1 know the reality behind Dowry cases or even so called harassment/ torture which now a days is suffered by the groom and his family 🙂

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      • 11 NITIGN April 24, 2013 at 6:33 am

        IT IS NEITHER MATTER OF CAPITAL LETTER NOR TO IMPRESS ANY BODY.i DO AGREE THAT YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER HAVE NOT DONE ANY THING WRONG AND THEY SHOULD NOT SUFFER.NOW IF YOU ARE TALKING OF CASES OF DOWRY YOU ARE LIVING IN WORLD YOU DONT KNOW.STILL DOWRY SYSTEM IS IN INDIA YOU CANT DENY.MORE OVER IN PAST THOUSANDS OF GIRLS ARE BURNT OR COMMIT SUICIDE IN OUR COUNTRY. HOLIDAY MARRIAGE IS ONE MORE FEATHER IN OUR CAP AND THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF WOMEN DESERTED BY HUSBANDS IN PUNJAB ONLY AND MORE IN REST OF PART & YOU CAN CHECK THIS FIGURE WITH NCR. SO IF YOU ARE SAYING THERE ARE ONLY FEW CASES OF DOWRY THEN YOU HAVE WRONG IMPRESSION.IF YOU ARE VICTIM OF MISUSE OF 498 THAT DOES NOT MEAN THERE ARE NO CASES OF DOWRY HERE IN INDIA.

        JUST CHECK IT OUT THEN CRY. I DON’T AGREE WITH MISUSE BUT IN OUR COUNTRY WE HAVE CROSSES ALL LIMIT ON NAME OF ” SAMAJ” ‘ ‘ ‘RITI – RIWAJ ‘ HOPE YOU WILL UNDERSTAND AND LET US ABOLISH SUCH CRUEL SYSTEM OF DOWRY FROM OUR SOCIETY.

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      • 12 Fucked Up Guy :) April 24, 2013 at 7:05 am

        Ur keyboard really has a problem , doesn’t it ? As, in my reply, I stated that there may be some cases. But women these days are impossible. They don’t understand the fact of living a happy life. And mind it am not saying that there are people who “demand ” for dowry but the ones who don’t even think are the ones for sure get trapped in to such cases as they don’t have the slightest idea that they can get into such things. I went to a lawyer for discussing my case and what he said be prepared for such false cases as every lawyer suggests women to use them and I was the one who left the place at once thinking what kind of a lawyer is he that he is telling me that these things happen …………. I never thought this would ever come up but soon in the recent communications some1 is talking abt harassing and torturing her for dowry…..LOL. Harassment, torture and such words are really strong that they would compel anyone to feel frustrated and annoyed. I just wish that the law should be equal for both girls and boys. It should not be inclined towards one sex…as it is these days…..

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      • 13 Ken April 29, 2013 at 4:56 pm

        Sorry to say that what you said is bullshit, inspite of showing you the facts via a simple diagram. Do you think women are spared and enpowered by 498a. Even innocent mother’s, Sisters and sisters-in-law are undergoing harassment due to false cases by unscrupulous and adulterous wives. Giving dowry is equally punishable..fyi. 99.9% of 498a cases are fake these days which is evident through the conviction rate…also Supreme, High courts acknowledge this statement. Do you have any idea of how many men die due to these fake cases against women. Dowry abolishing is possible just by not giving, its very simple, if not interested don’t marry. This is not stoneage or 1930’s when women were uneducated. Please do your basic research before you comment, which will make sense. B*@Nitinga

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      • 14 satya June 9, 2013 at 1:05 pm

        Hi, I think you dont understand meaning of 498A, it not only deals with dowry but also with cruelty to women. Abolishing dowry will not end fake 498A cases

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      • 15 AamAdmi June 10, 2013 at 5:24 am

        Already families are breaking becs of fake 498a, now central Govt is working on bringing one more rule for the divorced wife to claim share on the ancestral property of divorced husband. One more element is added now to blackmail husband.
        Instead of building societies by having families we are now at breaking societies by dividing the families. Govt can think of working on bringing rules to avoid fake cases.

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      • 16 kirti December 11, 2013 at 9:09 am

        absolutely right

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      • 17 rachit January 3, 2014 at 7:30 am

        Trivediji, more than 3 lacs cases are pending and 5 laqcs are under development. please let me know conviction rate. why ladies are accepting dowry for their son and brother marriage in case of them they are against dowry. Ladies wants to enjoy free first at father plac ena dthen at husband place. Ladies even after so much reservation donot undertake studies seriously. if lady caught in false allegation after 15 years and if case proves wrong , then only 6 months punishment. why police not book ladies and her family too for giving dowry. to stop dowry, me and u will visit last month marriage and see how many are done without dowry.
        let fix time and see why ladies are accepting such marriage. just to hide their weakness.
        Please write in next sec 498 a case u will fight for dowry giving also. other DP act will loose its value.

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      • 18 Mastan September 3, 2014 at 1:12 pm

        I agree that many innocent women were burnt, I am with 498A for that but what does that have to do with innocent men who have not taken any dowry? or falsely implicated like, I have not taken any dowry left visa in UK, shop there, consultancy, job, used to play cricket for a division one club for my wife etc. I don’t have PF did not have any investment till now all money I give in charity (my salary is 6 digit every month) as my religion is against dowry and any of such sorts… there are many innocent men who’s lives are spoiled . use it correctly why can’t a investigation happen before arrest ?????? I don’t want a single man to be spared who takes or asks or demands dowry? I will not give my sisters hand to a pervert who asks dowry. if this does not make sense who can help greedy families…….

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      • 19 Mastan November 19, 2014 at 10:23 am

        because you are not burning the men who are actually burning the women. I am a Muslim we don’t have dowry in Islam it was abolished 1400+ years back, my wife wanted divorce so she put 498A.

        why does marriage become so much fun for women like you ?

        did you put 498A on your husband, else don’t talk ask your father how a real man feels about such false cases.

        imagine the hardships of Sita, and for all that if she had put 498A on Lord Rama ?

        if such false cases are put against innocent men you are not thinking about the after effects.

        your English with Bold font is so dominating fortunately my mother did not think like you.

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      • 20 AamAdmi November 19, 2014 at 2:21 pm

        I was under impression that 498a was to divide the Hindu family. Surprised to see it exists for muslims too from Mastan’s comments. Divide and Rule is an ever green problem then.

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  2. 21 bawa January 19, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Very true Women are MISSUSING this LAW to the HILT with the help of their parents/cops/local heavy weights etc and its TIME TO CHANGE INDIA and its WHOLE SYSTEM

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    • 22 chanchala March 11, 2013 at 7:17 am

      No women don’t want to do such kind of thing unnecessarily. when she is not able to tolerate torture from their in-laws house. Then only they goes to court. Every women want peaceful life not a violent life.

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      • 23 AamAdmi April 23, 2013 at 9:47 am

        No, not at all. If you get a chance please visit a family court and study 10 cases. You may not get 1 valid 498a case out of 10 !!!. The cases are to blackmail the boy or his side, The reason would be – boy is not obeying orders from the girl or her side, boy is not giving money or land to the girl side etc. These are becoming the demands from the girl side and they use 498a, DV and frame fake cases. Unfortunate thing I observed is Lawyer was telling her and her Father that, the boy will knee down and later you can have a family life like royal. Looking at the fake case, the boy will decide not to join the wife. Both come to the court for years, later family breaks. Only lawyer is benefiting from these laws. Both boy are girl are innocent.
        I read in local news paper that number of Husbands dying because of 498/DV are more compared to the dowry death of girls
        There are cases where girl don’t want to have family responsibility, girl or boy having other affairs are also there in the list. But the boy really harassing girl for dowry or DV kind of case is very minimum compared to the other cases. So if the other cases are reduced, the real dowry case can be executed and culprit may be brought to justice. But now we are wasting time in attending fake cases. This is a concern.

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      • 24 Kirthana April 29, 2013 at 5:07 pm

        My dear friend, Do not categorize between men and women. Categorization must be good and bad. There are too many bad women especially in the Indian society. What makes them worse is these kind of biased laws which can be misused easily for monetary benefit by unscrupulous women. Do you know every women of this country to comment like that. Being a women I’m sorry to say that your comment is just like your name @Chanchala.

        Note: Actual pain will be known only to those family members who have faced false cases

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      • 25 victim December 9, 2014 at 9:30 am

        Yes.. true every women( and men) wants peaceful life.. but not necessarily with their spouse and can have bad intentions and creates violence, drama and ruin the life of in-laws and husband with use of this easy bullshit law .. And get her spoilt freedom, money and dieself to satisfy her ego, greed and slacker life. even though she is much higher studied, educated and earning more.. but still most of the cases happen in Urban areas. and NRI , Rich IT professionals are trapped..

        These kind of greedy , dishonest, distrustful women marry many men in row and make amount from NRIs in Billion dollars

        Read 498a.org

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      • 26 AamAdmi December 9, 2014 at 1:11 pm

        The best way to attack the blackmailing is by challenging the 498a in the court. Don’t surrender to the in-laws and face it in the court as 498a website suggests is the best solution. People putting fake 498a will struggle badly when it comes to the evidence stage. But the family is broken for sure with 498a.

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      • 27 NB August 18, 2015 at 9:30 am

        You cant talk for every woman @chanchala. How the hell do you know what happens everywhere????!! i work with a lawyer part time and ive seen cases of good innocent men being tortured, threatened, their families are put under pressure because of these new age educated women who care only about money. They dont even care if their husband and his family kills themselves….this is the sad situation in our country because of laws like 498A…… YOU CANT TALK FOR EVERY WOMAN.

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  3. 28 Survivor February 4, 2013 at 3:51 am

    Very true. I know a guy who is a victim of 498A. His wife is sister of PrabhuShankar Agarwal the owner of Haldiram Bhujiawala. His crime needs no introduction. He was convicted for attempt to murder case of a tea vendor. He did a lot of crimes but was caught up for one crime only. His sister Manju Agarwal filed 498A on her husband to extort money. She was so confident about 498A that she even engaged her lover Saif Alam to falsely implicate her husband. The story did not end there. She along with Prabhushankar and her lover Saif Alam expelled her husband and mother-in-law from his own home. Whenever husband tried to come back home she did acting of self assault. She started altogether 7 different false cases against her husband. See this video which was recorded by her husband. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQq9g97tNk4
    This video can be seen by searching on youtube.com as “Manju 498A”
    Her lover Saif Alam is also a noted criminal. He helps PrabhuShankar in his illegal activities. He convinced manju that filing a volley of criminal cases including 498A against husband is best way to extort money. This is a classic example of even criminals now use 498A for extortion in a legal manner

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  4. 29 AamAadmi February 4, 2013 at 9:09 am

    Lawyers say they need a freedom in filing cases in order to bring the truth out. So if the lawyers misusing the 498a, their name should be made public. The society should start banning them. Their photos/vvido’s should be published in the web just like

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  5. 30 AamAdmi March 11, 2013 at 8:51 am

    Why a law is required to punish innocent? Have a law to cover the culprits irrespective of gender. Also the lawyers also must be made accountable in the case because they represent their clients. Then only the real things will come out.

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  8. 34 AamAdmi April 24, 2013 at 7:45 am

    I think NITIGN is continuously trying to say that ” lot of innocent women killed in the dowry harassment, so the innocent husband dying in the dowry harassment is OK”. I think here you are making the gender based comments just as we have in our law. I am trying to say let the law be innocent based not gender based. Protect innocent in the society.

    Even in our epics we have Sita, Mandodari. Let the law protect women like Sita and Mandodari. In the current situation many Lawyers protecting Shoorpaki kind of women by misusing the law and because of which time slot is not available to discuss the cases related with other kind of women mentioned. If husband like Ravana get tortured, no one cries, why a husband like Rama should get tortured !!!!

    Whether one is Rama or Sita should be questioned by himself or herself. All I am trying to say here is 1. don’t make gender based law 2. Protect the law from getting misused.

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    • 35 Fucked Up Guy :) April 24, 2013 at 7:48 am

      NOW IN CAPS ” I TOTALLY AGREE “

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    • 36 NITIGN April 24, 2013 at 12:28 pm

      DEAR AAM ADMI
      I AM NOT FAVORING ANY WAY THAT INNOCENT MEN SHOULD BE PUNISHED.IS OUR SOCIETY IS NOT GENDER BASED? IF YOU BELIEVE THAT IN OUR SOCIETY MEN & WOMEN ARE TREATED SAME WAY THEN WE ARE IN A DREAM WORLD.SEE THE GENDER RATIO.WHY VERY HEAVY ABORTION RATIO FOR GIRL CHILD EVEN TO DAY.WE HAVE TO CHANGE MIND SET THAT IS THE ONLY KEY TO NEXT STEP TO NON GENDER BASED LAW.I DO NOT AGREE WHERE AN INNOCENT MAN IS PUNISHED BUT WHAT ABOUT THE DOWRY IN OUR SOCIETY.IF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT SITA THEN LET ME REMIND YOU “SITA ” HAS TO GIVE AGNEE PARIKSHA WHY SO ?? WHY ” SITA ” WAS DESERTED BY JUST A SMALL CRITICISM OF A ” DHOBI ” WHO DOUBT ABOUT HER CHASTITY.THE ROOT CAUSE OF OUR GENDER BASED SOCIETY IS SUCH ANCIENT ONE WHERE MALE CHILD IS GIVEN ALL POWER AND NOTHING TO GIRL CHILD.SO SORRY LET US NOT TALK ABOUT RAM & SITA SOME ONE WILL FEEL ODD BUT THE FACT REMAIN SAME.WE ARE LIVING IN MALE DOMINANT SOCIETY AND IT WILL TAKE YEARS TO CHANGE MIND SET.HOPE U WILL NOT OFFENDED BY MY COMMENT ON RAM & SITA. ULTI MATELY U KNOW WHAT HAPPEND TO SITA ??

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      • 37 Kirthana April 29, 2013 at 5:28 pm

        @Nitign, The solution to issues like Abortion ratio, girl population ratio etc is not having 498a. We are specifically talking about misuse of 498a. Do not categorize between men and women, rather categorize between good and bad. Mother Sita gave Agni pariksha and only due to that today you and I are adoring her chastity. Lord Rama is Omniscient and knows about her chastity. The purpose of any Divine advent is to set an example to the common people. Had if there was no Agni Pariksha, people would have taken other stance questioning Mother Sita’s Chastity. It was the will of Divine which set such an exemplary example of an idealistic woman, but alas we have fervor examples like that to take today. Atleast spare the Gods from the nuisance please.

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      • 38 AamAdmi May 2, 2013 at 7:42 am

        I am also condemning Abortions of girl child, male dominant society etc but as the topic was on misusing of 498a, I was commenting limiting to the topic and I feel my comments are based on I experienced in the court visiting several cases.
        If Lady is like Sita, definitely she should get justice as I mentioned earlier.
        Shoorpanaki kind of women should be brought forward and punish was the story.

        As per my understanding from the books I read, Agnipariksha was must, as Agni’s lady (everybody thought she was the sita, only Rama and Agni god were aware in the epic) enters Agni and Sita Comes out of Agni. Actually Sita was under the protection of Agni. This is from epic.Bollywood and other media hides this and shows as if there is a torture on lady!!
        I don’t have answer for the Dhobi part you mentioned which I need to dig out. If Sita suffered separation Rama also suffered the same would be the morale for sure. So, please don’t go based on gender would be the ultimate.

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    • 39 Kirthana April 29, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      Very true my friend. Imagine if this law existed during Thretayug, Lord Rama and Lakshman would have been behind bars for punishing the Demon Soorpaki or Soorpanaka.

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  9. 40 Swaraj Chattopadhyay August 19, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    I am a senior citizen.My ‘daughter in law’ under provocation of her parents ,especially her mother has filed case against my son me and my wife u/s 17,18,19,20,22 of D v act.All the complaints are sheer lye. They have forcefully occupied a portion of my ancestral house jointly owned by me and my brother.We are forcefully prohibited from entering my own house.Now ,as the complaints are totally baseless they are avoiding trial of the case on filmsy ground for the last one year.The magistrate is giving long dates after dates.This is causing lot of mental trauma to me and my wife.Can anybody help me .Name of my ‘daughter in law ‘ is Ajanta Mitra and her Mother is Prativa Mitra.

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    • 41 AamAdmi August 20, 2013 at 5:00 am

      Very sad event.
      As 498a.org website guideline says, innocent should not surrender. Be brave to face the legal notices. Don’t be panic. They are trying to blackmail you filing this case. Normally the lawyers will become united and keep dragging the cases. If you have suspicion on your lawyer, go for a trust worthy one. Using a good lawyer you bring the petitioners to the court. Then, they’ll get the heat of justifying the lies.

      Normally the 3 methods to face these are –
      – You can also file false cases to blackmail them. It is very unfortunate, but our current system is like this. You may end up paying more money to the lawyers.
      – Face the cases filed by them using a good lawyer. The petitioners will run-away from the war. (preferred)
      – Rowdyism (I won’t prefer this legally)
      If you feel your current lawyer is good, might be the judge is giving long dates assuming parties may get settled by mutual discussion. If the discussion is regarding money and property better not to compromise, instead you can ask your lawyer to ask for short dates in the court.

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  12. 44 raj October 20, 2013 at 10:02 am

    Greedy People with wrong intentions earlier used to harras their daughter in law and not they using 498a to harras their son in law. These are the same people who was killing their daughters before birth and prefer boy to get drawry in marriage. Now they are getting happy after the birth of girl in their family due to 498a law. This is the legal way to blackmail son – in law and their family and get huge amount of money. The greedy people always look for high earning, soft nature, white collar family who can be easily blackmailed and pressurised.
    498A section is a warning to all the White collar families..Software Engineers and soft minded people to not fall in trap of the families who use their daughters as prostitutes to earn money.

    Only difference this section made is now these greedy dirty people are destroying life of 3 to 5 people insteade of just one.

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  13. 45 AamAdmi October 21, 2013 at 5:32 am

    Few Ladies say if husband suicides because of misuse of this law it should be acceptable. I will not ask them “how it would be if your brother is that innocent?”.
    Instead, I want to ask them why they are bringing this law only in Hindu Marriage Act? Why they don’t want innocent to get killed in non-hindu?

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  14. 46 suffering women October 23, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    I don’t think that any women is going for file 498 case without any reason. I don’t have any brother nor my father. My in laws family used to torture with me. but I keep silence since I dont want any fracture relationship. Even I did not say to my mom about the torture because afterwards everything will be alright. They want more money from us. Even how greedy they are they told me continue your study from your mom’s pension. give them my scholarship. My husband and my father in law both are doctor. afterwards they bit me in front of public place. Then I file 498 case in the nearer police station. Before marriage we girl think that marriage is …….afterwards what happen with us we suffering women are know very well.

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    • 47 AamAdmi October 24, 2013 at 4:50 am

      Sorry to read your tragedy. After the marriage both the girl and husband side have to accept each other. Both should accept that she/he belong to my family. Then problem won’t arise at all. Definitely this may take some time due to the various differences (education, communication, knowledge level etc) in the family members. If every one has this and the patience, that family would become asset to the society. May be in your case there was a lacking of this(sorry to say) and the tragedy happened. If whatever you have claimed is guinene, then it is a tragedy for sure.
      Just like how you have claimed your -in-laws as greedy, there are girls and her side who are greedy to loot money from the husband. These kind of innocent husband and his side are suffering from mis-use of 498a, that is the concern. Because of a list of misuse cases, the guinine cases also gets delayed that is another concern.

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      • 49 suffering women January 6, 2014 at 5:10 am

        don’t try to make a joke. Those who post here is really suffer lot. I already called to this number. She said this is a wrong number.

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    • 50 Mastan September 4, 2014 at 6:42 am

      No one will point out at women who are really suffering in the hands of husband and in-laws, but what does innocent men have to do with it ?

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      • 51 AamAdmi September 4, 2014 at 7:30 am

        Yes, u r right. Actually girls should come forward protesting MISUSE of 498a. Then only the really suffered women can get the benefit of 498a.

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  15. 52 suffering women October 24, 2013 at 6:25 am

    That is our India. There are so many eye witness of my physical assault. But the police do nothing.No charge sheet is prepared till date(1 year is over police says that he is unable to find the owner of bike number). Because my father-in-law was in very higher post. Now they says that I have some boy friend and ….shit …..Actually I don’t want to share my father-in-law and husband name. my name also.

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    • 53 AamAdmi October 24, 2013 at 7:52 am

      If there is a good intention with the police, they may try to settle the matter before lodging any case. Because with a deep emotions, sentiments things may worst in a family that may be temporary. Again members of the family has to accept this and ignore the incident for the better future. But, once the case is registered and goes to the hands of lawyers, family break would be sure. Lawyers would add colors to win the case and make the family re-union impossible. They are not the looser any way and not take any responsibility too.
      I am not counseling here and this may not be the right platform too. Hoping for all good, I think if a discussion happens within the top people from both the families and or with a family counsellor things may get settled in your case. Both husband and wife have to have intentions of not to break the relations. EGO should not exist at all. If possible please approach a good family counselling. Good Luck.

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      • 54 suffering women October 24, 2013 at 2:23 pm

        Now a days my husband is a classic plus member in bharat matrimoni. For giving some seminar I need to come to my institute after that I want to take withdrawal. In between that they used to send me letter including lawyer letter that I did not fulfill marital duties. After that I am trying meet with husband house. But then they lock the door from outside. Then I meet with him in the hospital where he works. He behaves nice in the hospital. On the way 2 our in-laws house he avoid me in a cunning way. When I have nothing with me except my mobile phone. Then I am really puzzled what to do. Then I meet with grand mother in law( My mother in law, father in law and my husband did not stay with grand mother in law). She suggested me that go to my husband house without informing them. I do like that. Then they bit me and driven me out by neck. Even they took my all jewelries and necessary certificates. Is it desirable from any educated in laws family. Who staying in a metropolitan city. What you do if this thing happen with your sister/ your daughter? That is why I think that no women file 498 case without any reason. After we have our life. Age is also matter. Why should we break any relationship? We have to live in our society. What police do after 8 months they collect my necessary certificates and some of my jeweler. Thanks to our law at-least they collect my necessary certificates from my in-laws member.

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      • 55 AamAdmi October 25, 2013 at 4:45 am

        Looks like the relationship is going clumsy. But still with a good mediator these may be settled. Your -in-laws have taken it as a war and filing 498a as a threat to the dignity. I have seen in many misuse of 498a that it will be used to threat the boy side. Some boys will surrender and some will take it as challenge. Out of this very few people try to go through legally and most people take it as a war and start filing many fake cases to threat the girl side. But this is reality and trick of the lawyers to make win their clients. They are the beneficiaries. After a some time where the cases reach to a stage that both the parties would fed up and come to some terms and separate.
        I know, one family where the girl filed fake 498a to threat the boy and filed couple more cases to harass the boy. The Boy also worked with lawyer and filed equal number of fake cases as a challenge. They are going to the court once in a while and nothing is finalized. The boy or girl in emotion, dignity etc rush to this field and win nothing.
        In your case, if they are forcing you to withdraw, you may go with top people from your family and discuss on the future plans. The relationship gap will get widen the more time you are he spend time with lawyers. The ego hurt will kill family life.

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  16. 56 suffering women October 25, 2013 at 5:39 am

    I try all the things before filing 498 case. Even I have no idea about 498 and all. I am not a law student. Even my in-laws(except my husband, father-in-law ans mother-in-law) member also tried to settle up all the matters. Actually my husband is a mental patient (not mad). After marriage my husband told me about his treatment. I see in my village there are so many wife staying with their mad husband(now a days because of science everything is possible, I don’t want to break the relationship). I need to do compromise. There are so many things which we tolerate in our husband house. I know that you boys can not understand girls problems and all. Basically our parent taught us like that. I don’t think no girl don’t want file 498 case. After biting me my father-in-law told me that he is going to police station. Then eye-witness member suggest me that ” they bits you and he goes to police station”. We see everything we will help you. you go to police station. Even I have no idea about nearby police station. Some rikshaw wala took me and help me to reach at police station.

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    • 57 AamAdmi October 25, 2013 at 6:39 am

      Sorry about the tension you have gone through. As my feeling is towards the happy family, I try to wish the members to be united. From that perspective a slap or similar thing between husband and wife should not be justified as a torture as this may be in emotion. But that should not get repeated. A good culture family will try to avoid these situations.
      When the 498a case goes to the evidence stage, you or police need to have the witnesses proof ready. Don’t know how long these may take depending on the place you have filed. As the lawyers are very clever in making clients filing more cases the boy side may plan fake cases against you and your family to make you weak. You also may end up to file couple more cases to make yourself strong. Through out these period you have to be careful as they also may be building some records to show your weakness…. Uhhhhh.
      You believe that no girls file fake 498a, but I have seen such cases. Just like you said mental problems with your hubby many similar problem girls are there, her Parents are there who filed these kind of fake cases. May be yours is genuine. The time delay in executing your case would also be because of execution time by the fake cases. As I said earlier that is one of the concern of 498a.
      I think either you or he’ll file divorce. How soon depends on the lawyers. If your husband has decided not to continue with you, he may file few cases irrespective of you withdraw the 498a.
      – 498a breaks relations.
      – All 498a s will not give justification to girls depending on the intelligence of the opposition lawyers.
      – Any more such new rules also will not protect any innocents. Only people who understand and follow our culture only will have a good life.
      Another fact is 498a is introduced in Hindu Marriage Act rule. Why they don’t see after marriage harassment in any other religion?
      – Is there a boy ready to marry a 498a filed girl? Or is there a girl ready to marry a divorced guy? Or there family era is over? Even at all if they marry again can they dream of a good family? What would be the impact on the emotions of the kid if they had. Like this many questions arise.
      Sorry Madam, you are telling you are not much aware of laws. Now things are in the lawyers hand. I am not able to write anything further. I pray God for your good future.

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      • 58 suffering women October 25, 2013 at 7:31 am

        emotional torture ????no girl don’t want to file 498 case for emotional torture only.

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      • 59 AamAdmi October 25, 2013 at 8:53 am

        You want to use the 498a is up to you. I wish you success in your future.
        But “any girl” as you mentioned is not acceptable. All boys are not bad and all girls are not good. Hope you agree this. That is the reason rules should not be gender based.
        Here is a special case I have seen in the family court. just sharing with the community.
        I have seen a lawyer in the court premises offering a lady to become a client. He was proposing her that if she take transfer from another lawyer he’ll make her receive more money from the boy side than what she may get from the current lawyer from the case. In fact she was not aware of the cases she filed and her father started discussion with that lawyer. They had already filed 498a and maintenance and the father was under assumption that no more case exist to file on the boy. But the lawyer was confident of more cases to black-male the boy side further.
        – Now do we want to call the girl as innocent? Can’t she take decision on her family here?
        – Father is a villain? or Lawyer or both?
        So, there are variety of cases. Making the rule gender based is not a solution. Still if it has to be gender based one need to make sure of no misuse of the same.

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      • 60 suffering women October 25, 2013 at 12:01 pm

        But I am unable to understand why should we misuse the law? After all we have our life. We want a family. We want a life partner. I don’t think that every boy are bad. Our tradition is already gender base. We girl always used to make surrender in front of in-laws family. Because they are senior. Because we think that relationship is more important than all.

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      • 61 AamAdmi October 28, 2013 at 10:55 am

        I am surprised from your question. Every day we hear news about husbands are suiciding because of misuse of this 498 by wives. Wife is filing 498 on husband to meet her or her parents demands. They think that husband and his side will get panic, nervous because of the court/jail and give whatever money they expected from the husband. They also think that they can live happily with this blackmail money by taking divorce from the husband. Their calculation may be wrong –
        – if husband faces/challenges the case in the court. They’ll end up with getting divorce with a little money which will not exist for long run. Their family life if gone. Kids loose one of the parent.

        Please go through the previous discussions in this page, and also on the ipc498a webpage for more details on the misuse of 498a.

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      • 62 suffering women October 30, 2013 at 8:14 am

        That mean you want to say that boy and boys family are always in truth. They always tell the truth in the court. and every boys are very innocent. I read whole story posted here. My husband family also used say that I have bf and all. Is any of the statement posted by them is correct? We girl also think that boys family used do business. They took money from one girl family. Then they just want to change the girl because they want money and jeweler from other girl family.

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      • 63 AamAdmi October 30, 2013 at 11:40 am

        No Madam, please understand all the comments above. I mentioned already that all boys are not bad and all girls are not good. So the 498a should not be be gender based. That’s all. 498a is getting miss used under the clutches of BAD girls. I appreciate if GOOD girls are using this against BAD husbands.
        Please go through the questions arising in using 498a. I have listed questions already above in my previous comments. Highlighting one of the question again here, why this 498a is in Hindu Marriage Act only?

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      • 64 suffering women October 30, 2013 at 1:16 pm

        Although I am neither a law student nor my parent. I think Hindu population is more in India. That why if most of the population stop torture to their new member. Then other people may stop.

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      • 65 AamAdmi October 29, 2013 at 8:05 am

        Replying to “suffering women” comments….
        Here are few info on mis-use of 498a. Google search may give you more info….
        http://victimof498a.tripod.com/
        http://creative.sulekha.com/what-is-98-misuse-in-498a-means_189145_blog
        http://www.498a.org.in/rsrcs_RTI_st.html
        http://indianhusbands.blogspot.in/

        Wife or her side any relative will have some demands from the husband. To meet that they are filing this 498a and start blackmailing. They think, once the demands are met, they can join the husband back closing the 498a. This is not possible because the belief is gone. After filing 498a, the family is broken.
        Many questions arise regarding the miss use of 498a. Very first question would be, why this 498a rule exist only in Hindu Marriage Act? Why Hindu Marriages need to get broken? Why this dividing?

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      • 66 suffering women January 27, 2014 at 6:13 am

        I already check your link…..This is a link only……

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  17. 67 one another abuse suffering woman November 11, 2013 at 8:39 am

    No women don’t want to do such kind of thing unnecessarily. when she is not able to tolerate torture from their in-laws house. Then only they goes to court. Every women want peaceful life not a violent life.

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    • 68 AamAdmi November 11, 2013 at 10:35 am

      Some women are like what you told and some other are not like that. Thatz it.

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      • 69 suffering women November 20, 2013 at 3:26 pm

        Here we live in the society where we get our life partner from website. But not able to get servant from website. So servant get more value than any daughter-in-law.

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      • 70 one another abuse suffering woman November 21, 2013 at 7:35 am

        yes, that is the problem, my case is that they got me thru website matrimony and seeing a central govt servant on officer scale, WANTED A DAUGHTER AND NOT DAUGHTER IN LAW, AND LATER THEY CALLED ME SERVANT OF THE HOUSE AND TORTURED ME BADLY.

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      • 71 suffering women November 21, 2013 at 7:43 am

        same problem happen with me. I just want to say every one don’t believe in matrimonial website. It is better to have bachelor life than a life partner through matrimonial website.

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      • 72 one another abuse suffering woman November 21, 2013 at 8:28 am

        YES , MATRIMONIAL SITES PROVE TO BE A BANE, A CURSE AND A FATAL ATTRACTION TO RUIN LIVES.THE MORE WE USE TECHNOLOGY THE MORE DISASTER WE SUFFER. OLD TIMES MARRIAGES WERE THE BEST.THERE IS NO LAW FOR WORKING WOMEN IN INDIA I THINK. ALL LAWS ARE ONLY BENEFITTING HOUSEWIFES IF THEY SUFFER DOMESTIC VOILENCE.

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      • 73 raj kulkarni November 28, 2013 at 11:59 am

        Human mind has 65000 thaughts in a day and women are not different from men when it come to a thought.

        It depends on a human being, how he/she regulate her thaught.

        Looking at the percentage of false cases, it turns out to be a Legal terror.

        Law has no right to destroy life of 1000 innocent poeple which also includes children to save one women who may or may not be innocent.

        A simple solution could be.. a “Legal meeting and an agreement of Judicial saparation”

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  18. 74 suffering women November 29, 2013 at 6:56 am

    Although women are not different from thought. On the plea of marriage men rape the girl and then they want some new girl. If you people want separation, Then it is better don’t touch that girl whom you don’t want to stay permanently.

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  20. 77 Jean Luc Picard June 24, 2014 at 6:19 am

    I believe India considers Men and Women as equals in every manner with neither getting any ‘special’ privileges. So laws should be made fair to both.

    If a man harasses/tortures his wife, the law should act accordingly whilst if a women files a false case, there should be a provision in the law to curb that as well. This would ensure nobody uses the laws to extract unfair privileges.

    Finally, please do not blindly trust whatever you read/see in the Internet. Though the internet has become an integral part of our daily lives, its also the most common and easiest method to deceive people. One should be careful when using sites such as matrimony sites. Most of the profiles are from people who cannot genuinely get married due to some issues. One should be carefully when considering such people for marriage.

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  22. 80 Blog author August 3, 2014 at 8:05 am

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  23. 81 mastan shaik August 8, 2014 at 6:34 pm

    I agree that there is dowry harassment for women in India, but are these sisters / mothers really using 498A ???? Even if Mr Xxxxxxx is harassing for dowry how in the world is that Mr Yyyyyy has to see hell in the name of 498A, simple example if there was a murder / crime and police or lawmakers were not able to catch the criminal / culprit and they project some innocent person satisfying the ego’s of failed officers or law makers. where is Article 14 ? If you cannot save women who has given right to torture innocent men or their families. I saw comments supporting women good, but there are thousands of men committing suicides due to false 498A how is that right and if you don’t have the stats and closed your eyes like men have done against women in 80’s what is the difference between them and you. ????

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    • 82 AamAdmi August 11, 2014 at 5:50 am

      Because of many misuses of the law by ego people (girl side and her lawyer) now the 498 is been updated. Because of these ego people, many innocent girls will suffer now
      .

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      • 83 womansuffering September 7, 2014 at 4:01 pm

        yes I agree with u.. But I personally think that 498/498a did not help who really need help. This is for powerful people(girls powerful parents and boys powerful parents).

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      • 84 AamAdmi September 8, 2014 at 7:21 am

        “there will be selfishness even in friendship”. So, lawyer will tempt a customer to file case. The 498/DV are all opportunity for them to make money from clients !!!. Girl will be very sure that she’ll win if she file these cases. But the lawyers from both side are friends anyway. They’ll make sure more cases will get filed later and clients will be available there after. They’ll convince that 498 is stronger, on the other side they’ll convince the opposite side that even stronger cases can be filed on girl so that she has to surrender. Thatz it. Family is BROKEN.
        If no hassle is required both side should not go to the lawyers. They may go to trusted family counsellers. No body is safe now after reading the news on Love Jihadi. We don’t know where the divorcee’s future will land on !! They also became a soft target now.

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      • 86 AamAdmi September 9, 2014 at 8:56 am

        Read the link. The in-laws are not human being at all. The blood boils to read the story. But some other non-human beings mis-used the 498a and made it weak now. Strong 498a is required in the former case. The lady in the story is weakened in the law now because of the crooked lady outside the story mis-using the law. Lady is the villain for another lady.

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  24. 87 womansuffering September 11, 2014 at 6:50 pm

    before going to the court only girl suffer but after going to the court girl as well as boy suffer. girls are always suffer

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  25. 89 Vincnet December 28, 2014 at 4:17 pm

    The 498a and DV Act are misused by most of the women. Why? They are not alone. They always get backing of some NGOs working for women empowerment. These NGOs instigate these women and ask them to file false cases and screw more and more money out of the in laws. The Christian NGOs are quite aggressive in these tactics. The activities of the Christian NGOs working for women should be investigated by the Govt. They also have wide network the world over and get huge donations which is used for conversions, too. I am a Christian, but I do not trust them. They have spoiled image of India abroad by submitting biased proposals to funding agencies. Indian families are really in danger because of false DV and 498a cases.

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